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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->> I have read about this concept, in a book called "On Becomming Babywise" > by >> Gary Ezzo – Excellent book, a MUST READ for all parents of newborns to >> pretoddlers. >> Melissa Forsyth >Have you been following the Ezzo thread here at all?? That book, and >its accompanying theory, should have been put to ha quick death long >ago. > Phan– mom to Keith (4) and Jack (4 weeks) > No I haven’t, I just joined this newsgroup, why, what’s the scoop? I love > the book & it works for me. > Melissa
The church where Ezzo first began touting his "method" no longer supports his theories. Some predominant parenting experts (most notably, Dr. William Sears) have petitioned the AAP to warn parents against these practices. That certainly sends up red-flags for me. The general theory behind the Ezzo books–setting a child on a strict schedule straight away after birth–is misguided, at best, and dangerous, at worst. It goes against human physiology. The result may be a "convenient" child, but at what cost? go to the full scoop on the problems with the Ezzo books (and tapes, and seminars, and…)
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> >> I have read about this concept, in a book called "On Becomming Babywise" > by > >> Gary Ezzo – Excellent book, a MUST READ for all parents of newborns to > >> pretoddlers. > >> Melissa Forsyth > >Have you been following the Ezzo thread here at all?? That book, and > >its accompanying theory, should have been put to ha quick death long > >ago. > > Phan– mom to Keith (4) and Jack (4 weeks) > No I haven’t, I just joined this newsgroup, why, what’s the scoop? I love > the book & it works for me. > Melissa > The church where Ezzo first began touting his "method" no longer > supports his theories. Some predominant parenting experts (most > notably, Dr. William Sears) have petitioned the AAP to warn parents > against these practices. That certainly sends up red-flags for me. The > general theory behind the Ezzo books–setting a child on a strict > schedule straight away after birth–is misguided, at best, and > dangerous, at worst. It goes against human physiology. The result may > be a "convenient" child, but at what cost? go to > the full scoop on the problems with the Ezzo books (and tapes, and > seminars, and…)
Phan
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> The class specified that the children need to see their parents >together and if they don’t see it during the day, they will get into bed >with them at night because that is the only place that they can find them >together. My friend tried this technique and confirmed that after three days >of scheduling time just with his wife while the children played quitely by >themselves, the twins stopped coming into their bed at night. I thought >this was interesting. Any comments? >Germaine >This makes such perfect sense it has to be true! We are always together and >none of our children have ever come to our bed unless they were ill. Maybe >coincidence maybe not. I shall be very interested to see what others have to >say. >Steve Williams
I have read about this concept, in a book called "On Becomming Babywise" by Gary Ezzo – Excellent book, a MUST READ for all parents of newborns to pretoddlers. Melissa Forsyth
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > This guy that I know has twins and these twins would get into bed with he and > his wife in the middle of the night right around the age of three. This > happened for about a year when he and his wife decided to take a parenting > class to help decide wether this was normal or not. In the parenting class, > they were told that every couple needs to take at least twenty min. each day > and designate it as "their" time. The kids are allowed to play by themselves, > but they are specifically told that they are not to interrupt the parent’s > "time". The class specified that the children need to see their parents > together and if they don’t see it during the day, they will get into bed > with them at night because that is the only place that they can find them > together. My friend tried this technique and confirmed that after three days > of scheduling time just with his wife while the children played quitely by > themselves, the twins stopped coming into their bed at night. I thought > this was interesting. Any comments? > Germaine
That sounds like a really good idea to me. I think it’s important that children see their parents together. I know that when I was young (around 10), I always wanted strangers to know that my parents were together. This idea seems to be a good way to reinforce that in a child’s mind. I’ll have to keep it in mind for the future. Chris
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->> The class specified that the children need to see their parents >>together and if they don’t see it during the day, they will get into bed >>with them at night because that is the only place that they can find them >>together. My friend tried this technique and confirmed that after three > days >>of scheduling time just with his wife while the children played quitely by >>themselves, the twins stopped coming into their bed at night. I thought >>this was interesting. Any comments? >>Germaine >This makes such perfect sense it has to be true! We are always together and >none of our children have ever come to our bed unless they were ill. Maybe >coincidence maybe not. I shall be very interested to see what others have > to >say. >Steve Williams > I have read about this concept, in a book called "On Becomming Babywise" by > Gary Ezzo – Excellent book, a MUST READ for all parents of newborns to > pretoddlers. > Melissa Forsyth
Have you been following the Ezzo thread here at all?? That book, and its accompanying theory, should have been put to ha quick death long ago. Phan– mom to Keith (4) and Jack (4 weeks)
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>> I have read about this concept, in a book called "On Becomming Babywise" by > Gary Ezzo – Excellent book, a MUST READ for all parents of newborns to > pretoddlers. > Melissa Forsyth >Have you been following the Ezzo thread here at all?? That book, and >its accompanying theory, should have been put to ha quick death long >ago. > Phan– mom to Keith (4) and Jack (4 weeks)
No I haven’t, I just joined this newsgroup, why, what’s the scoop? I love the book & it works for me. Melissa
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This guy that I know has twins and these twins would get into bed with he and his wife in the middle of the night right around the age of three. This happened for about a year when he and his wife decided to take a parenting class to help decide wether this was normal or not. In the parenting class, they were told that every couple needs to take at least twenty min. each day and designate it as "their" time. The kids are allowed to play by themselves, but they are specifically told that they are not to interrupt the parent’s "time". The class specified that the children need to see their parents together and if they don’t see it during the day, they will get into bed with them at night because that is the only place that they can find them together. My friend tried this technique and confirmed that after three days of scheduling time just with his wife while the children played quitely by themselves, the twins stopped coming into their bed at night. I thought this was interesting. Any comments? Germaine
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writes: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->This guy that I know has twins and these twins would get into bed with he and >his wife in the middle of the night right around the age of three. This >happened for about a year when he and his wife decided to take a parenting >class to help decide wether this was normal or not. In the parenting class, >they were told that every couple needs to take at least twenty min. each day >and designate it as "their" time. The kids are allowed to play by >themselves, >but they are specifically told that they are not to interrupt the parent’s >"time". The class specified that the children need to see their parents >together and if they don’t see it during the day, they will get into bed >with them at night because that is the only place that they can find them >together. My friend tried this technique and confirmed that after three days >of scheduling time just with his wife while the children played quitely by >themselves, the twins stopped coming into their bed at night. I thought >this was interesting. Any comments? >Germaine
This makes such perfect sense it has to be true! We are always together and none of our children have ever come to our bed unless they were ill. Maybe coincidence maybe not. I shall be very interested to see what others have to say. Steve Williams http://members.aol.com/sjw1963
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>Once it became her decision she was pretty calm about it.
I totally agree. When my child doesn’t want to, say, brush her teeth right now, I’ll tell her to "let me know when you’re ready." If they’re not ready in a minute, then I say: "It’s getting late. I’m going to set a timer. In one minute you will have to decide if you want ME to brush your teeth or if you want to do it yourself." If it comes down to me doing it, I do a very thorough job. This logic can apply to things like putting on jammies. – Ron Low Levity is the dearth of gravity. Brevity is the height of clarity. non-commercial e-mail always welcome
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