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And heartbroken, in some cases. Marie
Not to say that fostering isn’t rewarding, – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->important, etc. – but it isn’t the same, and I think people who go into it >when what they really want is another child of their own are likely to be >dissatisfied. >Teresa
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> >temporary situation for children until they are able to return home. Some >parents are suited to provide this kind of care, others are not.
children. How about > a kid who never gets any attention?
But being a foster parent is not the same as parenting your own children. If what you want is another child of your own, providing foster care will probably not be a good fit. Caring for a child (who may have been abused or neglected) and preparing him or her to return home is not the same as raising your own child. Not to say that fostering isn’t rewarding, important, etc. – but it isn’t the same, and I think people who go into it when what they really want is another child of their own are likely to be dissatisfied. Teresa – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text –
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It’s wrong to use older kids as unpaid child care workers. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >I’m friends with MANY moms of more than three, and they all say, without a >single dissenting opinion, that three is the hardest and that after that it >is much easier because the older ones are more independent and help out. >This is coming from moms of between four and twelve children! But your >choice, of course, depends on all of your circumstances combined. >TR > I have three girls ranging from 5yrs, 2 yrs and 9 months. I feel like > I am already stretched to my limit but can’t get the idea of having a > fourth child. I love being pregnant, and believe I am a really good > mom. I am wondering if having a fourth would put to much strain on me > and the girls. Any suggestions? > — > Posted via Talkway – http://www.talkway.com > Exchange ideas on practically anything ™.
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I’ve been following the recent threads about 1+ babies, so my question should be answered already, I just can’t see it…. How can you tell if you’re really ready to have another? My son is nearly 20 months old, and I’m just feeling *so* much like I want to have another child. Then the next day I *so* can’t wait for John Baron to be 7, or 30, or just not a baby any more. I ’spose I’m just wondering if there’s any sort of a barometer to tell how truly ready you are to expand your family? And why doesn’t money grow on trees? Why can’t we all win the lottery? Why do people have to die? Anyone care to answer those for me while you’re at it??? :) Amanda
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I have three girls ranging from 5yrs, 2 yrs and 9 months. I feel like > I am already stretched to my limit but can’t get the idea of having a > fourth child. I love being pregnant, and believe I am a really good > mom. I am wondering if having a fourth would put to much strain on me > and the girls. Any suggestions? > — > Posted via Talkway – http://www.talkway.com > Exchange ideas on practically anything ™.
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>> How ’bout being a foster mom to a kid who doesn’t have any parents? >Elaine, foster children do have parents.
Oh, come on, quit being so petty. You know what I’m saying. > Foster care is meant to be a >temporary situation for children until they are able to return home. Some >parents are suited to provide this kind of care, others are not.
These folks seem to have extra time, and affection for children. How about a kid who never gets any attention?
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> How ’bout being a foster mom to a kid who doesn’t have any parents?
Elaine, foster children do have parents. Foster care is meant to be a temporary situation for children until they are able to return home. Some parents are suited to provide this kind of care, others are not. To the original poster – I have four children. I think four is actually easier than three, because they can kind of "pair up." With three, you more often have two playing together and one left out. Teresa
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I would like to hear from other moms who have 4 or more kids and >what they think. Am I crazy?
I have only 2 kids love, and *I* think you’re crazy (big grin) Best wishes – Gail The ADD / ADHD Gazette http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/ADDGazette
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I’m friends with MANY moms of more than three, and they all say, without a single dissenting opinion, that three is the hardest and that after that it is much easier because the older ones are more independent and help out. This is coming from moms of between four and twelve children! But your choice, of course, depends on all of your circumstances combined. TR
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I have three girls ranging from 5yrs, 2 yrs and 9 months. I feel like > I am already stretched to my limit but can’t get the idea of having a > fourth child. I love being pregnant, and believe I am a really good > mom. I am wondering if having a fourth would put to much strain on me > and the girls. Any suggestions? > — > Posted via Talkway – http://www.talkway.com > Exchange ideas on practically anything ™.
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How ’bout being a foster mom to a kid who doesn’t have any parents? – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >I have three girls ranging from 5yrs, 2 yrs and 9 months. I feel like >I am already stretched to my limit but can’t get the idea of having a >fourth child. I love being pregnant, and believe I am a really good >mom. I am wondering if having a fourth would put to much strain on me >and the girls. Any suggestions? >– >Posted via Talkway – http://www.talkway.com >Exchange ideas on practically anything ™.
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I have three girls ranging from 5yrs, 2 yrs and 9 months. I feel like I am already stretched to my limit but can’t get the idea of having a fourth child. I love being pregnant, and believe I am a really good mom. I am wondering if having a fourth would put to much strain on me and the girls. Any suggestions? — Posted via Talkway – http://www.talkway.com Exchange ideas on practically anything ™.
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I have three beautiful daughters ranging from 5yrs, 2 yrs and 9 months. I am already busier than I ever thought I would be and loving it, but am still wondering about having a fourth. I loved being pregnant and still feel that urge to have another child. But am wondering if I would be stretching myself to thin with four kids. How difficult would it be. I had no problem going from one to two kids, but had a bit of a harder time from 2 to 3, but I think it was because of a 16 month age span. I would like to hear from other moms who have 4 or more kids and what they think. Am I crazy? — Posted via Talkway – http://www.talkway.com Exchange ideas on practically anything ™.
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>I have three beautiful daughters ranging from 5yrs, 2 yrs and 9 months. > I am already busier than I ever thought I would be and loving it, but >am still wondering about having a fourth. I loved being pregnant and >still feel that urge to have another child. But am wondering if I >would be stretching myself to thin with four kids. How difficult would >it be. I had no problem going from one to two kids, but had a bit of a >harder time from 2 to 3, but I think it was because of a 16 month age >span. I would like to hear from other moms who have 4 or more kids and >what they think. Am I crazy? >– >Posted via Talkway – http://www.talkway.com >Exchange ideas on practically anything ™.
Hi Leanne, I only have 2 boys, but I’d say go for it. If you want to have another child, why not? You’re not crazy. I wish I would have had another one myself. My mom had 8, and even though things were tight at times, we always had fun and more than enough love. You’re not going to spread yourself too thin with 4 children. My mom used to say she spread the love around thick. Sounds to me like you have enough love to go around…and if you’re conscious of it now, you probably won’t have a problem if you do decide to have another one. I’m a product of a big family…hopefully you can understand why I replied. I’m all for big families…just wish I hadn’t stopped after two. Take care, Judy
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Hi Leanne. I am currently expecting my 4th (my husband’s 5th) but ours are all boys. When this baby is born, our sons will be 9, 8, 8, 20 mos. We had decided that this one would be our last. As the pregnancy progresses, my husband has mentioned "our next baby". I don’t know if it’s because he has his heart set on a daughter and the u/s tech said that this is another boy. There are times that I feel "worn thin" but I think it’s because there is such a big age gap between my 2nd and 3rd. While I’m shuttling the older boys to baseball and football practice, I’m still lugging a stroller and chasing a toddler. But, I can honestly say that I wouldn’t have it any different.
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I have three girls ranging from 5yrs, 2 yrs and 9 months. I feel like > I am already stretched to my limit but can’t get the idea of having a > fourth child. I love being pregnant, and believe I am a really good > mom. I am wondering if having a fourth would put to much strain on me > and the girls. Any suggestions? > — > Posted via Talkway – http://www.talkway.com > Exchange ideas on practically anything ™.
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