Pure Parents

Question:

- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->>>My 14-year-old daughter lives with her mother and her mother’s >>>boyfriend. The mother and the boyfriend are habitual alcohol users. > It >>>has come to my attention that my daughter was recently required by > her >>>mother to ride in a vehicle, driven by the boyfriend, while the >>>boyfriend and mother were drunk. >>>I am attempting to determine if I have any legal recourse to help > ensure >>>my daughter’s safety. I previously extracted a promise from the >>>boyfriend that he would not drive with my daughter in the car, but > he >>>has apparently changed his mind about that. >>>Any suggestions or advice would be appreciated. >>>–Steve > Why don’t you have custody of your daughter?  It is obvious from your > post that you are the more responsible parent.  As the daughter of an > alcoholic father who rode many times with a dad who was drunk (and > felt totally powerless, unable to NOT ride with him), I can tell you > that your daughter needs an adult in her life who will keep her safe. > If that is not her mother, I hope it will be you. > Jennifer, Katelyn’s mom

Steve, I agree with Jennifer. At 14,  your daughter is probably old enough to request a change in custodial situation. That may be dfficult for her to do (choosing between parents and all that), but if she is genuinely uncomfortable with the situation as it stands, she will probably do so. BTW, I think you should be able to get custody because her mother is shacking up, not just because she’s a heavy drinker. She is teaching your daughter that commitment and marriage are meaningless and that sex out of wedlock is fine. If you don’t get your daughter out of there, you may end up being a granddad sooner than you expected. Barbara (Julian’s mom)

Response:

>I am attempting to determine if I have any legal recourse to help ensure >my daughter’s safety. I previously extracted a promise from the >boyfriend that he would not drive with my daughter in the car, but he >has apparently changed his mind about that.

I really doubt it. My in-laws are druggies and pot-heads from hell, and I’ve reported it to the cops MANY times and they just ignore me and say that what they do in their home is none of my business. It’s even got to the point that my Father-in-law sold his girlfriend’s daughter to a drug dealer, but they haven’t even prosecuted him for that. They eventually got him for heroin dealing, but not for any type of child endangerment charges. So good luck, I would just try to get custody. Z