Question:
>Geez, you asked for opinion, and then you get huffy because I can’t read >your mind, didn’t make assumptions, and maybe asked a few unhandy >questions.
Perhaps Kim is a troll. She seems to respond to only *negative* input. I thought your comments were great, MG! Patti
Response:
> I hear you say a lot of "I want" and "I planned". I don’t hear anything > about a husband,
I say "I planned" because I *did*…before I met my husband. Don’t all of us have ideas of the size of family we want before we get married? Obviously, my husband agreed with my plans. He came from a large family too and while men don’t sit around in high school – generally – discussing what they plan to name their future children; in the back of his mind he was thinking of the same thing. >and I don’t hear you say that your family’s well >being > is paramount to you, and more important than any personal choice.
Hmmm…you also don’t hear me say a LOT of things which are obvious and/or implyed. Were you expecting an essay about how I feel about each of my children and their well-being and all the ways that I make sure that everyone’s needs are met, etc. etc.? As for "personal choice" my family is *about* personal choice. I mean, think about it…you decide to get married, you decide to have children, you decide on the number…clearly things happen that may change or interfere with your plans…(infertility being something with which I have had extensive personal experience, among other things) but for the most part: it *starts* out with personal choice….or it SHOULD. I think the most parenting errors occur when people feel that their children were *not* created as a result of personal choice (i.e.: feeling resentful, trapped, etc.) Kim * Origin: Internet Newsgroup – alt.parenting.solutions —
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