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| | >express yourself… | | Uhm, which parents? | | It is certainly possible to fail to set appropriate limits on a child’s | behavior, but talking in general terms about "kids these days" or "parents | nowadays" doesn’t serve much purpose. Sure it does. It allows people to complain about what a lousy job "other" people are doing raising their children. This apparently is a deep need for some people. I’ll agree that it serves no practical purpose, though. The question itself is interesting… it implies that the most important job of parenting is to prevent children from doing things, that bad behavior will disappear if the parents just become strict enough. I don’t agree… but the question, and the answers, speak volumes about how deeply ingrained that assumption is. – Cindy Kandolf, mamma to Kenneth (3 years) Bilingual Families Web Page: http://www.nethelp.no/cindy/biling-fam.html
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>express yourself…
Uhm, which parents? It is certainly possible to fail to set appropriate limits on a child’s behavior, but talking in general terms about "kids these days" or "parents nowadays" doesn’t serve much purpose. – Ron Low Levity is the dearth of gravity. Brevity is the height of clarity.
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>>What do u think of the topic? Please fell free to express
yourself……. Yes!!!! Before I had my baby I managed a women’s clothing store and it is unbelievable. I had women put 9 month old babies down on the floor and proceed to shop on the other side of the store. Then they had the gall to complain when I pried the baby off the earring spinner they were climbing on (VERY unstable).. Then there are the 6,7,8,and 9 year olds who think the store is their playground. Climbing on racks, under racks etc. Where is mom?? On the other side of the store (or in the fitting room) saying don’t do that hon.(then laughs a little). When I was a child (I’m 35 now, if that helps at all) I never strayed more than 5 feet from my parents. If I did I was in BIG trouble. What is going on with today’s parents? I only hope I don’t make those mistakes with my baby.
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> What do u think of the topic? Please fell free to express yourself……. > I think parents today are way to permissive. I am a mother of a 7yr.
old, 5 yr. old and 5 month old. Plus I have 2 stepkids ages 14 and 16. I feel it’s our job as parents to teach, guide and give children the skills and help so they will be productive adults. And our job starts at birth. I have seen many people try to talk to a screaming out of control 2 year old, having children myself I know that this is NOT possible. I think parents today are afraid of their kids. Afraid to discipline for fear it might stunt their emotional growth. If you look around it appears that the children are raising the parents these days. I believe discipline and love go hand in hand, discipline is different with each child at different age levels. What worked with your child when he was 4 might not work when he is 8. I don’t think parents demand the respect from children anymore. I think parents let their children question to many things, which is a stall tactic if you ask me. Kids are not stupid and they try to manipulate you at a very young age. I know with my own children if I tell them no about something, no means no, they might ask again but I stick to no. I make them responsible for their actions too. I have seen to many parents make excuses for their child’s behavior, what is this teaching them? That nothing is their fault! And I have seen this happen with poor grades, smart attitudes, mouthy come backs, inappropriate behavior, etc…. I am 29 years old, when I was growing up we were disciplined (yes spanked too!) In the mid 80’s the great wave was "Talking" to your children, and only talking. Has anyone looked around now at the teenagers? They have no respect for authority, no morals, they think the world owes them something. These kids have a lot to learn in the real world. It’s a shame but you reap what you sow. You have to teach and train a child for being an adult. I think you really let your kids down when you don’t give them the tools to be healthy adults. Shawn
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