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I just got back from a talk with my 9 year old daughter’s teacher and I am very upset. For the last two years we’ve had problems with "Sally" and school. Starting in third grade we were called it because she had trouble finishing in-school work, behaving inappropriately in class and not getting along with the other children. She, otherwise, is ahead of her grade level as a reader and when she focuses on math has no problems. While we knew she had problems we were concerned that the public school she went to was more concerned that the children score well on a series of tests that rated the school amongst others in the county so we transferred her to a private school with a good reputation. She was happy because she said she hated her old school and wanted to change. So, for the last half of the last school year things seemed to get much better. She liked her new teacher. Our struggles over school work almost went away and everything was positive. This year everything seems to have fallen apart. She has no friends among her classmates. She acts inapproptiately in class asking questions or making comments that have no relation to the immediate subject. She acts impulsively without any regard to what is appropriate at the moment. According to the teacher (who is very concerned) about 80% of the time she is tuned out of the class and has to constantly be reminded to pay attention and do her work. She speaks loudly and in an agressive manner and doesn’t seem to connect when other people talk to her. She is not violent or mean but seems to have no social skills and no way to internalize her behavior in regards to others. And she is sensitive to the mean things other children say to her and is often hurt. If any one has had a child go through this I would appreciate any suggestions.
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>I just got back from a talk with my 9 year old daughter’s teacher and I >am very upset.
The symptoms you describe sound just like what I went through with my daughter. She was seven at the time, and was eventually diagnosed as ADHD. She now takes Ritilen, and I have taken a parenting course in "parenting the challenging child". She has shown vast improvement on all levels. It’s scary to have her named with a specific problem, but on the brighter side, once you know what it is, you can get on with helping her. jac
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I bet these things have been discussed before, but there is a specific problem a friend is having with her cat. He plays with her hair, whenever he can. If she is sitting on the couch, he walks on the back and plays with it if it is up or down. He has not been allowed to sleep in her room anymore since he plays with it all night on the pillow… Is there something to stop this specific behavior, or has someone found some trick that works? How about a toy, like a my little pony or something with long hair? Thanks from Hennie via Kelly
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> I bet these things have been discussed before, but there is a specific > problem a friend is having with her cat. > He plays with her hair, whenever he can. If she is sitting on the couch, he > walks on the back and plays with it if it is up or down. He has not been > allowed to sleep in her room anymore since he plays with it all night on the > pillow… > Is there something to stop this specific behavior, or has someone found some > trick that works? How about a toy, like a my little pony or something with > long hair? > Thanks from Hennie via Kelly
Once in a while, Jacob lies on my pillow, burrows all four paws into my hair, grabs a chunk with his teeth, and then scrabbles wildly with all four paws until he makes a big snarly mess. I have NO idea why he does it or any suggestions as to what to do about it, but aside from the snarls, I think it’s kinda funny. 
Laura — One man’s mundane and boring existence is another man’s Technicolor. -Tick, Strange Days
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Xena used to do it when she was still a kitten. Like some other ‘funnies’ of hers, she grew out of it. Regretfully…. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I bet these things have been discussed before, but there is a specific > problem a friend is having with her cat. > He plays with her hair, whenever he can. If she is sitting on the couch, he > walks on the back and plays with it if it is up or down. He has not been > allowed to sleep in her room anymore since he plays with it all night on the > pillow… > Is there something to stop this specific behavior, or has someone found some > trick that works? How about a toy, like a my little pony or something with > long hair? > Thanks from Hennie via Kelly > Once in a while, Jacob lies on my pillow, burrows all four paws into > my hair, grabs a chunk with his teeth, and then scrabbles wildly with > all four paws until he makes a big snarly mess. > I have NO idea why he does it or any suggestions as to what to do > about it, but aside from the snarls, I think it’s kinda funny. > Laura > — > One man’s mundane and boring existence is another man’s Technicolor. > -Tick, Strange Days
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Artificial hair like on a toy can be fatal to a cat. Please do not go that route. The cat may be attracted to her particular shampoo. I would suggest changing brands and do not use an herbal scent. That is just asking for trouble. (Try an orange scent, that would tend to repel the culprit). If that doesn’t work, have your friend give a loud cat-cry of pain whenever he does it, and that will tell the kitty it hurts and to stop. Like in any behavioral retraining, consistency is of the highest importance. If she allows him in bed with her and as soon as he goes after the hair, give a pain cry and then put him out of the room. Do it every night, if necessary. Sooner or later he will realize that he may be in the room until he misbehaves. Cats seldom really try to cause pain to us, they are usually just playing. Jacque
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I bet these things have been discussed before, but there is a specific > problem a friend is having with her cat. > He plays with her hair, whenever he can. If she is sitting on the couch, he > walks on the back and plays with it if it is up or down. He has not been > allowed to sleep in her room anymore since he plays with it all night on the > pillow… > Is there something to stop this specific behavior, or has someone found some > trick that works? How about a toy, like a my little pony or something with > long hair? > Thanks from Hennie via Kelly
Response:
I bet these things have been discussed before, but there is a specific problem a friend is having with her cat. He plays with her hair, whenever he can. If she is sitting on the couch, he walks on the back and plays with it if it is up or down. He has not been allowed to sleep in her room anymore since he plays with it all night on the pillow… Is there something to stop this specific behavior, or has someone found some trick that works? How about a toy, like a my little pony or something with long hair? Thanks from Hennie via Kelly
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> I bet these things have been discussed before, but there is a specific > problem a friend is having with her cat. > He plays with her hair, whenever he can. If she is sitting on the couch, he > walks on the back and plays with it if it is up or down. He has not been > allowed to sleep in her room anymore since he plays with it all night on the > pillow… > Is there something to stop this specific behavior, or has someone found some > trick that works? How about a toy, like a my little pony or something with > long hair? > Thanks from Hennie via Kelly
Once in a while, Jacob lies on my pillow, burrows all four paws into my hair, grabs a chunk with his teeth, and then scrabbles wildly with all four paws until he makes a big snarly mess. I have NO idea why he does it or any suggestions as to what to do about it, but aside from the snarls, I think it’s kinda funny. Laura — One man’s mundane and boring existence is another man’s Technicolor. -Tick, Strange Days
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Xena used to do it when she was still a kitten. Like some other ‘funnies’ of hers, she grew out of it. Regretfully…. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I bet these things have been discussed before, but there is a specific > problem a friend is having with her cat. > He plays with her hair, whenever he can. If she is sitting on the couch, he > walks on the back and plays with it if it is up or down. He has not been > allowed to sleep in her room anymore since he plays with it all night on the > pillow… > Is there something to stop this specific behavior, or has someone found some > trick that works? How about a toy, like a my little pony or something with > long hair? > Thanks from Hennie via Kelly > Once in a while, Jacob lies on my pillow, burrows all four paws into > my hair, grabs a chunk with his teeth, and then scrabbles wildly with > all four paws until he makes a big snarly mess. > I have NO idea why he does it or any suggestions as to what to do > about it, but aside from the snarls, I think it’s kinda funny. > Laura > — > One man’s mundane and boring existence is another man’s Technicolor. > -Tick, Strange Days
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Artificial hair like on a toy can be fatal to a cat. Please do not go that route. The cat may be attracted to her particular shampoo. I would suggest changing brands and do not use an herbal scent. That is just asking for trouble. (Try an orange scent, that would tend to repel the culprit). If that doesn’t work, have your friend give a loud cat-cry of pain whenever he does it, and that will tell the kitty it hurts and to stop. Like in any behavioral retraining, consistency is of the highest importance. If she allows him in bed with her and as soon as he goes after the hair, give a pain cry and then put him out of the room. Do it every night, if necessary. Sooner or later he will realize that he may be in the room until he misbehaves. Cats seldom really try to cause pain to us, they are usually just playing. Jacque
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I bet these things have been discussed before, but there is a specific > problem a friend is having with her cat. > He plays with her hair, whenever he can. If she is sitting on the couch, he > walks on the back and plays with it if it is up or down. He has not been > allowed to sleep in her room anymore since he plays with it all night on the > pillow… > Is there something to stop this specific behavior, or has someone found some > trick that works? How about a toy, like a my little pony or something with > long hair? > Thanks from Hennie via Kelly
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