Question:
Out of curiosity, are there any single parents out there where the other parent is out of the picture (i.e., not really involved with the child/ren). I’d like to get some ideas on how to cope. My son will be 10 and I feel bad that maybe in some way I’m screwing him up. I hit the black hole in March when I emptied all my bank accounts, bounced 3 checks, and couldn’t afford to pay the bills even tho’ I make good money. I lost it and spent the day crying in my bed. Unfortunately, he witnessed this and I know he was scared. I feel awful about that. Of course he feels the effects of my instability, sometimes I ride him too hard and I’m too rough on him, sometimes it’s an effort just to relate to him (but I do my best). It doesn’t help matters any that he’s ADHD either, but the ritalin is a god-send in most ways. We have less conflicts because he can focus better. What a situation huh? A bp mother and an ADHD boy. I love him dearly. I want the best for him but it’s so difficult to manage life. Any coping strategies out there? Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.
Response:
Hi Purchgdss, Just make sure you reassure your son that none of this is his fault, as children have a tendency to blame themselves for this sort of situation.
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