Pure Parents

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> O.K, I don’t know what to add, it’s hopeless.

Do you actually  mean by that that you thought to tell me something I didn’t know or hadn’t thought of?? With a person my age and intelligence that would be quite a tall order. > All you see is that people > like me (only 60% of the population, according to you),

60% of humans on the planet. > are repressed, have > problems with sexuality and think like we do because we were brainwashed or > subdued.

Yes indeed. I have seen it very closely in people who have finally let me in and I smelled the stink of it, heard about where it came from in tearful sobs, and saw it disappear. I have NEVER seen the REVERSE happen EVER!!! People become freer with time, not more bound. People lose inhibitions with time, they do not GAIN MORE of them and become more afraid. > So our opinions are not valid… You, on the other hand, have the > key to the kingdom of knowledge and good sense. Live happy in your ivory > tower… > Nadyne

"Ivory tower", my how you people go out of your own way to deceive yourselves. You now wish to pretend that my view is some unrealistic otherworldly proposition, the better to dismiss me, but in doing so you would be missing the point. This revelation HAS worked in people’s lives and has changed people more dramatically than any other change in people I have seen or ever heard of in my entire life and a large number of other people’s lives! Nothing else is as amazing or as pleasing so deeply to people, not religious conversion, not accomplishment, not success or wealth, in fact those things leave people somewhat as a loss to explain why they aren’t as pleasing as advertised, and they go off searching again. You would do well for yourself to try to understand this part of your fantasies and daydreams. We were meant to LIVE our fantasies, not merely to have them haunt us at the corners of our vision all day and night, unfulfilled. You simply do not yet realize how abnormal it is for our species NOT to live as we dream of living in our fantasy moments, our secret longings, our waking dreams. Till we do we are only shadows of our destiny. Steve

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->Looks like Ben Malone’s posting host. Well, whatever. >We simply fucked while our kids were breastfeeding, and weren’t worried >about it. Since we breastfed till ours were two, this left us fucking >with them sleeping next to us and watching, and we never figured out >when to stop and lock them out. It would have just been too weird and >cruel. They never thought it was unusual, it was as normal to them as >eating breakfast since they had seen it every day since birth. >We had MORE trouble later explaining to them that other people didn’t DO >that!! At age 4 our son was told and he expressed disbelief that anybody >would know how to fuck if they hadn’t seen it done all their life. To >him it looked waaay too complicated to convey with books, and we were >good enough at it that we saw his point, but he actually thought we were >putting him on!! He thought it was another of my jokes, and it took all >that day discussing the "evidence" with him, that he never saw people >fuck outdoors even in the summer, but THAT wasn’t true, he’d seen us and >others fucking at my brother’s farm, so this made it even harder!! > ROTFLMAO!!!!  All your friends and family fucking on the farm.  Is > this a Thanksgiving and Christmas Tradition? That is one picture!  You > don’t make videos of this stuff and sell it do you?

Someplaces they do!! For us it was before cheap video. Steve

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> >If by most you’d be trying to speak for our species, you would be off > >the mark. This is quite common elsewhere than the USA and perhaps most > >of Europe. It’s a remnant of the European enslavement! > >I’m AWARE of what some people think, Nancy, but it’s STUPID!! > >Steve > If 99% of the population think it’s what they are comfortable with (not > having sex in front of the kids) >Try a mere 60% of the human species. > then even if you disagree, you should > respect that. 99% of an entire population can’t be stupid! >Fully 99% of the population are clearly less intelligent than the 1% who >are more intelligent! So why would you pretend this must NOT be so?? > Even in Europe, > they don’t do that! I lived in Germany for four years, have many German > friends, my sister-in-law is Portuguese and I can tell you: it is not common > in Europe either! >It is much MORE common there, but it is not awfully common, I agree. >Europe is the most sexually backward culture other than Islamic culture. >Other third world cultures are much more sexually open, since they >usually live in one room and it is hot at night. > Anyway, it is not because you feel intimate with your kids, that it is OK to > have sex in front of them! I feel intimate with my best friend, should we > have sex in front of her? I feel intimate with my parents, should we have > sex in front of them? I AM intimate with my kids, but not in a sexual way. >To me that statement is an oxymoron! Intimacy is the sharing of feelings >sufficiently that sex would not be out of place in a relationship! > Also, I notice you always say it is normal to do it in front of your > children but how would you feel if your daughter had sex with a man in front > of you? >She has dozens of times. > Don’t say you wouldn’t mind, >Why? I loved watching them. They’re very cute. > because IMO, it would be almost > incestual. >So this is a reason?? I don’t get it at all. Why would them watching us >be more "incestuous" than us watching them?? Sounds equal to me! Nor is >this incest. If that is all incest is then all the castles of the middle >ages where people all slept in the same room in all seasons were equally >so. Separate rooms were not developed till after the 11th century, and >hallways between rooms were not seen till even later in Europe!! >Incest is an inapplicable term now. Humans use birth control nowadays. >The point is reproductive. Outside that consideration incest has not >even occurred! In point of fact the vast majority of incestuous >couplings would not even result in ANY genetic difficulty. It is done >constantly in breeding animals to improve a breed! >Incest was actually just a part of the European nobility’s enforced >slave-monogamy used to keep people dependent on the warlord to sanction >their sex partner, and to prevent interbreeding that would bond tribes >together into powerful groups which might oppose their enslavers. The >incest taboo occured LONG before people KNEW anything about genetics, a >LONG time before Gregor Mendel and his peas. These were social control >measures to subdue the tribes, not "moral" or ethical rules!! > Nadyne >Steve

O.K, I don’t know what to add, it’s hopeless. All you see is that people like me (only 60% of the population, according to you), are repressed, have problems with sexuality and think like we do because we were brainwashed or subdued. So our opinions are not valid… You, on the other hand, have the key to the kingdom of knowledge and good sense. Live happy in your ivory tower… Nadyne

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> > Anyway, it is not because you feel intimate with your kids, that it is OK to > have sex in front of them! I feel intimate with my best friend, should we > have sex in front of her? I feel intimate with my parents, should we have > sex in front of them? I AM intimate with my kids, but not in a sexual way. > Also, I notice you always say it is normal to do it in front of your > children but how would you feel if your daughter had sex with a man in front > of you? Don’t say you wouldn’t mind, because IMO, it would be almost > incestual. > Nadyne > Not only would he probably not mind, he would probably be mad they didn’t ask > him to join in.

I never was. Steve

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> > Anyway, it is not because you feel intimate with your kids, that it is OK > to > have sex in front of them! I feel intimate with my best friend, should we > have sex in front of her? I feel intimate with my parents, should we have > sex in front of them? I AM intimate with my kids, but not in a sexual way. > Also, I notice you always say it is normal to do it in front of your > children but how would you feel if your daughter had sex with a man in > front > of you? Don’t say you wouldn’t mind, because IMO, it would be almost > incestual. > Trust me, he wouldn’t mind. He might even grade their performance.

That would have been unfair. Kids have a right to not be judged that way. Steve

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hello. It seems a lot of people in this newsgroup have a family bed. We > do – we have a bedside cot but DD usually ends up in our bed for at > least half the night. Both my husband and I really enjoy having our > baby with us all night. However, we haven’t had sex since she was born. > At first this was fine but I’m really starting to miss it and, while my > husband has put no pressure on me at all, I’m worried about our > relationship. I’m feel very platonic at the moment and a sense of > intimacty has been lost. > We can’t move her into her room yet, she’s six months, as she’s still > breast feeding five or six times a night and I’ll have a complete > mental and physical collapse if my sleep is any more interrupted by > having to get up and go into another room. > What do other people who co-sleep do about sex? > Sara > XOXOX >Looks like Ben Malone’s posting host. Well, whatever. >We simply fucked while our kids were breastfeeding, and weren’t worried >about it. Since we breastfed till ours were two, this left us fucking >with them sleeping next to us and watching, and we never figured out >when to stop and lock them out. It would have just been too weird and >cruel. They never thought it was unusual, it was as normal to them as >eating breakfast since they had seen it every day since birth. >We had MORE trouble later explaining to them that other people didn’t DO >that!! At age 4 our son was told and he expressed disbelief that anybody >would know how to fuck if they hadn’t seen it done all their life. To >him it looked waaay too complicated to convey with books, and we were >good enough at it that we saw his point, but he actually thought we were >putting him on!! He thought it was another of my jokes, and it took all >that day discussing the "evidence" with him, that he never saw people >fuck outdoors even in the summer, but THAT wasn’t true, he’d seen us and >others fucking at my brother’s farm, so this made it even harder!!

ROTFLMAO!!!!  All your friends and family fucking on the farm.  Is this a Thanksgiving and Christmas Tradition? That is one picture!  You don’t make videos of this stuff and sell it do you? Loev, Big Poopa PUmp – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->We finally sort of "proved" it too him with all the people outside of >our friends and family of our age never being nude indoors or fucking, >and nobody on TV, and especially him not seeing his grandparents >fucking. These are things he had never noticed before with that critical >eye, surprisingly!! >We tried to explain to him why this was true, and over the next few >hours he came to think of himself as a rather lucky duck to have us as >his parents, lest he be deprived of that normalcy for sex. >Steve

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> >If by most you’d be trying to speak for our species, you would be off >the mark. This is quite common elsewhere than the USA and perhaps most >of Europe. It’s a remnant of the European enslavement! >I’m AWARE of what some people think, Nancy, but it’s STUPID!! >Steve > If 99% of the population think it’s what they are comfortable with (not > having sex in front of the kids)

Try a mere 60% of the human species. > then even if you disagree, you should > respect that. 99% of an entire population can’t be stupid!

Fully 99% of the population are clearly less intelligent than the 1% who are more intelligent! So why would you pretend this must NOT be so?? > Even in Europe, > they don’t do that! I lived in Germany for four years, have many German > friends, my sister-in-law is Portuguese and I can tell you: it is not common > in Europe either!

It is much MORE common there, but it is not awfully common, I agree. Europe is the most sexually backward culture other than Islamic culture. Other third world cultures are much more sexually open, since they usually live in one room and it is hot at night. > Anyway, it is not because you feel intimate with your kids, that it is OK to > have sex in front of them! I feel intimate with my best friend, should we > have sex in front of her? I feel intimate with my parents, should we have > sex in front of them? I AM intimate with my kids, but not in a sexual way.

To me that statement is an oxymoron! Intimacy is the sharing of feelings sufficiently that sex would not be out of place in a relationship! > Also, I notice you always say it is normal to do it in front of your > children but how would you feel if your daughter had sex with a man in front > of you?

She has dozens of times. > Don’t say you wouldn’t mind,

Why? I loved watching them. They’re very cute. > because IMO, it would be almost > incestual.

So this is a reason?? I don’t get it at all. Why would them watching us be more "incestuous" than us watching them?? Sounds equal to me! Nor is this incest. If that is all incest is then all the castles of the middle ages where people all slept in the same room in all seasons were equally so. Separate rooms were not developed till after the 11th century, and hallways between rooms were not seen till even later in Europe!! Incest is an inapplicable term now. Humans use birth control nowadays. The point is reproductive. Outside that consideration incest has not even occurred! In point of fact the vast majority of incestuous couplings would not even result in ANY genetic difficulty. It is done constantly in breeding animals to improve a breed! Incest was actually just a part of the European nobility’s enforced slave-monogamy used to keep people dependent on the warlord to sanction their sex partner, and to prevent interbreeding that would bond tribes together into powerful groups which might oppose their enslavers. The incest taboo occured LONG before people KNEW anything about genetics, a LONG time before Gregor Mendel and his peas. These were social control measures to subdue the tribes, not "moral" or ethical rules!! > Nadyne

Steve

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->> > > I just BET Steve will gladly answer that one! As for me, I suggest >> to do >> > > whatever is most comfortable for you and your husband : have sex >> while >> > > trying not to make a sound, do it while she’s asleep for her nap >> somewhere >> > > else (do you have a playpen or a stroller you can put her in for >> her naps?) >> > > or just do it in another room! Experiment and you will find what is >> best for >> > > YOU. >> > > Good luck, >> > > Nadyne >> > We did it noisily while they were awake so that we WOULDN’T wake them >> > up! What I cannot for the life of me understand is why "intimacy" >> would >> > be at all threatened by others you feel intimate with anyway!! >> > Steve >> Maybe because most people don’t think it is appropriate to have sex >> while their children are awake, in the same bed, and watching. >> — >> ~Nancy~ >If by most you’d be trying to speak for our species, you would be off >the mark. This is quite common elsewhere than the USA and perhaps most >of Europe. It’s a remnant of the European enslavement! >I’m AWARE of what some people think, Nancy, but it’s STUPID!! >Steve > If 99% of the population think it’s what they are comfortable with (not > having sex in front of the kids) then even if you disagree, you should > respect that. 99% of an entire population can’t be stupid! Even in Europe, > they don’t do that! I lived in Germany for four years, have many German > friends, my sister-in-law is Portuguese and I can tell you: it is not common > in Europe either! > Anyway, it is not because you feel intimate with your kids, that it is OK to > have sex in front of them! I feel intimate with my best friend, should we > have sex in front of her? I feel intimate with my parents, should we have > sex in front of them? I AM intimate with my kids, but not in a sexual way. > Also, I notice you always say it is normal to do it in front of your > children but how would you feel if your daughter had sex with a man in front > of you? Don’t say you wouldn’t mind, because IMO, it would be almost > incestual. > Nadyne

Not only would he probably not mind, he would probably be mad they didn’t ask him to join in.

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Aw, Glen. One thing I don’t want to see is people being inhibited about what they post because of Steve. Why does he hold such importance for us? Most of us despise him, most of us ignore him. Why does he seem to hold some power over this group? I certainly do not and will not change the way I post or what I post because of some fruitcake. To the OP, I am glad you felt comfortable posting your question here. Please don’t let any looney toons keep you from asking questions. Most of us are not that way. I found that we can hide under blankets well when we want to get together. I saw others suggest using another room, by far the easiest solution. Take care, Deanna

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->respect that. 99% of an entire population can’t be stupid! Even in Europe, >they don’t do that! I lived in Germany for four years, have many German >friends, my sister-in-law is Portuguese and I can tell you: it is not common >in Europe either! > Aw, now you’ve done it! > Steve is now going to go off on a rant about how all of the US > anti-sexual religion has made its way to Europe and is screwing > them up, too. > Come on — didn’t he have *enough* to rant about already? > — > Do not underestimate your abilities.  That is your boss’s job. > It is your job to find ways around your boss’s roadblocks.

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->> > > I just BET Steve will gladly answer that one! As for me, I suggest >> to do >> > > whatever is most comfortable for you and your husband : have sex >> while >> > > trying not to make a sound, do it while she’s asleep for her nap >> somewhere >> > > else (do you have a playpen or a stroller you can put her in for >> her naps?) >> > > or just do it in another room! Experiment and you will find what is >> best for >> > > YOU. >> > > Good luck, >> > > Nadyne >> > We did it noisily while they were awake so that we WOULDN’T wake them >> > up! What I cannot for the life of me understand is why "intimacy" >> would >> > be at all threatened by others you feel intimate with anyway!! >> > Steve >> Maybe because most people don’t think it is appropriate to have sex >> while their children are awake, in the same bed, and watching. >> — >> ~Nancy~ >If by most you’d be trying to speak for our species, you would be off >the mark. This is quite common elsewhere than the USA and perhaps most >of Europe. It’s a remnant of the European enslavement! >I’m AWARE of what some people think, Nancy, but it’s STUPID!! >Steve > If 99% of the population think it’s what they are comfortable with (not > having sex in front of the kids) then even if you disagree, you should > respect that. 99% of an entire population can’t be stupid! Even in Europe, > they don’t do that! I lived in Germany for four years, have many German > friends, my sister-in-law is Portuguese and I can tell you: it is not common > in Europe either! > Anyway, it is not because you feel intimate with your kids, that it is OK to > have sex in front of them! I feel intimate with my best friend, should we > have sex in front of her? I feel intimate with my parents, should we have > sex in front of them? I AM intimate with my kids, but not in a sexual way. > Also, I notice you always say it is normal to do it in front of your > children but how would you feel if your daughter had sex with a man in front > of you? Don’t say you wouldn’t mind, because IMO, it would be almost > incestual.

Trust me, he wouldn’t mind. He might even grade their performance. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Nadyne

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>respect that. 99% of an entire population can’t be stupid! Even in Europe, >they don’t do that! I lived in Germany for four years, have many German >friends, my sister-in-law is Portuguese and I can tell you: it is not common >in Europe either!

Aw, now you’ve done it! Steve is now going to go off on a rant about how all of the US anti-sexual religion has made its way to Europe and is screwing them up, too. Come on — didn’t he have *enough* to rant about already? — Do not underestimate your abilities.  That is your boss’s job. It is your job to find ways around your boss’s roadblocks.

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > > I just BET Steve will gladly answer that one! As for me, I suggest > to do > > > whatever is most comfortable for you and your husband : have sex > while > > > trying not to make a sound, do it while she’s asleep for her nap > somewhere > > > else (do you have a playpen or a stroller you can put her in for > her naps?) > > > or just do it in another room! Experiment and you will find what is > best for > > > YOU. > > > Good luck, > > > Nadyne > > We did it noisily while they were awake so that we WOULDN’T wake them > > up! What I cannot for the life of me understand is why "intimacy" > would > > be at all threatened by others you feel intimate with anyway!! > > Steve > Maybe because most people don’t think it is appropriate to have sex > while their children are awake, in the same bed, and watching. > — > ~Nancy~ >If by most you’d be trying to speak for our species, you would be off >the mark. This is quite common elsewhere than the USA and perhaps most >of Europe. It’s a remnant of the European enslavement! >I’m AWARE of what some people think, Nancy, but it’s STUPID!! >Steve

If 99% of the population think it’s what they are comfortable with (not having sex in front of the kids) then even if you disagree, you should respect that. 99% of an entire population can’t be stupid! Even in Europe, they don’t do that! I lived in Germany for four years, have many German friends, my sister-in-law is Portuguese and I can tell you: it is not common in Europe either! Anyway, it is not because you feel intimate with your kids, that it is OK to have sex in front of them! I feel intimate with my best friend, should we have sex in front of her? I feel intimate with my parents, should we have sex in front of them? I AM intimate with my kids, but not in a sexual way. Also, I notice you always say it is normal to do it in front of your children but how would you feel if your daughter had sex with a man in front of you? Don’t say you wouldn’t mind, because IMO, it would be almost incestual. Nadyne

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> I just BET Steve will gladly answer that one! As for me, I suggest to do > whatever is most comfortable for you and your husband : have sex while > trying not to make a sound, do it while she’s asleep for her nap somewhere > else (do you have a playpen or a stroller you can put her in for her naps?) > or just do it in another room! Experiment and you will find what is best for > YOU. > Good luck, > Nadyne

We did it noisily while they were awake so that we WOULDN’T wake them up! What I cannot for the life of me understand is why "intimacy" would be at all threatened by others you feel intimate with anyway!! Steve

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > I just BET Steve will gladly answer that one! As for me, I suggest > to do > > whatever is most comfortable for you and your husband : have sex > while > > trying not to make a sound, do it while she’s asleep for her nap > somewhere > > else (do you have a playpen or a stroller you can put her in for > her naps?) > > or just do it in another room! Experiment and you will find what is > best for > > YOU. > > Good luck, > > Nadyne > We did it noisily while they were awake so that we WOULDN’T wake them > up! What I cannot for the life of me understand is why "intimacy" > would > be at all threatened by others you feel intimate with anyway!! > Steve > Maybe because most people don’t think it is appropriate to have sex > while their children are awake, in the same bed, and watching. > — > ~Nancy~

If by most you’d be trying to speak for our species, you would be off the mark. This is quite common elsewhere than the USA and perhaps most of Europe. It’s a remnant of the European enslavement! I’m AWARE of what some people think, Nancy, but it’s STUPID!! Steve

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I just BET Steve will gladly answer that one! As for me, I suggest to do > whatever is most comfortable for you and your husband : have sex while > trying not to make a sound, do it while she’s asleep for her nap somewhere > else (do you have a playpen or a stroller you can put her in for her naps?) > or just do it in another room! Experiment and you will find what is best for > YOU. > Good luck, > Nadyne > We did it noisily while they were awake so that we WOULDN’T wake them > up! What I cannot for the life of me understand is why "intimacy" would > be at all threatened by others you feel intimate with anyway!! > Steve

Maybe because most people don’t think it is appropriate to have sex while their children are awake, in the same bed, and watching. — ~Nancy~ Mom to Emily 2/14/00 and Wally 1/13/84 Visit my webpage: http://www.geocities.com/NLBader63/intro.html Before you buy.

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > Hello. It seems a lot of people in this newsgroup have a family bed. We > do – we have a bedside cot but DD usually ends up in our bed for at > least half the night. Both my husband and I really enjoy having our > baby with us all night. However, we haven’t had sex since she was born. > At first this was fine but I’m really starting to miss it and, while my > husband has put no pressure on me at all, I’m worried about our > relationship. I’m feel very platonic at the moment and a sense of > intimacty has been lost. > We can’t move her into her room yet, she’s six months, as she’s still > breast feeding five or six times a night and I’ll have a complete > mental and physical collapse if my sleep is any more interrupted by > having to get up and go into another room. > What do other people who co-sleep do about sex? > Sara > XOXOX > Before you buy.

Get creative.  The bedroom is only *one* room in the whole house! — ~Nancy~ Mom to Emily 2/14/00 and Wally 1/13/84 Visit my webpage: http://www.geocities.com/NLBader63/intro.html Before you buy.

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I just BET Steve will gladly answer that one! As for me, I suggest to do whatever is most comfortable for you and your husband : have sex while trying not to make a sound, do it while she’s asleep for her nap somewhere else (do you have a playpen or a stroller you can put her in for her naps?) or just do it in another room! Experiment and you will find what is best for YOU. Good luck, Nadyne

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Are you not able to let her sleep in the crib in another room for just a bit until you get done? Or the both of you go to the couch or another room while she is sleeping? Sue B. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > Hello. It seems a lot of people in this newsgroup have a family bed. We > do – we have a bedside cot but DD usually ends up in our bed for at > least half the night. Both my husband and I really enjoy having our > baby with us all night. However, we haven’t had sex since she was born. > At first this was fine but I’m really starting to miss it and, while my > husband has put no pressure on me at all, I’m worried about our > relationship. I’m feel very platonic at the moment and a sense of > intimacty has been lost. > We can’t move her into her room yet, she’s six months, as she’s still > breast feeding five or six times a night and I’ll have a complete > mental and physical collapse if my sleep is any more interrupted by > having to get up and go into another room. > What do other people who co-sleep do about sex? > Sara > XOXOX > Before you buy.

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> Are you not able to let her sleep in the crib in another room for just a bit > until you get done? Or the both of you go to the couch or another room while > she is sleeping? > Sue B.

Why should they roust their baby just to fuck?? They’re hard enough to get to sleep sometimes! Steve – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hello. It seems a lot of people in this newsgroup have a family bed. We > do – we have a bedside cot but DD usually ends up in our bed for at > least half the night. Both my husband and I really enjoy having our > baby with us all night. However, we haven’t had sex since she was born. > At first this was fine but I’m really starting to miss it and, while my > husband has put no pressure on me at all, I’m worried about our > relationship. I’m feel very platonic at the moment and a sense of > intimacty has been lost. > We can’t move her into her room yet, she’s six months, as she’s still > breast feeding five or six times a night and I’ll have a complete > mental and physical collapse if my sleep is any more interrupted by > having to get up and go into another room. > What do other people who co-sleep do about sex? > Sara > XOXOX

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>What do other people who co-sleep do about sex? >Sara >XOXOX

We just stopped having sex at night! There were plenty of opportunities during the day when the baby was napping! Tara P

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>What do other people who co-sleep do about sex? >Sara >XOXOX > We just stopped having sex at night! There were plenty of opportunities > during the day when the baby was napping! > Tara P

We did the same.  Also got hotel rooms when we had a sitter or family in town visiting. We also used a co-sleeper (where the baby is in its own bed that’s attached to yours) and found you can also still have sex while the baby is sleeping next to you.

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Assuming of course that your hubby was home during the day. Most husbands are not home during the day. Sue B. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > We just stopped having sex at night! There were plenty of opportunities > during the day when the baby was napping! > Tara P

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > Hello. It seems a lot of people in this newsgroup have a family bed. We > do – we have a bedside cot but DD usually ends up in our bed for at > least half the night. Both my husband and I really enjoy having our > baby with us all night. However, we haven’t had sex since she was born. > At first this was fine but I’m really starting to miss it and, while my > husband has put no pressure on me at all, I’m worried about our > relationship. I’m feel very platonic at the moment and a sense of > intimacty has been lost. > We can’t move her into her room yet, she’s six months, as she’s still > breast feeding five or six times a night and I’ll have a complete > mental and physical collapse if my sleep is any more interrupted by > having to get up and go into another room. > What do other people who co-sleep do about sex? > Sara > XOXOX

Looks like Ben Malone’s posting host. Well, whatever. We simply fucked while our kids were breastfeeding, and weren’t worried about it. Since we breastfed till ours were two, this left us fucking with them sleeping next to us and watching, and we never figured out when to stop and lock them out. It would have just been too weird and cruel. They never thought it was unusual, it was as normal to them as eating breakfast since they had seen it every day since birth. We had MORE trouble later explaining to them that other people didn’t DO that!! At age 4 our son was told and he expressed disbelief that anybody would know how to fuck if they hadn’t seen it done all their life. To him it looked waaay too complicated to convey with books, and we were good enough at it that we saw his point, but he actually thought we were putting him on!! He thought it was another of my jokes, and it took all that day discussing the "evidence" with him, that he never saw people fuck outdoors even in the summer, but THAT wasn’t true, he’d seen us and others fucking at my brother’s farm, so this made it even harder!! We finally sort of "proved" it too him with all the people outside of our friends and family of our age never being nude indoors or fucking, and nobody on TV, and especially him not seeing his grandparents fucking. These are things he had never noticed before with that critical eye, surprisingly!! We tried to explain to him why this was true, and over the next few hours he came to think of himself as a rather lucky duck to have us as his parents, lest he be deprived of that normalcy for sex. Steve

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Hello. It seems a lot of people in this newsgroup have a family bed. We do – we have a bedside cot but DD usually ends up in our bed for at least half the night. Both my husband and I really enjoy having our baby with us all night. However, we haven’t had sex since she was born. At first this was fine but I’m really starting to miss it and, while my husband has put no pressure on me at all, I’m worried about our relationship. I’m feel very platonic at the moment and a sense of intimacty has been lost. We can’t move her into her room yet, she’s six months, as she’s still breast feeding five or six times a night and I’ll have a complete mental and physical collapse if my sleep is any more interrupted by having to get up and go into another room. What do other people who co-sleep do about sex? Sara XOXOX Before you buy.

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