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I sympathize with your plight….my brother went through a nasty separation and wanted custody of his daughter because his girlfriend was a drinker, and party-girl….His lawyer instructed him to keep a very detailed record of every incidence of bad behavior on her part. If she picked up her daughter while drunk or even called her a name, my brother recorded it, and included the date and time. It is good to have this as it may help you should you ever have to go to court. In the meantime, take your son’s picture off the site for a while as you make your list. Hang in there Buddy, it’s tough but the best thing you can do is ALWAYS put your son’s best interests first, keep him as removed from this divorce battle as possible and focus your attention on your future daughter, your girlfriend and your boy. This is YOUR life…she will try but you must not let her ruin it. Witnesses always are good also. :) Cymrucelt PS Keep me posted….. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ——Original Message—– Newsgroups: alt.parenting.solutions >please…i need EVERYBODY’S help here! > i’m a wonderful 23 year old father going through a nasty divorce. i have >the most incredible 3 year old son whom i have 50% of the time. i bust my >chops working 50-60 hours a week and make a good living as a result. my >girlfriend of 2 years and i are having a daughter together (due in 2 weeks! >my son is thrilled!). > my soon-to-be-ex-wife-turned-lesbian works 20 hours a week (but gets >paid for 40) and sits around in a bathrobe. her morals and values suck. i >have caught her once smoking pot in front of our sleeping son. twice i have >seen drug paraphernalia in plain view of my son. her girlfriend violently >attacked me as my son watched on. she has no motivation and is just content >with leeching off the system as i am forced to nearly double her income. > now that you have a bit of background on the situation i’ll get to the >point. her lawyers are struggling to rake up any dirt on me possible. what >they came up with was one of my websites i did as a personal project in art >school. their number one concern was the fact that i had pictures of my son >up there! they said that put my son in serious danger of "being snatched." >on another section of the site, the city we reside in was listed. there is >no address, phone number or pictures of the house. just pictures and the >story of a young man so very proud of his child. > my lawyer has instructed me to print out a whole crapload of websites >where proud parents have posted pictures of their children. i am by no means >alone. in addition to the prints, we would like your comments for support. >if you have pictures of your children online, please e-mail me! has having >pictures of them online ever put you children at risk? do you find this as >ridiculous as i do?! LET ME KNOW! PLEASE mail me at >thanks in advance to all… >evan "starbellie" smith >starbellie.com
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I’ve never heard of such a thing! Wouldn’t any judge be able to see that your reasoning wasn’t to put your child in danger? Playing the "Devil’s advocate"…..let’s say that unintentionally it did put your son in danger….any rational person would see what your intention was…this doesn’t even make sense. They must really be "reaching" if this is all they can come up with. Seems to me that you’re the one with the ammo. not them….what does your attorney think? Carol – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > please…i need EVERYBODY’S help here! > i’m a wonderful 23 year old father going through a nasty divorce. i have > the most incredible 3 year old son whom i have 50% of the time. i bust my > chops working 50-60 hours a week and make a good living as a result. my > girlfriend of 2 years and i are having a daughter together (due in 2 weeks! > my son is thrilled!). > my soon-to-be-ex-wife-turned-lesbian works 20 hours a week (but gets > paid for 40) and sits around in a bathrobe. her morals and values suck. i > have caught her once smoking pot in front of our sleeping son. twice i have > seen drug paraphernalia in plain view of my son. her girlfriend violently > attacked me as my son watched on. she has no motivation and is just content > with leeching off the system as i am forced to nearly double her income.
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If you are so desperately in need of help, how about posting a real e-mail address? This is what I tried to send you: QUOTE I do not have my kids’ pics on the web for precisely these reasons. Incidentally, I know someone who did have a website, and got crank calls from a young man who wanted her to give him her daughters’ outgrown shoes for his "collection". She was so scared, she withdrew the website and installed an alarm system at home. I have no advice or assistance for you on the divorce issue, other than to try to stay civilized and put your son first. But I urge you more generally to think carefully about posting information that could help someone track down your son. –Janet Triplets (10/21/96) END QUOTE But it came back as undeliverable. –Janet Triplets (10/21/96) – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->—–Original Message—– >Newsgroups: alt.parenting.solutions >please…i need EVERYBODY’S help here! > i’m a wonderful 23 year old father going through a nasty divorce. i >have >the most incredible 3 year old son whom i have 50% of the time. i bust my >chops working 50-60 hours a week and make a good living as a result. my >girlfriend of 2 years and i are having a daughter together (due in 2 weeks! >my son is thrilled!). > my soon-to-be-ex-wife-turned-lesbian works 20 hours a week (but gets >paid for 40) and sits around in a bathrobe. her morals and values suck. i >have caught her once smoking pot in front of our sleeping son. twice i have >seen drug paraphernalia in plain view of my son. her girlfriend violently >attacked me as my son watched on. she has no motivation and is just content >with leeching off the system as i am forced to nearly double her income. > now that you have a bit of background on the situation i’ll get to the >point. her lawyers are struggling to rake up any dirt on me possible. what >they came up with was one of my websites i did as a personal project in art >school. their number one concern was the fact that i had pictures of my son >up there! they said that put my son in serious danger of "being snatched." >on another section of the site, the city we reside in was listed. there is >no address, phone number or pictures of the house. just pictures and the >story of a young man so very proud of his child. > my lawyer has instructed me to print out a whole crapload of websites >where proud parents have posted pictures of their children. i am by no >means >alone. in addition to the prints, we would like your comments for support. >if you have pictures of your children online, please e-mail me! has having >pictures of them online ever put you children at risk? do you find this as >ridiculous as i do?! LET ME KNOW! PLEASE mail me at >thanks in advance to all… >evan "starbellie" smith >starbellie.com
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oops, new isp and the e-mail is all sorts of messed up. please send any – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > If you are so desperately in need of help, how about posting a real e-mail > address? > This is what I tried to send you: > QUOTE > I do not have my kids’ pics on the web for precisely these reasons. > Incidentally, I know someone who did have a website, and got crank calls > from a young man who wanted her to give him her daughters’ outgrown shoes > for his "collection". She was so scared, she withdrew the website and > installed an alarm system at home. > I have no advice or assistance for you on the divorce issue, other than to > try to stay civilized and put your son first. But I urge you more generally > to think carefully about posting information that could help someone track > down your son. > –Janet > Triplets (10/21/96) > END QUOTE > But it came back as undeliverable. > –Janet > Triplets (10/21/96) >—–Original Message—– >Newsgroups: alt.parenting.solutions >>please…i need EVERYBODY’S help here! >> i’m a wonderful 23 year old father going through a nasty divorce. i >have >>the most incredible 3 year old son whom i have 50% of the time. i bust my >>chops working 50-60 hours a week and make a good living as a result. my >>girlfriend of 2 years and i are having a daughter together (due in 2 > weeks! >>my son is thrilled!). >> my soon-to-be-ex-wife-turned-lesbian works 20 hours a week (but gets >>paid for 40) and sits around in a bathrobe. her morals and values suck. i >>have caught her once smoking pot in front of our sleeping son. twice i > have >>seen drug paraphernalia in plain view of my son. her girlfriend violently >>attacked me as my son watched on. she has no motivation and is just > content >>with leeching off the system as i am forced to nearly double her income. >> now that you have a bit of background on the situation i’ll get to the >>point. her lawyers are struggling to rake up any dirt on me possible. what >>they came up with was one of my websites i did as a personal project in > art >>school. their number one concern was the fact that i had pictures of my > son >>up there! they said that put my son in serious danger of "being snatched." >>on another section of the site, the city we reside in was listed. there is >>no address, phone number or pictures of the house. just pictures and the >>story of a young man so very proud of his child. >> my lawyer has instructed me to print out a whole crapload of websites >>where proud parents have posted pictures of their children. i am by no >means >>alone. in addition to the prints, we would like your comments for support. >>if you have pictures of your children online, please e-mail me! has having >>pictures of them online ever put you children at risk? do you find this as >>ridiculous as i do?! LET ME KNOW! PLEASE mail me at >>thanks in advance to all… >>evan "starbellie" smith >>starbellie.com
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please…i need EVERYBODY’S help here! i’m a wonderful 23 year old father going through a nasty divorce. i have the most incredible 3 year old son whom i have 50% of the time. i bust my chops working 50-60 hours a week and make a good living as a result. my girlfriend of 2 years and i are having a daughter together (due in 2 weeks! my son is thrilled!). my soon-to-be-ex-wife-turned-lesbian works 20 hours a week (but gets paid for 40) and sits around in a bathrobe. her morals and values suck. i have caught her once smoking pot in front of our sleeping son. twice i have seen drug paraphernalia in plain view of my son. her girlfriend violently attacked me as my son watched on. she has no motivation and is just content with leeching off the system as i am forced to nearly double her income. now that you have a bit of background on the situation i’ll get to the point. her lawyers are struggling to rake up any dirt on me possible. what they came up with was one of my websites i did as a personal project in art school. their number one concern was the fact that i had pictures of my son up there! they said that put my son in serious danger of "being snatched." on another section of the site, the city we reside in was listed. there is no address, phone number or pictures of the house. just pictures and the story of a young man so very proud of his child. my lawyer has instructed me to print out a whole crapload of websites where proud parents have posted pictures of their children. i am by no means alone. in addition to the prints, we would like your comments for support. if you have pictures of your children online, please e-mail me! has having pictures of them online ever put you children at risk? do you find this as ridiculous as i do?! LET ME KNOW! PLEASE mail me at thanks in advance to all… evan "starbellie" smith starbellie.com
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