Question:
My 4 year old son was visiting a friend this afternoon, and when I went to pick him up, the friend’s grandmother said that when he saw her, he asked her if she was his grandma. She thought this was really sweet, and I do too, but I was saddened by it also. Both sets of grandparents live too far away to see him much (we’re in Southeast England – one set of grandparents are in Scotland, the other in the US). I don’t really have a point to make, other than I wish he (and his baby brother) had grandparents closer.
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> My 4 year old son was visiting a friend this afternoon, and when I > went to > pick him up, the friend’s grandmother said that when he saw her, he > asked > her if she was his grandma. She thought this was really sweet, and I > do > too, but I was saddened by it also. Both sets of grandparents live > too far > away to see him much (we’re in Southeast England – one set of > grandparents > are in Scotland, the other in the US). I don’t really have a point to > make, > other than I wish he (and his baby brother) had grandparents closer.
Angela, My own parents were faced with a similar situation. Both sets of my grandparents were deceased by the time I was five years old. My younger brother never knew any of them. They were concerned that we would grow up not only without the love that grandparents give, but without any understanding of or wisdom gleaned from that generation. The solution was not their own. An older couple, whose own grandchildren lived too far to visit often, decided to "adopt" us. They had us over for frequent dinners, remembered our birthdays, and very much treated us as their own. Even after we moved to a different city, we still made frequent trips back to visit and they came to our house when their health allowed. They both died a couple of years ago, having seen us through college, into marriage and the birth of our first son. They very lovingly filled a vacancy that would have otherwise gone ignored. I don’t know any "sure" method for finding other wonderful people like this, but I have a feeling their around. Perhaps they just haven’t found you yet. I’ll hope the best for you and your family. Good luck! — Charles I. Letbetter, Editor CATCH Online Magazine http://www.pagebrothers.com A new way of looking at parenting
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>… I don’t really have a point to make, > other than I wish he (and his baby brother) had grandparents closer.
When we lived very far away from my son’s grandparents I called the local nursing home/hospice and made arrangements to bring him to visit when they were going to have activities so that he could "visit". Everyone involved enjoyed it. Tears shed when we moved. Just a suggestion. Mona
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