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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > Fhiodhbhuidhe > > > > > Hello, > > > > > We have a 6 month old baby boy who loves to cry for his mother. > Any > > time you > > > > > set him down he starts crying for his mother. > > > > > How does a new mom who is home all day alone with a new baby get > > anything > > > > > done ? He throws a fit if he’s not being played with. I can’t > convince > > his > > > > > mom to just let him cry alittle bit. > > > > > She is so frustrated because her life has come to a complete > > standstill and > > > > > she feels like she can’t even leave the room without him pitching > a > > fit. > > > > Get her one of those slings so that she can have the baby with her > yet > > > > still get done what she feels she needs to get done. Trust me. > Before > > > > long, he’ll be running around, not wanting so much attention. Then > > > > she’ll miss it. > > > or if she isn’t comfortable with that — a six month old is old enough > to > > > be carried in a backpack > > > I just moved mine from room to room — had him sitting where he could > see > > > me and talk to me while I also did other things — but I didn’t > reinforce > > > the crying/clinging — or maybe mine were not as demanding > > > back on the farm when it was critical to get things done, Moms didn’t > have > > > the option of playing with baby all day long — they seemed to be able > to > > > get on with it just fine – this is the problem of a society with too > > > much time on its hands > > Stephanie > do you think great grandma spent her days all day playing with baby? > Nah, she believed babies needed to cry it out or they’d be spoiled. She > believed she could potty train them at nine months, when all she did was > train herself to catch the eliminations. She believed babies needed to be > put on a rigid sleeping/eating schedule. > I don’t know any modern mothers or fathers that "spend all day" playing > with baby, either. But, we have a better understanding of how to meet a > baby’s needs and incorporate their care into our daily routine as well.
I am not exactly arguing with you here. But I’ll bet you $50 that when OUR kids are raising kids or maybe when our grandkids are raising kids, the pendulum will swing back and what we think of as enlightenment will be seen as just another parenting fad. Our grandkids will be saying, can you beleive that they let those kids just run roughshod over them?? or some such thing. We will never know who is "right." Or maybe there is no "right." Stephanie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> — > ~Nan~ > Mom to Wally (1/13/84) > and Emily (2/14/00)
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Fhiodhbhuidhe > > > > Hello, > > > > We have a 6 month old baby boy who loves to cry for his mother. Any > time you > > > > set him down he starts crying for his mother. > > > > How does a new mom who is home all day alone with a new baby get > anything > > > > done ? He throws a fit if he’s not being played with. I can’t convince > his > > > > mom to just let him cry alittle bit. > > > > She is so frustrated because her life has come to a complete > standstill and > > > > she feels like she can’t even leave the room without him pitching a > fit. > > > Get her one of those slings so that she can have the baby with her yet > > > still get done what she feels she needs to get done. Trust me. Before > > > long, he’ll be running around, not wanting so much attention. Then > > > she’ll miss it. > > or if she isn’t comfortable with that — a six month old is old enough to > > be carried in a backpack > > I just moved mine from room to room — had him sitting where he could see > > me and talk to me while I also did other things — but I didn’t reinforce > > the crying/clinging — or maybe mine were not as demanding > > back on the farm when it was critical to get things done, Moms didn’t have > > the option of playing with baby all day long — they seemed to be able to > > get on with it just fine – this is the problem of a society with too > > much time on its hands > Stephanie > do you think great grandma spent her days all day playing with baby?
Nah, she believed babies needed to cry it out or they’d be spoiled. She believed she could potty train them at nine months, when all she did was train herself to catch the eliminations. She believed babies needed to be put on a rigid sleeping/eating schedule. I don’t know any modern mothers or fathers that "spend all day" playing with baby, either. But, we have a better understanding of how to meet a baby’s needs and incorporate their care into our daily routine as well. — ~Nan~ Mom to Wally (1/13/84) and Emily (2/14/00)
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > Fhiodhbhuidhe > > > >> > Hello, > > > >> > We have a 6 month old baby boy who loves to cry for his mother. > Any > > > >> > time you set him down he starts crying for his mother. > > > >> > How does a new mom who is home all day alone with a new baby get > > > >> > anything done ? He throws a fit if he’s not being played with. I > > can’t > > > >> > convince his mom to just let him cry alittle bit. > > > >> > She is so frustrated because her life has come to a complete > > standstill > > > >> > and she feels like she can’t even leave the room without him > pitching > > a > > > >> > fit. > > > >> Get her one of those slings so that she can have the baby with her > yet > > > >> still get done what she feels she needs to get done. Trust me. > Before > > > >> long, he’ll be running around, not wanting so much attention. Then > > > >> she’ll miss it. > > > > or if she isn’t comfortable with that — a six month old is old > enough > > to > > > > be carried in a backpack > > > > I just moved mine from room to room — had him sitting where he > could > > see > > > > me and talk to me while I also did other things — but I didn’t > > reinforce > > > > the crying/clinging — or maybe mine were not as demanding > > > > back on the farm when it was critical to get things done, Moms > didn’t > > have > > > > the option of playing with baby all day long — they seemed to be > able > > to > > > > get on with it just fine – this is the problem of a society with > too > > > > much time on its hands > > > what … you mean they used to let the baby cry it out while getting > > > everything done.. > > > you cant spoil a 6 month old > > Years ago, it was commonly thought that you *could* spoil a small baby. > > Thankfully, we now know better. More parents are into at least a form > of > > attachment parenting these days. It was unheard of a few generations > ago. > Are really MOST parents into some form of attachement parenting? I think > this statement over states the degree of popularity of attachment > parenting. > I do not get that idea from the parenting magazines I read. > Stephanie > I stated "more parents", not "most" parents. And yes, I do believe at least > a form of ap exists in many households now as opposed to years ago. I’m not > speaking of the entire ap concept. > — > ~Nan~ > Mom to Wally (1/13/84) > and Emily (2/14/00)
Ineed, you did say more rather than most. Too bad I cannot read. I certainly would agree with that statement. Thanks S – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text –
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > > Hello, > > > We have a 6 month old baby boy who loves to cry for his mother. Any > time you > > > set him down he starts crying for his mother. > > > How does a new mom who is home all day alone with a new baby get > anything > > > done ? He throws a fit if he’s not being played with. I can’t convince > his > > > mom to just let him cry alittle bit. > > > She is so frustrated because her life has come to a complete > standstill and > > > she feels like she can’t even leave the room without him pitching a > fit. > > Get her one of those slings so that she can have the baby with her yet > > still get done what she feels she needs to get done. Trust me. Before > > long, he’ll be running around, not wanting so much attention. Then > > she’ll miss it. > or if she isn’t comfortable with that — a six month old is old enough to > be carried in a backpack > I just moved mine from room to room — had him sitting where he could see > me and talk to me while I also did other things — but I didn’t reinforce > the crying/clinging — or maybe mine were not as demanding > back on the farm when it was critical to get things done, Moms didn’t have > the option of playing with baby all day long — they seemed to be able to > get on with it just fine – this is the problem of a society with too > much time on its hands > Stephanie
do you think great grandma spent her days all day playing with baby?
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Several options come to mind, some of them covered already by other posters… She could – carry the baby around with her – place the baby in something (mat on floor, seat…) where ever she is. Sing and talk to the baby. Now, the first time she does this, the baby will likely not be satisfied. She could adjust gradually. Start by refraining from picking up the fussing (not crying) child, but play with the child in place; on the mat on the floor, in a swing or seat… Then slowly move onto short activities in sight of the child that do not directly interact with the child. – wait. From what I understand, this is a pretty typical phase for a 6 month old. Just some options that I can think of. I am not placing any value on any of them. That is up to you and the baby’s mom! Stephanie
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hello, > We have a 6 month old baby boy who loves to cry for his mother. Any time you > set him down he starts crying for his mother. > How does a new mom who is home all day alone with a new baby get anything > done ? He throws a fit if he’s not being played with. I can’t convince his > mom to just let him cry alittle bit. > She is so frustrated because her life has come to a complete standstill and > she feels like she can’t even leave the room without him pitching a fit. > Thanks for any help, > Daren
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Fhiodhbhuidhe > > >> > Hello, > > >> > We have a 6 month old baby boy who loves to cry for his mother. Any > > >> > time you set him down he starts crying for his mother. > > >> > How does a new mom who is home all day alone with a new baby get > > >> > anything done ? He throws a fit if he’s not being played with. I > can’t > > >> > convince his mom to just let him cry alittle bit. > > >> > She is so frustrated because her life has come to a complete > standstill > > >> > and she feels like she can’t even leave the room without him > pitching > a > > >> > fit. > > >> Get her one of those slings so that she can have the baby with her > yet > > >> still get done what she feels she needs to get done. Trust me. > Before > > >> long, he’ll be running around, not wanting so much attention. Then > > >> she’ll miss it. > > > or if she isn’t comfortable with that — a six month old is old enough > to > > > be carried in a backpack > > > I just moved mine from room to room — had him sitting where he could > see > > > me and talk to me while I also did other things — but I didn’t > reinforce > > > the crying/clinging — or maybe mine were not as demanding > > > back on the farm when it was critical to get things done, Moms didn’t > have > > > the option of playing with baby all day long — they seemed to be able > to > > > get on with it just fine – this is the problem of a society with too > > > much time on its hands > > what … you mean they used to let the baby cry it out while getting > > everything done.. > > you cant spoil a 6 month old > Years ago, it was commonly thought that you *could* spoil a small baby. > Thankfully, we now know better. More parents are into at least a form of > attachment parenting these days. It was unheard of a few generations ago. > Are really MOST parents into some form of attachement parenting? I think > this statement over states the degree of popularity of attachment parenting. > I do not get that idea from the parenting magazines I read. > Stephanie
I stated "more parents", not "most" parents. And yes, I do believe at least a form of ap exists in many households now as opposed to years ago. I’m not speaking of the entire ap concept. — ~Nan~ Mom to Wally (1/13/84) and Emily (2/14/00)
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > Hello, > > We have a 6 month old baby boy who loves to cry for his mother. Any time you > > set him down he starts crying for his mother. > > How does a new mom who is home all day alone with a new baby get anything > > done ? He throws a fit if he’s not being played with. I can’t convince his > > mom to just let him cry alittle bit. > > She is so frustrated because her life has come to a complete standstill and > > she feels like she can’t even leave the room without him pitching a fit. > Get her one of those slings so that she can have the baby with her yet > still get done what she feels she needs to get done. Trust me. Before > long, he’ll be running around, not wanting so much attention. Then > she’ll miss it. > or if she isn’t comfortable with that — a six month old is old enough to > be carried in a backpack > I just moved mine from room to room — had him sitting where he could see > me and talk to me while I also did other things — but I didn’t reinforce > the crying/clinging — or maybe mine were not as demanding > back on the farm when it was critical to get things done, Moms didn’t have > the option of playing with baby all day long — they seemed to be able to > get on with it just fine – this is the problem of a society with too > much time on its hands
Stephanie
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > Fhiodhbhuidhe > >> > Hello, > >> > We have a 6 month old baby boy who loves to cry for his mother. Any > >> > time you set him down he starts crying for his mother. > >> > How does a new mom who is home all day alone with a new baby get > >> > anything done ? He throws a fit if he’s not being played with. I > can’t > >> > convince his mom to just let him cry alittle bit. > >> > She is so frustrated because her life has come to a complete > standstill > >> > and she feels like she can’t even leave the room without him pitching > a > >> > fit. > >> Get her one of those slings so that she can have the baby with her yet > >> still get done what she feels she needs to get done. Trust me. Before > >> long, he’ll be running around, not wanting so much attention. Then > >> she’ll miss it. > > or if she isn’t comfortable with that — a six month old is old enough > to > > be carried in a backpack > > I just moved mine from room to room — had him sitting where he could > see > > me and talk to me while I also did other things — but I didn’t > reinforce > > the crying/clinging — or maybe mine were not as demanding > > back on the farm when it was critical to get things done, Moms didn’t > have > > the option of playing with baby all day long — they seemed to be able > to > > get on with it just fine – this is the problem of a society with too > > much time on its hands > what … you mean they used to let the baby cry it out while getting > everything done.. > you cant spoil a 6 month old > Years ago, it was commonly thought that you *could* spoil a small baby. > Thankfully, we now know better. More parents are into at least a form of > attachment parenting these days. It was unheard of a few generations ago.
Are really MOST parents into some form of attachement parenting? I think this statement over states the degree of popularity of attachment parenting. I do not get that idea from the parenting magazines I read. Stephanie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> and besides if you raise your kid in a certain way where he is the center > of attention you learn tricks to not get him angry,, and it continues even > at 2 > an example. my friend was over yesterday, and she is one of thos > "authoritaritalien parents." whereshe kept telling me, oh he does not > listen to me, 20 month old,, and im not tough enough with him > she already lets him cry it out.. poor kid, he cries till he falls asleep > , > but sometimes he plays with blanket,, and she had ther nerve to tell me > that oh he does not listen when its time to sleep, i take everything he > could possibely play with and he stillfinds something to do. He is > spoiled.. He kept playing with the telephone , and she kept saying no,, im > the boss,, i said no.. > i came around and just looked at him and said,, hey kiddo, come here i > want > to show you something, and he forgot about the phone.. ironically , sh e > said i was spoiling him and he had to learn no 
> i dont think there is any ways to reinforce crying clinging,, and even if > theire was,, who cares. that baby is trying to tell the mother he needs > her.. > Actually, if a child’s needs don’t get met, that does reinforce the crying > and clinging. I understand what you’re trying to say, though 
> Why do the mothers of today blind themselves to tthe needs of babies…. i > hate the way ppl raise their kids. > — > ~Nan~ > Mom to Wally (1/13/84) > and Emily (2/14/00)
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hello, > We have a 6 month old baby boy who loves to cry for his mother. Any time >you > set him down he starts crying for his mother. > How does a new mom who is home all day alone with a new baby get anything > done ? He throws a fit if he’s not being played with. I can’t convince his > mom to just let him cry alittle bit. > She is so frustrated because her life has come to a complete standstill >and > she feels like she can’t even leave the room without him pitching a fit. > Thanks for any help, > Daren >I learned rather quickly to just say "the heck with it". As in the >household chores. They will always be there for you. So dont worry about >them. Of course we want to be clean and neat and what not, but at some >point in time you just have to say "frig it".
I’m so GLAD you said that! >I have 3 kids. 2 dd’s and one dh. (he is a kid too!) I finally dont care >about this mess or that mess. If I did, I would always be miserable. Learn >to step over those toys. Learn that the dishes can be washed as you need >them. LOL. Learn that its useless to vacuum everyday because there is a >mess there right after your done. So just wait til you cant see the floor >anymore.
Amen! life ain’t about housecleaning anyhoo… LOL. And laundry, well, thats pretty easy to do with the kids >around. And if anything, if the house chores are really getting to you and >would make you feel better if they were done, then do them during nap or at >night. >Its all part of parenthood. And it gets easier. You just have to adjust. >Lisa
donawanaa I want to go everywhere, look at and listen to everything. You can go crazy with some of the wonderful stuff there is in life — Shel Silverstein
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hello, > We have a 6 month old baby boy who loves to cry for his mother. Any time you > set him down he starts crying for his mother. > How does a new mom who is home all day alone with a new baby get anything > done ? He throws a fit if he’s not being played with. I can’t convince his > mom to just let him cry alittle bit. > She is so frustrated because her life has come to a complete standstill and > she feels like she can’t even leave the room without him pitching a fit. > Thanks for any help, > Daren
I learned rather quickly to just say "the heck with it". As in the household chores. They will always be there for you. So dont worry about them. Of course we want to be clean and neat and what not, but at some point in time you just have to say "frig it". I have 3 kids. 2 dd’s and one dh. (he is a kid too!) I finally dont care about this mess or that mess. If I did, I would always be miserable. Learn to step over those toys. Learn that the dishes can be washed as you need them. LOL. Learn that its useless to vacuum everyday because there is a mess there right after your done. So just wait til you cant see the floor anymore. LOL. And laundry, well, thats pretty easy to do with the kids around. And if anything, if the house chores are really getting to you and would make you feel better if they were done, then do them during nap or at night. Its all part of parenthood. And it gets easier. You just have to adjust. Lisa
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hello, > We have a 6 month old baby boy who loves to cry for his > mother. Any time you set him down he starts crying for his > mother. > How does a new mom who is home all day alone with a new > baby get anything done ? He throws a fit if he’s not being > played with. I can’t convince his mom to just let him cry > alittle bit. > She is so frustrated because her life has come to a > complete standstill and she feels like she can’t even leave > the room without him pitching a fit. >oh man,, stop being mean to the new mother cause she know >that you dont let a baby cry it out.. never… >Buy a nice baby carrrier ,, they have some neat ones,, i had >a sling where my baby could suckle while laying down, or >sitting on my tummy,, and at age 2 i still use it on my >back..
i second the sling! i have a sling, 2 front packs & a backpack. you can’t cook with the baby in a front pack. (splatters) you might want to check out Dr.Sears book on High Needs Babies. i don’t want to discourage you or your wife but my now 9 month old never left my lap at all for the first 7 months. he slept (& still sleeps) on me. he still spends all his naps on my lap, but he does get down to play & walk now Nikita, how do you use the sling on your back? i’ve heard about it, but no one around here uses slings (besides me. i love ours) & i can’t figure out how to get him on my back with it. lee —
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