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Wow, I didn’t really know people thought like that in this day and age. Well, I’m still glad to be working. Posts like this will certainly not change my mind. (snipped) > How selfish to think that you "need" to work when your kids are > only young for so long.
(snipped) – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> And if we can’t take care of our kids ourselves, lets not have any more, > ok.
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First of all, let me say that I have nothing against WOH mom’s. Michael’s godmother (my best friend) is one and we have no problems with each other’s parenting. I don’t agreee that if you can’t afford to stay at home with them you shouldn’t have kids. However, I find CHOCOGRL1’s comments very offensive as well. I am a SAH mom and I didn’t go out and find myself a rich husband. I don’t have a housekeeper (although sometimes I really wish I did). My husband and I still have to work our butts off to be creative with our budget to make ends meet as we went from a two income household to a one income household. Its hard for me sometimes to watch some of my friends who do WOH go on trips or buy cars that we can’t afford. But I don’t hold it against them that they have more disposable income than we do and I certainly don’t assume that every WOH mom a) had the option to stay at home or b) has a ton of disposable income. I wish we could all just try to respect each other’s choices with regards to SAH or WOH even if we don’t agree with them. Lisa > I just cannot believe this woman who said "if we can’t take care of our kids > ourselves, lets not have any". Are you actually saying that woman who can’t > find a rich man to fully support them so they can stay home should not have > kids? Or should they go on welfare? > I am a single mother who’s supported my child on my own since he was 6 > months old, and I really resent the fact that I would be considered a 2nd > class mother by some people because I work my butt of to support this child I > brought into they world. So I should not be granted the joys of motherhood > because my financial situation is not ideal? > I think that you women with your money making husbands and your > housekeepers should try living like the rest of us for a day before you make > your judgement on how important our kids are to us. > And I agree with the girl who asked, "how are Ward and the Beav?".
– Ed/Lisa Burnette
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Mothers have enough to worry about without being told that >they’re "bad mothers" if they have to, or choose to, work. >Holly
Nobody said you were bad to be a working mother from any of this. I think the whole point is nobody loves your kid like you can. Isn’t that issue important. I wish that I could spare a buck to allow mom’s that want to be home vs work be there. If it were not for working mom’s I wouldn’t have sah child care. But your kids want you sometimes. Isn’t that nice to know.
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> I am a single mother who’s supported my child on my own since he was 6 > months old
On your own? It takes two to make a baby, and two should help bring that child up. I hope you have exhausted all efforts to make that child’s father help with the finances; it is his legal (not to mention moral) obligation. Mike
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->> Hey! How’ s the Beaver and Ward? >> Just curious, Jen >——- >So, who’s the child here? >This was unnecessary and childish comment. >really what was rude and unnecessary was the need to bash a working >mother who has asked for guidance on a problem she is having at day >care. >Taylor
Nobody bashed on a working mother.. and the whole point was that YES everyone knows people "need" to work in this day and age the point was as a day care provider [not some basher] that nobody loves your kid as much as you do. {unless its family} because we stay home because we want our career to be our kids doesn’t make US June and Ward Cleaver. I chose to be a mom thats, what I want to be. The bashing started with a working person probably laiden with guilt.. had to throw in a cynical comment. Its great to know this support network is so nice & full of such *warm* parents. TO work or not to work was not the issue.
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>> Hey! How’ s the Beaver and Ward? > Just curious, Jen >——- >So, who’s the child here? >This was unnecessary and childish comment.
really what was rude and unnecessary was the need to bash a working mother who has asked for guidance on a problem she is having at day care. Taylor
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> Hey! How’ s the Beaver and Ward? > Just curious, Jen
——- So, who’s the child here? This was unnecessary and childish comment. >You are right. Kids/babies NEED their parents. They do. >When they get hit/bit/fall they want their mommy/daddy. >I stay at home to be with my two children. I realize everyone >can’t be this lucky. I also am educated and miss my work. ><cut>
>Kelly Hudson RN- sah mom to sam 2/13/94 & meagan 4/11/96 – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->a MONDAY MORNING INC childcare provider.
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I just cannot believe this woman who said "if we can’t take care of our kids ourselves, lets not have any". Are you actually saying that woman who can’t find a rich man to fully support them so they can stay home should not have kids? Or should they go on welfare? I am a single mother who’s supported my child on my own since he was 6 months old, and I really resent the fact that I would be considered a 2nd class mother by some people because I work my butt of to support this child I brought into they world. So I should not be granted the joys of motherhood because my financial situation is not ideal? I think that you women with your money making husbands and your housekeepers should try living like the rest of us for a day before you make your judgement on how important our kids are to us. And I agree with the girl who asked, "how are Ward and the Beav?".
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > So many people who say they can’t afford it, could if they > made sacrifices. The bottom line is, the children are being sacrificed in > favor of the job and the ‘things’. I am deeply in debt and going deeper, > but I will not take more work while my child is young. I can catch up > later. I go nuts big time not having any kind of ‘life’, but being a > parent is about being ‘other’ centered, not self centered. There are a > thousand ways to deal with the ‘nuts’ and the money issues without > abandoning your babies. There are tons of groups/networks etc that deal > with ’simplifying’ your life so you can get by on less, a big movement of > stay at home dads supporting one another, and many things we can do > personally to deal with this. It’s only temporary, after all. And if we > can’t find anything to help us cope with the crazies, then we walk through > the fire and come out gold! Sacrificing for your baby is a glorious thing! > Lets celebrate it, instead of vilifying it. Pain and suffering for a > worthy cause makes us grow in ways we never imagined. We can find strength > and coping skills we can use later in other arenas. Lets not think of > ourselves first guys(generic meaning gals too) > And if we can’t take care of our kids ourselves, lets not have any more, > ok.
One question: did you have your debt before you had kids? What are you doing going deeper into debt, what kind of life does that give your children? (Rhetorical question. You said we shouldn’t have more kids if we can’t stay home…my point is that we shouldn’t be questioning each other’s choices. We can all be taken to task for something.) I don’t think that for most working moms it’s a question of luxuries. (As in, gee, if I stay home, I’ll have to drive a Ford instead of a Lexus). Most women work because they have to. A lot of sacrifices can be made to enable a person to stay home, yes, but not *everyone* can do it. Case in point: I am 24 years old, seven months pregnant with our first child. I will most likely have to return to work once the baby is born. I HAD to have a child now, since my doctors told me that (due to fertility/ health problems) if I waited much longer I probably would never be able to have children at all. Are you trying to tell me that I should’ve decided not to pursue my opportunity to have a child just because I’d have to go back to work? I don’t think so. Women have fought for several decades to have *choices* about motherhood. When and if to have children, whether to work or stay home. The last thing we need is to have women telling each other that the only "right" choice is staying at home. And, for the record, it REALLY ticks me off when I hear SAH women say everyone could afford it if they just juggled their money better. If your husband makes, say $2000 a month take-home, and your house payment alone is $1600, tell me how you can afford everything else on the balance. I’ve seen it happen to people I know. You’re not doing your children any favors if you file bankruptcy! We need to teach our kids that responsibilities come first, and in real life paying one’s bills has to take priority. Yeah, sure, you could sell your house and live somewhere cheaper, but in the meantime the bills have to be paid. We all have a responsibility to our children, true; but this includes keeping a roof over their head and food in their stomach. In today’s world, it often does require two incomes to achieve these goals. FWIW, I would like to stay home with my son because I’d like to be there for him. But I refuse to beat myself up over it if it just isn’t possible. Mothers have enough to worry about without being told that they’re "bad mothers" if they have to, or choose to, work. Holly
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>I don’t need to work, I want to work. I think my children have benefited >from child care, as opposed to being with me all the time, because I would >be a nut-case! My husband wouldn’t be able to be full time child carer >either, although we could afford it either way. > You are right. Kids/babies NEED their parents. They do. > When they get hit/bit/fall they want their mommy/daddy. > I stay at home to be with my two children. I realize everyone > can’t be this lucky. >(snipped)
Like I said in the posts.. you want to work.. so you WANT to work because your kids drive you nutty.. hmm thats good. Not that mine don’t drive me nutty too but its part of the job and the job I have at the moment is motherhood as I said NO ONE loves your kids [with the exception of family] like you do. Maybe yes they have benefited some from "day-care" but if and when they are having a bad moment your kids need you. How selfish to think that you "need" to work when your kids are only young for so long. This is not a debate on working vs staying home. In this day and age some people have no choice due to loans/mortgages and such. The point is your kids may/may not love childcare and or have fun but they miss you sometimes/ sometimes they need you more then you will ever know! Its about being a parent and being there for your kids. What I believe to be best is obvious not right or wrong and your choice to work vs wanting to be there most of their days is obviously your choice. I gave up a great job to be here for the most important job because no matter how many $$ [bucks] I shell out noone will care for them as well as I do. I wouldn’t want anyone else there for them as nutty as it can get. Life is to short to miss these times together.. my job [nursing] will always be there when my kids aren’t. I am a caring supportive care taker I love the kids that come here but not like I love my own. They get super care/activities etc.. but I am not the mom/dad that they need sometimes during bad moments. Thats my point.
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Hey! How’ s the Beaver and Ward? Just curious, Jen – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->You are right. Kids/babies NEED their parents. They do. >When they get hit/bit/fall they want their mommy/daddy. >I stay at home to be with my two children. I realize everyone >can’t be this lucky. I also am educated and miss my work. >However I made the choice to be a mom and I want to be here 100% >for my kids. I supplement my income and offer childcare her at home. >Its not my nurses salary by far but I am here 100% for my kids. I offer >excellent care to the others I care for but I am far from their mom/dad. >Its very hard not to have two salaries in this day and age. >It breaks my heart to know a new mom has to hand over a 2- >3 mos old and go back to work. Yes I think to myself "WHY BOTHER" >then again I know the struggles of needing two incomes. Some of >the people will throw in I would die without my career. Yeagh ok. >I miss my career too a ton but it will always be there. I am not >saying to stay home or work is the right choice. Its a personal choice. >But as a childcare provider I offer great lovng care. But there is >nothing better in the world then mom or dad. Its a shame we can’t >have longer paid family leave as a country. Or that we shouldn’t >have some lisence to have babies. I mean we need one to drive, >etc.. yet people have babies [a life long 24 hour a day commitment] >and don’t realize the long run day to day struggles. Bottom line >kids need you they want you and you need to be there. >If it weren’t for working parents I wouldn’t have a job. >But I also say I’d sacrafice a buck to have you all be able >to have your kids every day. IMHO >Kelly Hudson RN- sah mom to sam 2/13/94 & meagan 4/11/96 >a MONDAY MORNING INC childcare provider.
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> Hey! How’ s the Beaver and Ward? >Just curious, Jen >Geez Jen are you ever a funny person. My ribs ache.
I love being at home I think its great to see every aspect of my kids life. Only thing is Jen, that I have a cleaning lady I don’t clean like June did. I save my pearls & heels for special occasions. You think your child is being well cared for perhaps they are but they are missing you something fierce. How sad to be a parent and not be "there". Like I said I get the whole fact that people "need" to work. lada lada lada save your whole song and dance. kids need their parents. They want you when something fails. No matter what your story is for day care/child care what-ever nobody [unless its family] loves your kid like you do.
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> >I don’t need to work, I want to work. I think my children have benefited >from child care, as opposed to being with me all the time, because I would >be a nut-case! My husband wouldn’t be able to be full time child carer >either, although we could afford it either way.
> Like I said in the posts.. you want to work.. so you WANT to work because your > kids drive you nutty.. hmm thats good. Not that mine don’t drive > me nutty too but its part of the job and the job I have at the moment > is motherhood as I said NO ONE loves your kids [with the exception of family] > like you do. Maybe yes they have benefited some from "day-care" > but if and when they are having a bad moment your kids need you. > How selfish to think that you "need" to work when your kids are > only young for so long.
—— Amen to that! So many people who say they can’t afford it, could if they made sacrifices. The bottom line is, the children are being sacrificed in favor of the job and the ‘things’. I am deeply in debt and going deeper, but I will not take more work while my child is young. I can catch up later. I go nuts big time not having any kind of ‘life’, but being a parent is about being ‘other’ centered, not self centered. There are a thousand ways to deal with the ‘nuts’ and the money issues without abandoning your babies. There are tons of groups/networks etc that deal with ’simplifying’ your life so you can get by on less, a big movement of stay at home dads supporting one another, and many things we can do personally to deal with this. It’s only temporary, after all. And if we can’t find anything to help us cope with the crazies, then we walk through the fire and come out gold! Sacrificing for your baby is a glorious thing! Lets celebrate it, instead of vilifying it. Pain and suffering for a worthy cause makes us grow in ways we never imagined. We can find strength and coping skills we can use later in other arenas. Lets not think of ourselves first guys(generic meaning gals too) And if we can’t take care of our kids ourselves, lets not have any more, ok.
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You are right. Kids/babies NEED their parents. They do. When they get hit/bit/fall they want their mommy/daddy. I stay at home to be with my two children. I realize everyone can’t be this lucky. I also am educated and miss my work. However I made the choice to be a mom and I want to be here 100% for my kids. I supplement my income and offer childcare her at home. Its not my nurses salary by far but I am here 100% for my kids. I offer excellent care to the others I care for but I am far from their mom/dad. Its very hard not to have two salaries in this day and age. It breaks my heart to know a new mom has to hand over a 2- 3 mos old and go back to work. Yes I think to myself "WHY BOTHER" then again I know the struggles of needing two incomes. Some of the people will throw in I would die without my career. Yeagh ok. I miss my career too a ton but it will always be there. I am not saying to stay home or work is the right choice. Its a personal choice. But as a childcare provider I offer great lovng care. But there is nothing better in the world then mom or dad. Its a shame we can’t have longer paid family leave as a country. Or that we shouldn’t have some lisence to have babies. I mean we need one to drive, etc.. yet people have babies [a life long 24 hour a day commitment] and don’t realize the long run day to day struggles. Bottom line kids need you they want you and you need to be there. If it weren’t for working parents I wouldn’t have a job. But I also say I’d sacrafice a buck to have you all be able to have your kids every day. IMHO Kelly Hudson RN- sah mom to sam 2/13/94 & meagan 4/11/96 a MONDAY MORNING INC childcare provider.
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I don’t need to work, I want to work. I think my children have benefited from child care, as opposed to being with me all the time, because I would be a nut-case! My husband wouldn’t be able to be full time child carer either, although we could afford it either way. > You are right. Kids/babies NEED their parents. They do. > When they get hit/bit/fall they want their mommy/daddy. > I stay at home to be with my two children. I realize everyone > can’t be this lucky.
(snipped)
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> >Train your kid to shout: "Hey, I don’t like that. NO HITTING ME!" > BTW, this is a lot easier for the kid to say if he’s not routinely hit by > his parents. > – Ron Low
It can be hard even if parents DON’T hit. I’m having a heck of a time getting my twins to tell each other "STOP IT!!" rather than hitting and shoving when brother does something they don’t like. OK, they are not quite two years old, but they DO have the verbal skills to say this, they just have the automatic "scream and shove" reaction. –Summer
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>Train your kid to shout: "Hey, I don’t like that. NO HITTING ME!"
BTW, this is a lot easier for the kid to say if he’s not routinely hit by his parents. – Ron Low Levity is the dearth of gravity. Brevity is the height of clarity. non-commercial e-mail always welcome
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Dear Original Poster: A tricky one. I think it is entirely up to the provider to sort it out. I don’t think it should be left to you, and frankly her response wouyld make me worry about her. Have you tried talking to the OTHER moms who use this provider? Not the hitter’s mom, but the other mothers? You might all need to approach the daycare provider ina body and ask that something be done. Set a limit (‘we’re looking for this to be resolved in a fortnight’) and explain that if it isn’t you’ll all look for another provider. I know this sounds tough, but your child’s welfare is at stake. On a more reassuring note, has this been going on for long? My son went through a phase of biting other children; it only lasted a week because we all came down on him so hard for it. Maybe the other child has some stress at home that is making him aggressive; this is the only thing you might learn from talking to his mom. > Why isnt anyone helping the people >asking questions about ‘aggressive’ 2 yr olds etc by suggesting they >shouldn’t be in daycare that young. (yes, I’m aware the original poster >wasn’t the one with the aggressive child – this is just a general >observation)
Well, except that the original poster showed that onely one of the children in daycare was aggressive. So how can daycare be to blame? I think what you may be saying is that there are children who need more parental attention than others. Very fair point. What wouldn’t be fair is to assert that all kids in daycare have behaviour problems. — Jane Lumley
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ven though I am a single parent and working poor, when my son is having a problem at school/daycare, my first instinct is to try and get him out of daycare and raise him myself as much as poss. Why in this thread doesn’t anyone ever mention that maybe a 2-3 year old would be better served being raised by a parent? I’m sorry if I’m stepping on toes – obviously there are situations where someone is abandoned with kids and has to work (and people like me whose child has to suffer daycare because of me) but why are such young kids in daycare the first place if there is a 2 parent home? My son has a little trouble adjusting to 1st grade and I can’t sit at work and let ‘them’ handle it. I am pulling him from the afterschool daycare so I can help him myself.(unfortunately his father won’t take any time off so it falls to me) Why isnt anyone helping the people asking questions about ‘aggressive’ 2 yr olds etc by suggesting they shouldn’t be in daycare that young. (yes, I’m aware the original poster wasn’t the one with the aggressive child – this is just a general observation) So what do you think about my idea? My son isn’t paying attention in class, they are doing their ‘colors’ and my son has been reading for 2 yrs and can add and sub. to 100 and they are coloring in coloring books. He is getting disciplined every day and now he is misbehaving on the playground. I believe he is best served by me, his mommy, breaking away from work and finding out what’s going on. I can punish and ‘discipline’ when we get home, but obviously something is bugging him. Am I wrong? Should I just stay at work and leave him in daycare until 5? That is what it appears people prefer. Am I wrong to think that’s wrong?
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This completely P*****s me off. You are not the one who needs to be working this problem out. Your child is not the problem – she is one of the children being victimized. Your daycare provider needs to get a spine and handle the situation professionally. She needs to work with the hitters parent and if this situation cannot be resolved in a reasonable amount of time the hitter must go. I had this same situation at my son’s home daycare but with bitting. When he was first bit the provider and I talked and it was a clear understanding between us that if the bitter couldn’t be rehabilitated than the bitter would have to go – I didn’t have a pow wow with the bitters mom – how ridiculous ! You pay the provider to provide a safe atmosphere for your child. Why she would be asking you to do her job I cannot imagine. BTW once the bitting started the other kids did start to do it – however they wouldn’t have started if it hadn’t been for that first bitter. Do not let them tell you that now your daughter hits so she is part of the problem (if that’s what they try to say). Get rid of the original problem and everyone goes back to being happy. BTW did she ask the mother of the little baby to speak with the hitter’s mom? Just curious. Sorry for the rant tone – this kind of responsibility shift just gets me irate. — – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I have a question I hope some of you can help me with….My daughter > goes to daycare four days a week, and has actually always enjoyed > going to "school". She is a shy 2.5 year old and at this point an only > child. A new child started attending daycare with her 3 months ago, > (there are only 5 kids at her daycare) and this new child is very > aggressive. She is constantky hitting my child during the "drop off" > time as well as during the day.(One day I counted seven times). She > also hits the little baby that goes there as well. My daycare provider > has been working diligently and the situation has gotten better but > still exists. I have had repeated conversations about the situation > with my daycare provider and she assures me it is much better during > the day. Well my daughter now is telling me she does not want to go to > "school" and when we get there it is not always easy to leave her > because she now cries repeatedly when I leave. I have told my daycare > provider that I am not happy and I believe my child is having trouble > emotionally because of all the new aggression. She has asked me to > have a meeting with the "hitters" mom to see if we can work this out? > What are your thoughts on this and thank you for letting me vent my > question…..
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>{The provider] has asked me to >have a meeting with the "hitter’s" mom
It’s not for you and the other mom to work out. The provider can talk to you and assure you she will make your child safe and happy. But she really needs to talk with the other mom herself and outline a strategy that will be followed at school and in the aggressor’s home. Be prepared to stomp out of that joint soon if you don’t get satisfaction. In the meantime, prepare your child for this type of aggressive encounter. The frequently-guilty kid could be removed, and your child would still need to deal with this behavior from various other toddlers. Train your kid to shout: "Hey, I don’t like that. NO HITTING ME!" It would be best if she could then walk away from the aggressor, although by this point, the teacher should be on the spot to hug the victim and turn a cold shoulder to the aggressor. – Ron Low Levity is the dearth of gravity. Brevity is the height of clarity. non-commercial e-mail always welcome
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> I have told my daycare >provider that I am not happy and I believe my child is having trouble >emotionally because of all the new aggression. She has asked me to >have a meeting with the "hitters" mom to see if we can work this out? >What are your thoughts on this and thank you for letting me vent my >question…..
As the mother of an aggressive child I think this would only put the mother on the defensive. I have had to remove my child from several school’s because of his altercations. I finally found a day care where fortunately (or not so fortunately) the other children hold their own. They also just moved him up to the 3 yr old class (he is 2) because he was bored and his aggression is much less now. But if this is a home day care with only 5 kids this would not be a likely solution. Taylor
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->I have a question I hope some of you can help me with….My daughter >goes to daycare four days a week, and has actually always enjoyed >going to "school". She is a shy 2.5 year old and at this point an only >child. A new child started attending daycare with her 3 months ago, >(there are only 5 kids at her daycare) and this new child is very >aggressive. She is constantky hitting my child during the "drop off" >time as well as during the day.(One day I counted seven times). She >also hits the little baby that goes there as well. My daycare provider >has been working diligently and the situation has gotten better but >still exists. I have had repeated conversations about the situation >with my daycare provider and she assures me it is much better during >the day. Well my daughter now is telling me she does not want to go to >"school" and when we get there it is not always easy to leave her >because she now cries repeatedly when I leave. I have told my daycare >provider that I am not happy and I believe my child is having trouble >emotionally because of all the new aggression. She has asked me to >have a meeting with the "hitters" mom to see if we can work this out? >What are your thoughts on this and thank you for letting me vent my >question…..
Wow well I am a day care provider { A MONDAY MORNING MOM} And I am sure the day care provider if she is trying is quite stressed about it too. Try to be reasonable to her too. I would talk to the other’s parents for sure. I heard advice at a metting for my co. the other nite where we [provders] go and vent about "bad" kids/ pain in the butt parents. And I heard advice that you give your daughter all this great attention/ ignore this "bad" kid and separate them. If bad kid hits this bad kid goes to the time out area and your daughter gets the ooss’ and ahh and hug’s. THe other child is virtually ignored [other then being told again NO] and put else where [safe and timed out for a min or so] The parents of this child should really stick to the same guns as the provider and its enforced hitting is not tolerated. All kids hit/bite at some point but should not be allowed to get away with it with "rules"/ I am sorry your child is having a time of it due to a bully.. my daughter is the bully here.. and I am implementing this tactic.. good luck. kelly hudson RN sah mom to sam 2/13/94 & meagan 4/11/96 a Monday morning Inc. day care provider.
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I have a question I hope some of you can help me with….My daughter goes to daycare four days a week, and has actually always enjoyed going to "school". She is a shy 2.5 year old and at this point an only child. A new child started attending daycare with her 3 months ago, (there are only 5 kids at her daycare) and this new child is very aggressive. She is constantky hitting my child during the "drop off" time as well as during the day.(One day I counted seven times). She also hits the little baby that goes there as well. My daycare provider has been working diligently and the situation has gotten better but still exists. I have had repeated conversations about the situation with my daycare provider and she assures me it is much better during the day. Well my daughter now is telling me she does not want to go to "school" and when we get there it is not always easy to leave her because she now cries repeatedly when I leave. I have told my daycare provider that I am not happy and I believe my child is having trouble emotionally because of all the new aggression. She has asked me to have a meeting with the "hitters" mom to see if we can work this out? What are your thoughts on this and thank you for letting me vent my question…..
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > I have a question I hope some of you can help me with….My daughter > goes to daycare four days a week, and has actually always enjoyed > going to "school". She is a shy 2.5 year old and at this point an only > child. A new child started attending daycare with her 3 months ago, > (there are only 5 kids at her daycare) and this new child is very > aggressive. She is constantky hitting my child during the "drop off" > time as well as during the day.(One day I counted seven times). She > also hits the little baby that goes there as well. My daycare provider > has been working diligently and the situation has gotten better but > still exists. I have had repeated conversations about the situation > with my daycare provider and she assures me it is much better during > the day. Well my daughter now is telling me she does not want to go to > "school" and when we get there it is not always easy to leave her > because she now cries repeatedly when I leave. I have told my daycare > provider that I am not happy and I believe my child is having trouble > emotionally because of all the new aggression. She has asked me to > have a meeting with the "hitters" mom to see if we can work this out? > What are your thoughts on this and thank you for letting me vent my > question…..
Most daycares would not tolerate prolonged aggression. It is not for you to "work it out" but for the provider to handle. She needs to either intervene to get the aggressive child to find other ways to express self or else ask the child’s parent to find another daycare. This involves more than just your child. If the daycare provider is unwilling to take action, then you need to find a new provider because it isn’t fair to subject your daughter to this…it is quite stressful for her. Heidi
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