Pure Parents

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>I always did and still do kiss them. But he was just trying to get me not to >run over and make a big deal out of them just falling on their butts. >Marie

sure, I kiss the owies too, but I don’t react hysterically over them.  An owie on the mouth gets a kiss and a popsicle (easier than getting them to kep ice on their lip), sure, always with sympathy, but I don’t over-react.   I did have a hard time controlling myself when my DD at 5.5 yrs old poked her toothbrush through the back of her mouth and was bleeding.  But even though, I did ok.  And she did too, waited patiently on the couch (with a popsicle) while I called the Dr.  I did try to make myself out-of-earshot while expressing my concerns to the Doc.   Krystal We have enough youth, how about a fountain of smart? Eat the "treat" in my address to e-mail me.

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My husband used to say "Whee!" when they’d fall down (when he could tell it wasn’t a serious fall) and they wouldn’t cry. I thought it was mean at first not to react and give sympathy, but I saw it did make them cry more when I did react. My MIL always gives them band-aids when they fall, though, whether they need them or not and so now they always ask for them. Marie

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->I think the best parenting advice I ever got was from my DH’s supervisor’s >wife, when I was expecting my first.  Her two girls were tom-boys, and were >constantly coming home with scrapes abd bruises.  to which I would always >respond to with a great big *GASP* their mother told me not to let them know it >is supposed to be traumatic, and they will never see it that way.  I handle >owies very calmly (well, as calmly as possible) and my kids don’t carry on and >on about them. >BTW, the friend I mentioned, her daughter at age 7, fell and knocked her two >front teeth out.  She came to her dad, and spit them into his hand.  Didn’t cry >at all.  What a Woman! >Krystal >We have enough youth, how about a fountain of smart? >Eat the "treat" in my address to e-mail me.

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>>BTW, the friend I mentioned, her daughter at age 7, fell and knocked her >two >front teeth out.  She came to her dad, and spit them into his hand.  Didn’t >cry >at all.  What a Woman! >Krystal

I’m responding to my own post! OT< but… I remembered today, that this accident happened on Halloween morning, and Kristle (the 7 yr old girl who fell) decided to be a Jack-O-Lantern for Trick-or-treating instead of what she had been planning to be.  LOL, she was a funny girl. Krystal We have enough youth, how about a fountain of smart? Eat the "treat" in my address to e-mail me.

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Unfortunately, it is a well documented fact (ref on request) that only mommies have the power to kiss boo-boos and make them feel better. Daddies have to get by with pathetic ‘Whee!’s or gruff ‘Yeah, so what?’s. Lance (Glad to see you around Curlytoons. You’ve been lurking or what?) – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> My husband used to say "Whee!" when they’d fall down (when he could tell it > wasn’t a serious fall) and they wouldn’t cry. I thought it was mean at first > not to react and give sympathy, but I saw it did make them cry more when I > did react. > Sometimes all the little girl wants is a kiss on the booboo.  "Whee!" > doesn’t really express that.

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I always did and still do kiss them. But he was just trying to get me not to run over and make a big deal out of them just falling on their butts. Marie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> My husband used to say "Whee!" when they’d fall down (when he could tell it > wasn’t a serious fall) and they wouldn’t cry. I thought it was mean at first > not to react and give sympathy, but I saw it did make them cry more when I > did react. >Sometimes all the little girl wants is a kiss on the booboo.  "Whee!" >doesn’t really express that. >– >Curlytoons

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> > My husband used to say "Whee!" when they’d fall down (when he could tell it > wasn’t a serious fall) and they wouldn’t cry. I thought it was mean at first > not to react and give sympathy, but I saw it did make them cry more when I > did react. > Sometimes all the little girl wants is a kiss on the booboo.  "Whee!" > doesn’t really express that. > — > Curlytoons

Making light of the whole affair is a good option.  We have also never over-reacted to our girls little bumps and bruises, they still get a kiss to make it all better and that’s usually the end of it.  We only see a need to react when there is a need to worry such as a hard bang on the head as Maia is prone to.  I get together with my cousin a lot who will do all the reacting if my girls fall over and I now can see the confusion on their face as though they want to say: ‘what’s your problem?’.  Maia has now taken to saying: ‘Maia’s alright now’.  It’s very cute. Leonie.

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Making light of the whole affair is a good option.  We have also never > over-reacted to our girls little bumps and bruises, they still get a > kiss to make it all better and that’s usually the end of it. > Sometimes my little girl wants just a little > overreaction.  With two boys who get nor want any of that > I’ve got to sorta jog myself to remember that not all of > the kids are the same.  My seven year old daughter > actually brought that up to me several months ago and > I’ve been a little better at showing the sympathy. > — > Curlytoons

That’s a good point.  I’m so used to my two girls and how they are with the world.  Little boys are more of an enigma to me and as we aren’t going to have any more kids, I guess they always will be.  It makes perfect sense for a little girl with two brothers to want to be a bit different from them.  Thanks for reminding me. Leonie.

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I now require visible blood before handing out the bandaides. Take Care! Vicki Surratt Proud Mom of Kathy (6) and Jenny (9)! Visit my website!  http://www.webcom.com/vicki/ Come see the Newsgroup Photo Album! – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Gosh, what an excellent point of view! > My 3 y/o is such a hypochondriac that when he is having a bm he thinks I > need to call the doctor for him! > I should have stock in band-aid comp.  I hate the day they EVER thought that > Disney movie band-aids were a good idea.  My son wears them all over.  He’d > go to daycare with 5 or 6 on everyday if I’d let him.  He doesn’t have a > single scratch on him that requires a Band-Aid either! > ~Jennifer

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I think it depends on the kid.  I grew up with two older brothers, and I just learned to be tough.  If I wanted to play rough, I had to learn how to take it.  I did, and even now I don’t react to small hurts much. Take Care! Vicki Surratt Proud Mom of Kathy (6) and Jenny (9)! Visit my website!  http://www.webcom.com/vicki/ Come see the Newsgroup Photo Album! – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > That’s a good point.  I’m so used to my two girls and how they are with > the world.  Little boys are more of an enigma to me and as we aren’t > going to have any more kids, I guess they always will be.  It makes > perfect sense for a little girl with two brothers to want to be a bit > different from them.  Thanks for reminding me.

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yes, we have a "no juice, no bandaid" rule in our house, as well.  If not, my children tend to walk around looking like the sunday funnies!  (Juice is a less fearful word for my girls than blood, it seems!  LOL!) Blessings, Tam

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->I now require visible blood before handing out the bandaides. >Take Care! >Vicki Surratt >Proud Mom of Kathy (6) and Jenny (9)!

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>not to let them know it is supposed to be traumatic, and they will never

see it >that way. Gosh, what an excellent point of view! My 3 y/o is such a hypochondriac that when he is having a bm he thinks I need to call the doctor for him! I should have stock in band-aid comp.  I hate the day they EVER thought that Disney movie band-aids were a good idea.  My son wears them all over.  He’d go to daycare with 5 or 6 on everyday if I’d let him.  He doesn’t have a single scratch on him that requires a Band-Aid either! ~Jennifer

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> My husband used to say "Whee!" when they’d fall down (when he could tell it > wasn’t a serious fall) and they wouldn’t cry. I thought it was mean at first > not to react and give sympathy, but I saw it did make them cry more when I > did react. > My MIL always gives them band-aids when they fall, though, whether they need > them or not and so now they always ask for them. > Marie >I think the best parenting advice I ever got was from my DH’s supervisor’s >wife, when I was expecting my first.  Her two girls were tom-boys, and were >constantly coming home with scrapes abd bruises.  to which I would always >respond to with a great big *GASP* their mother told me not to let them > know it >is supposed to be traumatic, and they will never see it that way.  I handle >owies very calmly (well, as calmly as possible) and my kids don’t carry on > and >on about them. >BTW, the friend I mentioned, her daughter at age 7, fell and knocked her > two >front teeth out.  She came to her dad, and spit them into his hand. Didn’t > cry >at all.  What a Woman! >Krystal >We have enough youth, how about a fountain of smart? >Eat the "treat" in my address to e-mail me.

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I think the best parenting advice I ever got was from my DH’s supervisor’s wife, when I was expecting my first.  Her two girls were tom-boys, and were constantly coming home with scrapes abd bruises.  to which I would always respond to with a great big *GASP* their mother told me not to let them know it is supposed to be traumatic, and they will never see it that way.  I handle owies very calmly (well, as calmly as possible) and my kids don’t carry on and on about them. BTW, the friend I mentioned, her daughter at age 7, fell and knocked her two front teeth out.  She came to her dad, and spit them into his hand.  Didn’t cry at all.  What a Woman! Krystal We have enough youth, how about a fountain of smart? Eat the "treat" in my address to e-mail me.

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