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Yes! Let your kids be kids, but kids WILL be kids regardless of what we do. Maybe we should focus more on our attitudes as parents. Parenting can and should be a joy, not a chore or a contest. I could worry over the fact my 2 1/2 year old twins are not even the least bit interested in toilet training, but i prefer to focus on the fact they have just discovered their imaginations. They run thru the room chasing am imaginary "masked offender" that had stollen their invisible magic hat that allows them to fly. I could yell at them for running in the house and yelling inside, but i chose to run with them, chasing and catching that invisible theif. I became a part of their MAGIC. adn that is what childhood is made of MAGIC and that is exactly what many of us as adults have lost….. Magic…. the ability to see things that aren’t there, to dream, to fly, to see thru the eyes of a child…….
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(Lynniepoo2) writes: > come to think of it, that’s just what these other >posters are doing… asking for advice from more experienced parents. We >didn’t have AOL 14 years ago. As long as they don’t choose one person’s >advice as gospel and become frantic when the word "should" is used, they >ought to be able to see when their children are ready to move on. >But let’s be understanding and not consider the questions petty. Perhaps >we’ve all asked these questions, but maybe only to ourselves and never >aloud.
I have never really thought of it this way but you are very correct! It will be interesting to see how this new generation fares with parents that surfed the net for advice. They say the nuclear and extended family are detereoating, maybe the Internet will be an adequate substitute for grandmother’s wisdom. .
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>I am sure I will catch a lot of ridicule for this… But.. such is life. >So many people are concerned with such petty things ie. When should my kid >give up the bottle.. when can I potty train her/him… Shouldn’t we let the >CHILD decide when the best time is instead of FORCING them to do what they >aren’t ready to do? So many people are RUSHING their kids. Why not let the >child be just that? a child. Let her/him advance on their OWN.
I couldn’t agree with you more. Exactly!!!! They are CHILDREN and should be allowed to act as CHILDREN. Adulthood comes too soon anyway!!!
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I also agree with you. The pediatrician has been a great one for saying when to do things. My daughter (Kristen) is 22 months old, and still takes a bottle at nighttime, in our arms, and is awake when we put her in bed. I can’t see that that is as awful a thing as trying to take that away from her now. With my now 9 year old son, my philosophy has always been not to worry, by the time they got to Prom (or college) they will not be doing these kid things. That’s good enough for me. Annette
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> I have been scanning through this group for almost a year. I have yet to post > something here. This is my first one… > I am sure I will catch a lot of ridicule for this… But.. such is life. > So many people are concerned with such petty things ie. When should my kid > give up the bottle.. when can I potty train her/him… Shouldn’t we let the > CHILD decide when the best time is instead of FORCING them to do what they > aren’t ready to do? So many people are RUSHING their kids. Why not let the > child be just that? a child. Let her/him advance on their OWN. > My thoughts…. > Lisa mom to Kristin 19 months.
’cause their child is 3 and not fully potty trained, or is a year old and not speaking in complete sentences. I think the important thing is to love ‘em & make the most of the time we have with them. Anymore, when I hear that someone else’s child was "far ahead" of my own, I just smile & nod and let it slide 
Beth Mom to Geoffrey (3) and Nathan (9 months)
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I have been scanning through this group for almost a year. I have yet to post something here. This is my first one… I am sure I will catch a lot of ridicule for this… But.. such is life. So many people are concerned with such petty things ie. When should my kid give up the bottle.. when can I potty train her/him… Shouldn’t we let the CHILD decide when the best time is instead of FORCING them to do what they aren’t ready to do? So many people are RUSHING their kids. Why not let the child be just that? a child. Let her/him advance on their OWN. My thoughts…. Lisa mom to Kristin 19 months.
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