Question:
> To those of you who get on soapboxes to proclaim that spanking is aboslutely > wrong or that people who spank are somehow inferior — shame on you. > DCK
Hear Hear!!!! We’re all trying to do the best we can to raise our kids to be healthy, well-adjusted adults! Let’s try not to be so critical of one another’s different styles!
Response:
Let’s try not to be so >critical of one another’s different styles!
Assaulting a child by physically harming them, is not a "style"…it is an assault. No one can get through life committing acts of violence against another human being, without being criticized, shunned, shamed, and ostracized by non-violent human beings.
Response:
A while ago I publically wondered if there were any people opposed to spanking who had more than one child. What I was looking for were people who can’t restrain themselves from standing on a soapbox and telling others what is right and wrong when it comes to spanking. Here are the results: 1. I got lots of responses from people who are non-spankers (people who don’t spank, but who don’t get on a soapbox). 2. I got one response from a mother of a 2 1/2 year old child, who is an anti-spanking soapboxer. 3. I got one response from a mother of two (ages 10 and 12) who is also an anti-spanking soapboxer. 4. Unfortunately, most of the anti-spankers on this group, didn’t respond. What was the point? Mostly just a personal curiousity. I wondered if there was a correlation between the complexity of one’s own family constellation and one’s willingness to judge the parenting efforts of others (not a correlation between spanking and more than one child). I have found that the more complex my family constellation becomes (increasing numbers of relationships, developmental stages, etc.), the less I know about parenting. Everytime I think I’ve got it figured out, everything changes, and I have to start learning all over again. Not to despair — that is what parenting is all about. But, everytime it happens, it reminds me that I am completely ill equipped to judge others in their parenting efforts. I can’t fully appreciate the family dynamics they face. I don’t know what they’ve tried. I don’t know what has changed. I don’t know what stresses they are facing in their lives. I simply can’t understand people who think they are equipped to judge by imposing hard and fast rules about what is okay and what is not. So, to all of you non-spankers — Kudos!!! Keep up the good work. To all of you who try not to spank — Kudos, too. Keep trying. To those of you who think spanking is great — rethink. To those of you who get on soapboxes to proclaim that spanking is aboslutely wrong or that people who spank are somehow inferior — shame on you. DCK
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