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In the One Step Ahead catalog (I think) there is this nifty thing that you keep by your bed that keeps bottles cool until you needs them and then warms them for nighttime feedings. I have never had to use it–breast milk is always the right temperature!–but they looked handy for situations such as these. kendra
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Brenna, thanks for your reply, you seem to feel the same way that I do. I think I’m a good parent personally (heck I love my son too much to not do my best). My friend has 3 children. (Her parenting methods are radically different than mine. I find her kids rude, vulgar, not focused, not athletic, not knowing how to pick friends that are positive influences and not serious enough about their studies. She doesn’t really mind.) She has come in and gotten my son fed and changed in the morning before(usually about 3 times a month). She tells me off when she does it and goes on about it for days. Your son sounds like mine. Often all I have to do is look over at his cot and make eye contact with him and he stops and smiles with the knowledge that I know he’s awake. Once I pick him up, he is often happy to sit and babble with me for a while before his morning feed. I think I’ll do what I feel is best regardless of what my friend tells me. Douglas dad to Douglas 20.2.98 – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->—–Original Message—– >Newsgroups: alt.parenting.solutions >A few questions for you: >1. Do you believe that you are a bad parent? >Oh,BTW –engery and mornings donot ever ever ever belong in the same >sentence. >That is a horrifying thought!!!!! >2. Does ‘your friend’ have children? If she can not stand to hear the baby >cry, why doesn’t she get up and comfort the child until you peel your >eyelids open? >My son usually wakes me up when he cries in the morning. When I stumble >into his room and look down >the little darling just looks up at me as if to say: Hi Mommie….Can I >have a bottle please…. >then you can go back to sleep. >I let myself ‘fall into that trap, of believing that I was a bad mother >because I wasn’t able to >do everything. My son is happy, healthly and gets into everything as fast >as he can manage it. Just because you are a slow waker in the >morning…your child will survive. Believe me you will KNOW when it is a >cry of distress and not just a "Hey….everyone wake up…I’m awake…. >Brenna >Mommy to Connor, the lean, mean walking talking machine…..
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Wow that sounds like a very useful product that I’d love to get my hands on. Do you know what the name of the product is? Douglas ——- Web Page: http://www.geocities.com/Hollywood/Theater/8962/index.htm – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >In the One Step Ahead catalog (I think) there is this nifty thing that you >keep by your bed that keeps bottles cool until you needs them and then >warms them for nighttime feedings. I have never had to use it–breast >milk is always the right temperature!–but they looked handy for >situations such as these. kendra
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I am a single parent as well as a student. I find that after spending a day > stimulating my 5.5 month old son I like to stay up a few hours at night > after my son has gone to bed to enjoy some time by myself. The result of > course is that when it comes time for his morning feed I am extremely tired. > Although I usually drag myself out of bed within a few minutes of his > morning cry, there are often occasions when I just pick him up and talk to > him while I comfort him. I spend about 10 minutes comforting him while I > regain my energy and then carry him to the kitchen to prepare his breakfast. > A friend of mine, that lives with me, says I am a horrible parent for > allowing him to cry (while I comfort him) and not getting up and making his > bottle right away. She constantly reminds me how awful it sounds to hear > him cry and that I don’t deserve a child… > Do most parents have the energy to get up and out of bed right away all the > time in the mornings? > Any comments would be appreciated.
Heh, your roommate is just bugged that *she* has to hear it too. Tell her to have a kid, and *then* come and talk to you about it. On the other hand, you can help yourself by going to bed earlier, though I certainly understand the need for "me" time – that’s something I too cherish. But do we all get up as soon as the kid does, even if she’s crying or fussing? I kind of doubt it. I know I don’t, and sure, Mia whines about it from time to time. But gee, would you believe that she learned rather quickly that daddy isn’t coming right away, so just play and be patient? I don’t leave her in there for hours, but I certainly take the ten minutes in bed to wake myself up, and figure a whine or two isn’t going to kill her. If your roommate can’t deal with it, find a new one, really. Nothing is such a pain in the butt as a nosy know-it-all non-parent. Mike — From Seattle, WA – Seahawks, cinema, science and more at http://kohary.simplenet.com Seahawks: http://kohary.simplenet.com/hawks.htm Cinema: http://kohary.simplenet.com/movies.htm Science: http://kohary.simplenet.com/science.htm
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-=> Quoting Douglas J. A. MacKenzie to All <=- DJAM> I am a single parent as well as a student. I find that after spending DJAM> a day stimulating my 5.5 month old son I like to stay up a few hours at DJAM> night after my son has gone to bed to enjoy some time by myself. The DJAM> result of course is that when it comes time for his morning feed I am DJAM> extremely tired. Although I usually drag myself out of bed within a few DJAM> minutes of his morning cry, there are often occasions when I just pick DJAM> him up and talk to him while I comfort him. I spend about 10 minutes DJAM> comforting him while I regain my energy and then carry him to the DJAM> kitchen to prepare his breakfast. A friend of mine, that lives with me, DJAM> says I am a horrible parent for allowing him to cry (while I comfort DJAM> him) and not getting up and making his bottle right away. She DJAM> constantly reminds me how awful it sounds to hear him cry and that I DJAM> don’t deserve a child… DJAM> Do most parents have the energy to get up and out of bed right away DJAM> all the time in the mornings? I know I don’t…like you, I stay up a ‘few’ hours (actually several) because that is the only time I have for myself. The result is I get 4 to 5 hrs of sleep. I can tell you what I used to do when my daughter was that age…as soon as I heard her, I’d stumble in and get her bottle & warm it up (while she was in her bed, usually), then go in and get her out of the crib and cuddle up with her in our bed. Sometimes she’d go back to sleep, which was a blessing, but most of the time it was the highlite of my morning to snuggle with her. Nowadays (she’s 17 months now), I keep a bottle of diluted Apple Juice at the ready, and when she first wakes up (which is sometimes at 3am) I give her the juice. Then about an hour later, she gets her bottle and dry cereal. Not a good idea for a 5 month old though. And tell your friend if she’s THAT bothered by the child crying, why doesn’t SHE fix that morning bottle! If life was a highway, I’d be in a ditch. Bright Blessings .. Gene Police!…YOU!! Out of the pool NOW!! === Posted via Warlock’s Haven BBS, Panama City, Florida 1-850-785-7944 Fidonet 1:3608/3
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>I know I don’t…like you, I stay up a ‘few’ hours (actually several) because >that is the only time I have for myself. The result is I get 4 to 5 hrs of >sleep. I can tell you what I used to do when my daughter was that age…as >soon as I heard her, I’d stumble in and get her bottle & warm it up (while she >was in her bed, usually), then go in and get her out of the crib and cuddle up >with her in our bed. Sometimes she’d go back to sleep, which was a blessing, >but most of the time it was the highlite of my morning to snuggle with her.
I walk downstairs in a daze myself first thing in the morning even if I did get to bed early (I am not a morning person) but I do crawl back into bed to feed that first bottle so I can drowze a bit and wake up if I need to (hey if he goes back to sleep so do I) I started this with my older son when I worked nights since more often than not he would go to sleep after that 1st bottle and then after our nap I would give him his breakfast. I sometimes carry my son down to get his bottle if he is real loud but if I can barely carry myself down the stairs I would not risk a fall while holding my son. And I agree, if it bothers your roomate that much maybe she should get the bottle, just because a baby cries doesn’t mean that it has a bad parent. susan mom to Joshua (9/13/95-11/13/96) and Matthew (2/19/98)
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I am a single parent as well as a student. I find that after spending a day stimulating my 5.5 month old son I like to stay up a few hours at night after my son has gone to bed to enjoy some time by myself. The result of course is that when it comes time for his morning feed I am extremely tired. Although I usually drag myself out of bed within a few minutes of his morning cry, there are often occasions when I just pick him up and talk to him while I comfort him. I spend about 10 minutes comforting him while I regain my energy and then carry him to the kitchen to prepare his breakfast. A friend of mine, that lives with me, says I am a horrible parent for allowing him to cry (while I comfort him) and not getting up and making his bottle right away. She constantly reminds me how awful it sounds to hear him cry and that I don’t deserve a child… Do most parents have the energy to get up and out of bed right away all the time in the mornings? Any comments would be appreciated. Douglas Web Page: http://www.geocities.com/Hollywood/Theater/8962/index.htm
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Tell your friend to mind her own business…… don’t let her make you feel guilty. She’s not the one exhausted. Try not to stay up so late (especially if you are doing it every night) and get used to being tired!!!! I suggest making the bottle before you pick him up, and bringing him to bed with you for some snuggle time. If the crying bothers your roommate, tell her to get some ear plugs…… Lee – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I am a single parent as well as a student. I find that after spending a day > stimulating my 5.5 month old son I like to stay up a few hours at night > after my son has gone to bed to enjoy some time by myself. The result of > course is that when it comes time for his morning feed I am extremely tired. > Although I usually drag myself out of bed within a few minutes of his > morning cry, there are often occasions when I just pick him up and talk to > him while I comfort him. I spend about 10 minutes comforting him while I > regain my energy and then carry him to the kitchen to prepare his breakfast. > A friend of mine, that lives with me, says I am a horrible parent for > allowing him to cry (while I comfort him) and not getting up and making his > bottle right away. She constantly reminds me how awful it sounds to hear > him cry and that I don’t deserve a child… > Do most parents have the energy to get up and out of bed right away all the > time in the mornings? > Any comments would be appreciated. > Douglas > Web Page: http://www.geocities.com/Hollywood/Theater/8962/index.htm
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I can relate to wanting a little alone time in the evening. Remember, though, that this is only a phase for your little one and maybe you should get to bed a little earlier in order not to be so tired in the AM. His early AM hunger should only last a few more months. I taught my twins to enjoy a room temp bottle – that way I only had to mix the formula and not wait for it to warm up (with two time to mouth was important). If you could do this you could keep a bottle of water by your bed and a little measure of forumla that you could mix right when the baby wakes up. Then you could probably both get a little extra time in bed in the AM – him eating – you resting. Good luck, – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I am a single parent as well as a student. I find that after spending a day > stimulating my 5.5 month old son I like to stay up a few hours at night > after my son has gone to bed to enjoy some time by myself. The result of > course is that when it comes time for his morning feed I am extremely tired. > Although I usually drag myself out of bed within a few minutes of his > morning cry, there are often occasions when I just pick him up and talk to > him while I comfort him. I spend about 10 minutes comforting him while I > regain my energy and then carry him to the kitchen to prepare his breakfast. > A friend of mine, that lives with me, says I am a horrible parent for > allowing him to cry (while I comfort him) and not getting up and making his > bottle right away. She constantly reminds me how awful it sounds to hear > him cry and that I don’t deserve a child… > Do most parents have the energy to get up and out of bed right away all the > time in the mornings? > Any comments would be appreciated. > Douglas > Web Page: http://www.geocities.com/Hollywood/Theater/8962/index.htm
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I am a single parent as well as a student. I find that after spending a day > stimulating my 5.5 month old son I like to stay up a few hours at night > after my son has gone to bed to enjoy some time by myself. The result of > course is that when it comes time for his morning feed I am extremely tired. > Although I usually drag myself out of bed within a few minutes of his > morning cry, there are often occasions when I just pick him up and talk to > him while I comfort him. I spend about 10 minutes comforting him while I > regain my energy and then carry him to the kitchen to prepare his breakfast. > A friend of mine, that lives with me, says I am a horrible parent for > allowing him to cry (while I comfort him) and not getting up and making his > bottle right away. She constantly reminds me how awful it sounds to hear > him cry and that I don’t deserve a child… > Do most parents have the energy to get up and out of bed right away all the > time in the mornings? > Any comments would be appreciated. > Douglas > No, I was exhausted in the morning too, it seems as though that crying comes > so early (like you just fell asleep). I also know what you mean about staying > up, it’s so peaceful, I wanted time to myself also. Someone suggested heating > the bottle up before you get him, I did this. I actually made bottles > everyday, usually (at 5.5 months) around 10 per day (huge kid!) and then all I > had to do was pop in the mwave and go get him and bring him to my bed, and I > could slowly wake up while he ate. Crying for a minute or so isn’t gonna hurt > him but he expects you to come, so don’t make him wait too long, him’s > hungry!!! 
) And as far as your "friend", well I’d say f**k you and get a > new friend, but then that’s just me-
Sheri
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->I am a single parent as well as a student. I find that after spending a day >stimulating my 5.5 month old son I like to stay up a few hours at night >after my son has gone to bed to enjoy some time by myself. The result of >course is that when it comes time for his morning feed I am extremely tired. >Although I usually drag myself out of bed within a few minutes of his >morning cry, there are often occasions when I just pick him up and talk to >him while I comfort him. I spend about 10 minutes comforting him while I >regain my energy and then carry him to the kitchen to prepare his breakfast. >A friend of mine, that lives with me, says I am a horrible parent for >allowing him to cry (while I comfort him) and not getting up and making his >bottle right away. She constantly reminds me how awful it sounds to hear >him cry and that I don’t deserve a child… >Do most parents have the energy to get up and out of bed right away all the >time in the mornings? >Any comments would be appreciated. >Douglas
A few questions for you: 1. Do you believe that you are a bad parent? Oh,BTW –engery and mornings donot ever ever ever belong in the same sentence. That is a horrifying thought!!!!! 2. Does ‘your friend’ have children? If she can not stand to hear the baby cry, why doesn’t she get up and comfort the child until you peel your eyelids open? My son usually wakes me up when he cries in the morning. When I stumble into his room and look down the little darling just looks up at me as if to say: Hi Mommie….Can I have a bottle please…. then you can go back to sleep. I let myself ‘fall into that trap, of believing that I was a bad mother because I wasn’t able to do everything. My son is happy, healthly and gets into everything as fast as he can manage it. Just because you are a slow waker in the morning…your child will survive. Believe me you will KNOW when it is a cry of distress and not just a "Hey….everyone wake up…I’m awake…. Brenna Mommy to Connor, the lean, mean walking talking machine…..
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