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> Kids are like parrots. They will repeat what they hear. I had to wash my > son’s mouth out with soap once, and then we stopped swearing around him.
Did you wash your mouth too when you sweared, before you stoped doing it?
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says… > Kids are like parrots. They will repeat what they hear. I had to wash my > son’s mouth out with soap once, and then we stopped swearing around him. > Did you wash your mouth too when you sweared, before you stoped doing it?
Oh my mistake, you didn’t stop swearing, you just stoped swearing around him. How hypocrite of you.
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><My parents never cussed, and I thought it was stilted <and weird. ><So I started! (a comment by Steve) >I don’t understand your thinking, at all…I look at other parents who don’t >cuss and envy them — my cussing is a habit I picked up in early childhood >from my "parents" and, I am trying to learn to curb it for the sake of my >little one not growing up to sound like and illiterate blob who knows no >other way to speak. I can – and do – curb the mouth around others out of >respect…but when I get mad, you would swear that I lived in a truckstop >for all my years…am still working on that 
Barb
Cussing is the use of sexual words. They are not uneducated, illiterate, ignorant, or any other appelation you might toss at them. Those wordings would be misspellings, bad grammar, improperly usages, etc. The use of sexual words needs to begin again to open up sexuality to the light of day once more. Steve
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my mom sure did. then i joined the navy. trying to get sailors to stop swearing is like pulling hen’s teeth. bet you never swore, didya, miss high and mighty? you’re one of those pacifist parents raising pacifist wimp kids, aren’t you? terrible grammar btw. rowenna – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Did you wash your mouth too when you sweared, before you stoped doing it?
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you’re a hypocrite too you lousy pacifist. i dare you to go ahead and search your soul for purity in the hypocrisy arena. of course i am a hypocrite. everyone is a hypocrite. as a matter of fact miss presumption i swear in the language of farscape, which is a nonsense word, or not at all. so would you care to engage in verbal reparte with me? i guarantee you’ll lose, you worthless worm of a woman. rowenna
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>you’re a hypocrite too you lousy pacifist. i dare you to go ahead and >search your soul for purity in the hypocrisy arena. of course i am a >hypocrite. everyone is a hypocrite. as a matter of fact miss presumption i >swear in the language of farscape, which is a nonsense word, or not at all. >so would you care to engage in verbal reparte with me? i guarantee you’ll >lose, you worthless worm of a woman. >rowenna
Who the fuck are you talking to, bigot!?? Learn to quote! Steve
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Kids are like parrots. They will repeat what they hear. I had to wash my son’s mouth out with soap once, and then we stopped swearing around him. I diligently remind all my guests to watch their language around him. When a kid gets older, into teen years, I don’t think you can stop them swearing. I plan on telling my kids that I don’t care if they swear when they get older, but that it would be more fun to find more clever ways to swear. Or use a foreign language. Forbidding teens and preteens to swear is like fighting the tide; they are going to do it because it’s shocking. Rowenna
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<My parents never cussed, and I thought it was stilted <and weird. <So I started! (a comment by Steve) I don’t understand your thinking, at all…I look at other parents who don’t cuss and envy them — my cussing is a habit I picked up in early childhood from my "parents" and, I am trying to learn to curb it for the sake of my little one not growing up to sound like and illiterate blob who knows no other way to speak. I can – and do – curb the mouth around others out of respect…but when I get mad, you would swear that I lived in a truckstop for all my years…am still working on that Barb — Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com).
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>If soaping is used to "fix" a filthy mouth, then there are FAR better ways >to do that! Begin with setting a good example of not cursing yourself (Hi >Steve!)
Fuck off. Example means nothing. Our kids aren’t fucking imitative monkeys! >Children whose parents do not curse, usually raise kids who do not curse (at >least by the time they grow up)
My parents never cussed, and I thought it was stilted and weird. So I started! >"Profanity is the attempt of a feeble mind to forcefully express itself" >quoted from my dad
Your dad’s an ignorant fool. Such bullshit sayings are like a stupid old war story. Obnoxious. Steve – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> >> > A thump on the head to your > >> > parents, my mom and any other idiot who resorts to this technique for > >> > disciplining. > >> > Susan > >> i tink tHuMpInG da HeAd > >> iz "oUt" two. iT’s harD > >> on dat brane. > >> GM > >I would Never use this method. At the time it didn’t seem traumatic, > >just a little bit embarrassing, sitting there with a bar of soap in my > >mouth. The last time i got soap, i was 13-14 years old, after i > >"mouthed off" to my parents. Besides that, i had a great childhood > At that age you should have been big enough to beat the shit out of them. > If mine had done that I would have tried my best to kill them, even if I > had to do it in their SLEEP! > Steve
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Im wondering what everyone’s opinion is on washing mouths with soap? I totally disagree with this type of punishment. As a kid, my parents used mouth soaping as a punishment for everything from swearing, lying, to not keeping my room clean. It wasn’t traumatic or anything, and it didnt stop me from changing my behavior. Any thoughts?
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> Im wondering what everyone’s opinion is on washing mouths with soap? > I totally disagree with this type of punishment. As a kid, my parents > used mouth soaping as a punishment for everything from swearing, > lying, to not keeping my room clean. It wasn’t traumatic or anything, > and it didnt stop me from changing my behavior. Any thoughts?
Personally, I consider it abusive. But that’s my take on it. ~Nan~
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>Im wondering what everyone’s opinion is on washing mouths with soap? >I totally disagree with this type of punishment. As a kid, my parents >used mouth soaping as a punishment for everything from swearing, >lying, to not keeping my room clean. It wasn’t traumatic or anything, >and it didnt stop me from changing my behavior. Any thoughts?
Beat parents who do that publically within an inch of their lives. Then have their kids fuck them with a strap on. Steve
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>Im wondering what everyone’s opinion is on washing mouths with soap? >I totally disagree with this type of punishment. As a kid, my parents >used mouth soaping as a punishment for everything from swearing, >lying, to not keeping my room clean. It wasn’t traumatic or anything, >and it didnt stop me from changing my behavior. Any thoughts?
Well..I personally never resorted to soap..and I also personally know and saw an ex friend of mine use tobasco sauce on her kids for swearing and being mouthy etc..and even that didn’t change the child’s attitude or behaviour. I recall hearing of a mother who used pepper on her child and the kid ended up dying from it..poured it down their throat and they got severe burns and basically were asphixiated by it..I imagine their throat swelled shut 
I guess there are a lot of worse things one could do to their child then a bit of soap in thei rmouth…and sure..some people use it and stand by it as punishment. it’s a crazy world out there Frannie
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> Im wondering what everyone’s opinion is on washing mouths with soap? > I totally disagree with this type of punishment. As a kid, my parents > used mouth soaping as a punishment for everything from swearing, > lying, to not keeping my room clean. It wasn’t traumatic or anything,
Then you wouldn’t have even noticed this thread and responded to it, nor would you have any questions about it like you have asked. Something bad happened, and you’ve minimized out of love for and attachment to your parents. > and it didnt stop me from changing my behavior. Any thoughts?
While at other times under different circumstances your parents must have "parented" you (well, assuming you aren’t posting from the wardroom nurses station or the warden’s office) fairly Please don’t consider for a minute that what was done to you was parenting. Parenting and humiliation have nothing to do with each other. "Parents" parent their children to succeed at their developmental tasks. "Parents" parent by knowing what the normal, obviously limited capacities are in children, and support the child learning "not to lie" when it becomes finally appropriate to put away the fantasies of childhood, and when they can recognize that social lying is something parents..all adults do, and the trick is to help the child sort out their own values on it…like when they are 8 or 9 and can begin cognitively managing such sophisticated concepts. SOAPING? Don’t you mean savage torturing. Nothing to do with parenting and everything to do with a failure to evolve. May Your House Be Safe From Tigers. Lucky
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It has no relationship to any conceivable "misbehavior." I think it is mean and humiliating. I think is it DESIGNED and intended to be mean and humiliating. Stephanie
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Im wondering what everyone’s opinion is on washing mouths with soap? > I totally disagree with this type of punishment. As a kid, my parents > used mouth soaping as a punishment for everything from swearing, > lying, to not keeping my room clean. It wasn’t traumatic or anything, > and it didnt stop me from changing my behavior. Any thoughts?
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> >Im wondering what everyone’s opinion is on washing mouths with soap? >I totally disagree with this type of punishment. As a kid, my parents >used mouth soaping as a punishment for everything from swearing, >lying, to not keeping my room clean. It wasn’t traumatic or anything, >and it didnt stop me from changing my behavior. Any thoughts? > Beat parents who do that publically within an inch of their lives. > Then have their kids fuck them with a strap on. > Steve
To say you have a wild imagination would be an understatement, Steve ! Please take this as a compliment 
Paul.
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I remember my mother doing this to me when I was around 7 yrs old. I said a bad word and she forced me up the stairs from the den into the kitchen by the sink. I remember the water from the faucet running and her grabbing the soap while I somehow guessed what was about to happen. Even though I tried my darndest, through tears and apologies to tightly press my lips together, my mother shoved that bar of soap into my mouth until I gagged. Of course, I never used that language again. And, this incident (I consider it abuse along with the rest of you), among many various other incidents (also abusive), has led me to the almost nil relationship I (along with my brother and sister) have with her today. And she wonders what she ever did to bring us to where we are today with our relationship with her. It is cruel and unjust abuse for anything. I think I would have learned my lesson if my mother had just said "you know, I know you think you are cool and all using that language, but you sound totally uncool. I don’t want to hear it again or else there will be a consequence (such as no playdate, no talking on the phone with a friend, etc)–something in the order of denying communication with another valued person to spend the time thinking of the importance of using appropriate communication with others–somehow making the punishment fit the crime). If she had been half the nice mother she could have been, I bet my entire life our relationship would be totally different with her today. >I totally disagree with this type of punishment. As a kid, my parents >used mouth soaping as a punishment for everything from swearing, >lying, to not keeping my room clean. It wasn’t traumatic or anything,
I do hope that though you say it wasn’t traumatic for you, you do not use this method on your own children (I know you said you disagree with it). It was traumatizing for me and I will never forget it. A thump on the head to your parents, my mom and any other idiot who resorts to this technique for disciplining. Susan
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i Sure hopp you dunt got kidz, sAnDy. Yu iz a kruel persin. Waz rong dith a swat on de butttt? GM
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> A thump on the head to your > parents, my mom and any other idiot who resorts to this technique for > disciplining. > Susan
i tink tHuMpInG da HeAd iz "oUt" two. iT’s harD on dat brane. GM
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> > A thump on the head to your > parents, my mom and any other idiot who resorts to this technique for > disciplining. > Susan > i tink tHuMpInG da HeAd > iz "oUt" two. iT’s harD > on dat brane. > GM
I would Never use this method. At the time it didn’t seem traumatic, just a little bit embarrassing, sitting there with a bar of soap in my mouth. The last time i got soap, i was 13-14 years old, after i "mouthed off" to my parents. Besides that, i had a great childhood
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >I remember my mother doing this to me when I was around 7 yrs old. I said a bad >word and she forced me up the stairs from the den into the kitchen by the sink. >I remember the water from the faucet running and her grabbing the soap while I >somehow guessed what was about to happen. Even though I tried my darndest, >through tears and apologies to tightly press my lips together, my mother shoved >that bar of soap into my mouth until I gagged. Of course, I never used that >language again. And, this incident (I consider it abuse along with the rest of >you), among many various other incidents (also abusive), has led me to the >almost nil relationship I (along with my brother and sister) have with her >today. And she wonders what she ever did to bring us to where we are today with >our relationship with her. It is cruel and unjust abuse for anything. I think I >would have learned my lesson if my mother had just said "you know, I know you >think you are cool and all using that language, but you sound totally uncool. I >don’t want to hear it again or else there will be a consequence (such as no >playdate, no talking on the phone with a friend, etc)–something in the order >of denying communication with another valued person to spend the time thinking >of the importance of using appropriate communication with others–somehow >making the punishment fit the crime).
No, that’s abusive and fascist as well and breeds nearly as much hatred. You simply believe you’d have preferred that in nostalgic retrospect. All such manipulations of anothers right to speak are disrespectful of that other, and they breed hatred. You shouldn’t be made to eat shit or soap over what you say. It’s WRONG. >If she had been half the nice mother she could have been, I bet my entire life >our relationship would be totally different with her today. >I totally disagree with this type of punishment. As a kid, my parents >used mouth soaping as a punishment for everything from swearing, >lying, to not keeping my room clean. It wasn’t traumatic or anything, >I do hope that though you say it wasn’t traumatic for you, you do not use this >method on your own children (I know you said you disagree with it). It was >traumatizing for me and I will never forget it. A thump on the head to your >parents, my mom and any other idiot who resorts to this technique for >disciplining. >Susan
I prefer a public beating till bloody. Steve
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > A thump on the head to your > > parents, my mom and any other idiot who resorts to this technique for > > disciplining. > > Susan > i tink tHuMpInG da HeAd > iz "oUt" two. iT’s harD > on dat brane. > GM >I would Never use this method. At the time it didn’t seem traumatic, >just a little bit embarrassing, sitting there with a bar of soap in my >mouth. The last time i got soap, i was 13-14 years old, after i >"mouthed off" to my parents. Besides that, i had a great childhood
At that age you should have been big enough to beat the shit out of them. If mine had done that I would have tried my best to kill them, even if I had to do it in their SLEEP! Steve
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If soaping is used to "fix" a filthy mouth, then there are FAR better ways to do that! Begin with setting a good example of not cursing yourself (Hi Steve!) Children whose parents do not curse, usually raise kids who do not curse (at least by the time they grow up) "Profanity is the attempt of a feeble mind to forcefully express itself" quoted from my dad – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->> > A thump on the head to your >> > parents, my mom and any other idiot who resorts to this technique for >> > disciplining. >> > Susan >> i tink tHuMpInG da HeAd >> iz "oUt" two. iT’s harD >> on dat brane. >> GM >I would Never use this method. At the time it didn’t seem traumatic, >just a little bit embarrassing, sitting there with a bar of soap in my >mouth. The last time i got soap, i was 13-14 years old, after i >"mouthed off" to my parents. Besides that, i had a great childhood > At that age you should have been big enough to beat the shit out of them. > If mine had done that I would have tried my best to kill them, even if I > had to do it in their SLEEP! > Steve
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i had this done to me as a kid. I got caught swearing, so i had to bite off a bar of soap and chew it. it really didn’t stop me from swearing, but it did teach me not to swear around my parents
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>i had this done to me as a kid. I got caught swearing, so i had to >bite off a bar of soap and chew it. it really didn’t stop me from >swearing, but it did teach me not to swear around my parents
You were merely abused, and as an impotent child you learned the wrong lesson. You SHOULD have learned to poison your parents. Steve
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>>i had this done to me as a kid. I got caught swearing, so i had to >bite off a bar of soap and chew it. it really didn’t stop me from >swearing, but it did teach me not to swear around my parents >You were merely abused, and as an impotent child you learned the wrong >lesson. You SHOULD have learned to poison your parents. >Steve
Well suuuuuuuure!..why not?!! What’s the sentence on Murder by poison anyways Steve????? On second thought..don’t answer that..cuz I don’t wanna know how you know! Frannie
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>You were merely abused, and as an impotent child you learned the wrong >lesson. You SHOULD have learned to poison your parents
Well, Steve, I will half agree with you here. I agree that she was abused and since she was an innocent child, she was being appropriately punished by eating soap. She wouldn’t learn much by poisoning her parents, but I do think a bar of soap rammed down the throats of her parents would be a very appropriate order to fill. Lori, if you have any kids now, please know that your parents did a cruel and unjust punishment to you and it was not right. That is not the way you treat children, and I am sorry you went through that. I am sure you think of it as nothing now, and is no big deal, but if you can put aside your pride and recall the humiliation and degradation you felt being forced to eat soap, I am hoping my empathy will mean something to you.(My mother did the same thing to me, plus other things, and it’s no wonder my siblings and I don’t have a good relationship with her in adulthood.) susan
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->>i had this done to me as a kid. I got caught swearing, so i had to >>bite off a bar of soap and chew it. it really didn’t stop me from >>swearing, but it did teach me not to swear around my parents >You were merely abused, and as an impotent child you learned the wrong >lesson. You SHOULD have learned to poison your parents. >Steve >Well suuuuuuuure!..why not?!! What’s the sentence on Murder by poison >anyways Steve????? On second thought..don’t answer that..cuz I don’t >wanna know how you know! >Frannie
Nothing special, just the obvious that anyone who subjects another to torture by inedible foul-tasting substances should themselves be killed ina similar manner. Steve
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believe me, getting soap in my mouth was one of the worse experiences of my life. It is idiotic to think that making me "eat" soap would prevent me from swearing. It just made me extremely angry, having to pick ivory soap out of my teeth for the rest of the day
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>believe me, getting soap in my mouth was one of the worse experiences >of my life. It is idiotic to think that making me "eat" soap would >prevent me from swearing. It just made me extremely angry, having to >pick ivory soap out of my teeth for the rest of the day
The one child whom I know who had that done turned on his mother and soaped her mouth. She didn’t try anything ever again. Steve
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