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>I just started hiring >people to do these things…….no matter how large or small…..and when the >bills started rolling in for such services, he quickly changed his >plumber’s [ or whoever's] phone number prominently displayed on the bulletin >board, and that alone does the trick. Us wiley women know that where there’s >a>will, there’s a way ! >Josie
LOL, that’s a grand idea! How clever of you! Krystal If evolution really works, then why do mothers have only two arms? Eat the "treat" in my address to e-mail me.
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->What a wonderful way to teach children to motivate themselves. >Some people say its bribery or teaches kids that in order to do something >nice, >they need a reward, but I don’t see it that way. I look at it as reward and >motivation. >I reward myself…chocolate or whatever…kids deserve the same. And they >learn >to cooperate and choose. If one day they don’t feel like helping, that’s >fine. >They dont’ really lose. It just takes them a litttle longer to get to the >end >prize. >I look at it the exact same way, really. I know if I feel really great about >having cleaned out my closets or basement or some silly thing….the first >thing I do is to go >rent a movie and get popcorn. How is it different with kids? To me it isn’t. >parents >get if everyone brings home a great report card……or whatever, and the >parents just get into such a good mood and decide to go out and eat or to the >park or whatever. >Josie
They are rewards for us. We get to treat ourselves…we have to help them learn to treat themselves after a hard days work 
Who else but us to do it? I like this line of thinking. It is good to see. How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these. – George Washington Carver
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->Love it!!!!! And I’m going to try it. If she tries to slip one & I >find out, think I’ll put two back, skip a day or tell her I count >them at the end of the day & I remember how many I’ve put in. I’ll >see how her Mom wants to handle it. It’s a good age to instill the >honor system. >Thanks, Judy > I missed the original post on this marble idea, but it does sound nice. I may > try this with my own. [I'm hoping I don't get laughed out of the house for one in the > comic strip Hi and Lois ] Anything that promotes `niceties` sounds good to me. > Josie
I tried the ‘job jar’ Josie, only called it the "Honey Do" jar. You know, when you get time, Honey do this & Honey I need that done. Didn’t last long around here. He always had something of his own that took precedence & I gave up. Judy
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I saw the movie. I read the book and quite frankly, I can’t really remember it from the story. I read the "Littles and the Trash Tinies", I don’t know if that is the same.. But the movie was good. I thought it was very cute and had a nice heartwarming storyline. Quite a few funny parts also. — zipper Mommy of two; a boy, 4 and a girl, 7 Visit Sandra’s Home Daycare on the web! http://www.angelfire.com/country/daycare – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >speaking of Stuart Little… we saw the preview and it doesn’t look AT ALL >like the book… has anyone seen the movie and read the book?? My boys are >too young but I was just wondering….. > Thanks for this idea. We tried another one last night – the construction > paper chain! I put up three loops last night and told my boys (almost 4) > that if they slept in their own beds all night (the current dilema) that > they would each get a loop and when the loop gets to a certain length, we > will go see Stuart Little. It worked!! Now to find a nice marble jar!!
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speaking of Stuart Little… we saw the preview and it doesn’t look AT ALL like the book… has anyone seen the movie and read the book?? My boys are too young but I was just wondering…..
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Thanks for this idea. We tried another one last night – the construction > paper chain! I put up three loops last night and told my boys (almost 4) > that if they slept in their own beds all night (the current dilema) that > they would each get a loop and when the loop gets to a certain length, we > will go see Stuart Little. It worked!! Now to find a nice marble jar!!
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I like that idea too. I have used the loop thing to countdown christmas, but i never thought of it that way. You are going to love Stuart Little. We all went last week and we all loved it. Toy Story 2 is awesome too! — zipper Mommy of two; a boy, 4 and a girl, 7 Visit Sandra’s Home Daycare on the web! http://www.angelfire.com/country/daycare – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >Thanks for this idea. We tried another one last night – the construction >paper chain! I put up three loops last night and told my boys (almost 4) >that if they slept in their own beds all night (the current dilema) that >they would each get a loop and when the loop gets to a certain length, we >will go see Stuart Little. It worked!! Now to find a nice marble jar!!
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Thanks for this idea. We tried another one last night – the construction paper chain! I put up three loops last night and told my boys (almost 4) that if they slept in their own beds all night (the current dilema) that they would each get a loop and when the loop gets to a certain length, we will go see Stuart Little. It worked!! Now to find a nice marble jar!!
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At a girl! Where there’s a will, there’s a way… I like your methods. Judy – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->I tried the ‘job jar’ Josie, only called it the "Honey Do" jar. You >know, when you get time, Honey do this & Honey I need that done. >Didn’t last long around here. He always had something of his own that >took precedence & I gave up. >Judy > My job jar didn’t even last long enough in this house for me to give up. It was > laughed right out of existence. The first slip of paper that went into it was this was always > putting off things that I wanted done around the house. I just started hiring > people to do these things…….no matter how large or small…..and when the > bills started rolling in for such services, he quickly changed his > procastinating ways. Now I don’t even have to say
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> plumber’s [ or whoever's] phone number prominently displayed on the bulletin > board, and that alone does the trick. Us wiley women know that where there’s a > will, there’s a way ! > Josie
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We rewarded my daughter to chineese food when she brought home her report card in grade one. she enjoyed it so much, she wants to go out for chineese every report card. They deserve a little reward one time or another. Makes families fun. — zipper Mommy of two; a boy, 4 and a girl, 7 Visit Sandra’s Home Daycare on the web! http://www.angelfire.com/country/daycare
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >get if everyone brings home a great report card……or whatever, and the >parents just get into such a good mood and decide to go out and eat or to the >park or whatever. >Josie
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>I tried the ‘job jar’ Josie, only called it the "Honey Do" jar. You >know, when you get time, Honey do this & Honey I need that done. >Didn’t last long around here. He always had something of his own that >took precedence & I gave up. >Judy
My job jar didn’t even last long enough in this house for me to give up. It was laughed right out of existence. The first slip of paper that went into it was putting off things that I wanted done around the house. I just started hiring people to do these things…….no matter how large or small…..and when the bills started rolling in for such services, he quickly changed his plumber’s [ or whoever's] phone number prominently displayed on the bulletin board, and that alone does the trick. Us wiley women know that where there’s a will, there’s a way ! Josie
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For me, I think it’s easy for us to take for granted all the good things kids do right. We were getting in a rut where I felt like all I did was complain and harp and nag. This forced me to be constantly vigilant for good behavior, and gave me a way to reward it on the spot. Over time, the good behavior has multiplied and seemed to crowd out the occasions to nag and complain. Not that we don’t still have our moments…. jen * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!
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Another observation about why I like this method is that it seems to foster cooperation between the two – since I use the same jar for both. They’ve quickly learned that it is quicker to fill if both do good things – together! I have no restraint though – I’d eat all their smarties. The marbles I chose are really cool looking ones, and different sizes. I let them pick which one they want. It’s amusing to watch how they deliberate over which marble they "deserve" – my daughter really really wanted the largest one – but she kept rejecting it – until one day she determined, on her own, that what she had done had really earned it! jen * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!
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No! Never deduct marbles for bad behavior – the trick is to reward good behavior. For two kids, I started with a small jar – not sure how many marbles are in it – you don’t want them to lose interest by making it to hard to fill it, nor too easy and quick. It should take about a month to fill it. There are days I’m constantly telling them to go get a marble; other days go by without a word. We’re on our second round (went to the museum after the first fill-up.) What I find works best is if you start paying attention to all the nice things they do and reward them for it – like once I caught them hugging each other. I’ve tried those reward charts – i.e., get a star for doing XYZ, but it doesn’t work quite so well for some reason as the marbles. My youngest took a few marbles in to show and tell one day – she had a story attached to each, about why she earned it. So cute…. jen * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!
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They don’t try to cheat – although they will play with the marbles then put them back. Sometimes my youngest will want to hold on to a marble she earned. She’ll keep it in her pocket all day – kind of like a reminder for a good moment – but then she always puts it back before bed. Then again, they’ve been doing this at afterschool all year, and peer pressure has reinforced the concept of "marble grubbing" as the ULTIMATE evil. They’ll rag on each other if caught grubbing or cheating. They’ll even remind me if I forget and try to bribe them. jen * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!
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>What a wonderful way to teach children to motivate themselves. >Some people say its bribery or teaches kids that in order to do something >nice, >they need a reward, but I don’t see it that way. I look at it as reward and >motivation. >I reward myself…chocolate or whatever…kids deserve the same. And they >learn >to cooperate and choose. If one day they don’t feel like helping, that’s >fine. >They dont’ really lose. It just takes them a litttle longer to get to the >end >prize.
I look at it the exact same way, really. I know if I feel really great about having cleaned out my closets or basement or some silly thing….the first thing I do is to go rent a movie and get popcorn. How is it different with kids? To me it isn’t. get if everyone brings home a great report card……or whatever, and the parents just get into such a good mood and decide to go out and eat or to the park or whatever. Josie
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I do this with my kids…I use poker chips or smarties. They work just as well and I don’t have to worry about the jar breaking if the marble hits it too hard. The kids started asking, do I get a smartie for doing this? And if they did, they would not get one. I too, cannot bribe or threat to take away the ones they have already earned. They have earned these and they shouldn’t be taken away for punishment. Kind of defeats the purpose. Once they are earned it is theirs. I keep the jar on the microwave, Kids are not allowed to go near it. They get caught sneaking to pick smarties in them, the jar goes in the cupboard for the day and they lose their chance to earn them for that day. I try to judge how many are in there by drawing lines on the jar. (use it as a measuring tool). I would give them one or more depending on the extent of the nice deed. What a wonderful way to teach children to motivate themselves. Some people say its bribery or teaches kids that in order to do something nice, they need a reward, but I don’t see it that way. I look at it as reward and motivation. I reward myself…chocolate or whatever…kids deserve the same. And they learn to cooperate and choose. If one day they don’t feel like helping, that’s fine. They dont’ really lose. It just takes them a litttle longer to get to the end prize. I had one behaviourally challenged boy in my daycare and I used this similar method. Unbelievable how he motivated himself to do things after that. That coupled with the 1-2-3 method for him, made him a pleasant boy and his mother loved it. The little boy finally felt like he could control himself. — zipper Mommy of two; a boy, 4 and a girl, 7 Visit Sandra’s Home Daycare on the web! http://www.angelfire.com/country/daycare – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >I learned a great trick from my children’s afterschool program. >I bought two glass jars and a whole bunch of marbles. I put all the >marbles in one jar to start. Here are the rules: >1. Anytime my 5 and 7 year old do something without being asked, they >get to take out a marble and put it in the other jar. >2. Anytime they do something nice, kind, or sweet, (i.e., being *good* >to each other instead of fighting) they get a marble – sometimes two. >3. When the marble jar is full, we’re treating ourselves to a family >event they’ve been clamoring for. >4. They cannot ask for a marble, or remind me they "deserve" a marble >(this is called "marble-grubbing"). >5. I cannot remind them they *might* get a marble – no bribes – their >actions need to be self-motivated. >I stumbled upon this secret when I arrived at afterschool one day to >find my children sweetly cleaning up the toys – something the eldest >never does at home without a scene first! Their caregivers gave me this >"secret." We’ve been doing it home now for a few months, and to my >amazement, it is *still* working. >jen >* Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * >The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!
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writes: >This is an interesting idea…. >… regrettably, though, I have lost my marbles
If ya find them……let me know, ok? Some of them may well be mine. who lost hers years ago and is still looking. [damn...SOMEBODY must have them ]
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>Love it!!!!! And I’m going to try it. If she tries to slip one & I >find out, think I’ll put two back, skip a day or tell her I count >them at the end of the day & I remember how many I’ve put in. I’ll >see how her Mom wants to handle it. It’s a good age to instill the >honor system. >Thanks, Judy
I missed the original post on this marble idea, but it does sound nice. I may try this with my own. [I'm hoping I don't get laughed out of the house for comic strip Hi and Lois ] Anything that promotes `niceties` sounds good to me. Josie
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >Jen has them!! > This is an interesting idea…. > … regrettably, though, I have lost my marbles > Enid > > I learned a great trick from my children’s afterschool program. > > I bought two glass jars and a whole bunch of marbles. I put all >the > > marbles in one jar to start. Here are the rules: > > 1. Anytime my 5 and 7 year old do something without being asked, >they > > get to take out a marble and put it in the other jar. > > 2. Anytime they do something nice, kind, or sweet, (i.e., being >*good* > > to each other instead of fighting) they get a marble – sometimes >two. > > 3. When the marble jar is full, we’re treating ourselves to a >family > > event they’ve been clamoring for. > > 4. They cannot ask for a marble, or remind me they "deserve" a >marble > > (this is called "marble-grubbing"). > > 5. I cannot remind them they *might* get a marble – no bribes – >their > > actions need to be self-motivated. > > I stumbled upon this secret when I arrived at afterschool one day >to > > find my children sweetly cleaning up the toys – something the >eldest > > never does at home without a scene first! Their caregivers gave me >this > > "secret." We’ve been doing it home now for a few months, and to my > > amazement, it is *still* working. > > jen > > * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion >Network * > > The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – >Free!
Great Idea! I almost thought you were going to tell the marble trick to get kids out of bed. One male friend of mine told me he put marbles in the freezer and when his son would not get up for school, well, the marbles went into bed with the son…and son did not like the feel of cold marbles every turn. Ouchy cold. I am so glad I am a morning person….lol..just a little weird thing to share. How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these. – George Washington Carver
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> Jen has them!!
Well, I didn’t deserve them, anyway! Here I am at almost midnight, wasting time. And the soup’s not put away yet. Enid – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> This is an interesting idea…. > … regrettably, though, I have lost my marbles > Enid > > I learned a great trick from my children’s afterschool program. > > I bought two glass jars and a whole bunch of marbles. I put all > the > > marbles in one jar to start. Here are the rules: > > 1. Anytime my 5 and 7 year old do something without being asked, > they > > get to take out a marble and put it in the other jar. > > 2. Anytime they do something nice, kind, or sweet, (i.e., being > *good* > > to each other instead of fighting) they get a marble – sometimes > two. > > 3. When the marble jar is full, we’re treating ourselves to a > family > > event they’ve been clamoring for. > > 4. They cannot ask for a marble, or remind me they "deserve" a > marble > > (this is called "marble-grubbing"). > > 5. I cannot remind them they *might* get a marble – no bribes – > their > > actions need to be self-motivated. > > I stumbled upon this secret when I arrived at afterschool one day > to > > find my children sweetly cleaning up the toys – something the > eldest > > never does at home without a scene first! Their caregivers gave me > this > > "secret." We’ve been doing it home now for a few months, and to my > > amazement, it is *still* working. > > jen > > * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion > Network * > > The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – > Free!
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This is an interesting idea…. … regrettably, though, I have lost my marbles Enid – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > I learned a great trick from my children’s afterschool program. > I bought two glass jars and a whole bunch of marbles. I put all the > marbles in one jar to start. Here are the rules: > 1. Anytime my 5 and 7 year old do something without being asked, they > get to take out a marble and put it in the other jar. > 2. Anytime they do something nice, kind, or sweet, (i.e., being *good* > to each other instead of fighting) they get a marble – sometimes two. > 3. When the marble jar is full, we’re treating ourselves to a family > event they’ve been clamoring for. > 4. They cannot ask for a marble, or remind me they "deserve" a marble > (this is called "marble-grubbing"). > 5. I cannot remind them they *might* get a marble – no bribes – their > actions need to be self-motivated. > I stumbled upon this secret when I arrived at afterschool one day to > find my children sweetly cleaning up the toys – something the eldest > never does at home without a scene first! Their caregivers gave me this > "secret." We’ve been doing it home now for a few months, and to my > amazement, it is *still* working. > jen > * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * > The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!
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Love it!!!!! And I’m going to try it. If she tries to slip one & I find out, think I’ll put two back, skip a day or tell her I count them at the end of the day & I remember how many I’ve put in. I’ll see how her Mom wants to handle it. It’s a good age to instill the honor system. Thanks, Judy
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Great idea! thanks for sharing it!! > Just curious, do they lose marbles for doing bad things?? > How many marbles do you use? And how do you keep them from sneaking & > putting marbles in themselves? > Awesome idea!!!! > Thanks Again! > Melody > I learned a great trick from my children’s afterschool program. > I bought two glass jars and a whole bunch of marbles. I put all the > marbles in one jar to start. Here are the rules: > 1. Anytime my 5 and 7 year old do something without being asked, they > get to take out a marble and put it in the other jar. > 2. Anytime they do something nice, kind, or sweet, (i.e., being *good* > to each other instead of fighting) they get a marble – sometimes two. > 3. When the marble jar is full, we’re treating ourselves to a family > event they’ve been clamoring for. > 4. They cannot ask for a marble, or remind me they "deserve" a marble > (this is called "marble-grubbing"). > 5. I cannot remind them they *might* get a marble – no bribes – their > actions need to be self-motivated. > I stumbled upon this secret when I arrived at afterschool one day to > find my children sweetly cleaning up the toys – something the eldest > never does at home without a scene first! Their caregivers gave me this > "secret." We’ve been doing it home now for a few months, and to my > amazement, it is *still* working. > jen > * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * > The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!
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I learned a great trick from my children’s afterschool program. I bought two glass jars and a whole bunch of marbles. I put all the marbles in one jar to start. Here are the rules: 1. Anytime my 5 and 7 year old do something without being asked, they get to take out a marble and put it in the other jar. 2. Anytime they do something nice, kind, or sweet, (i.e., being *good* to each other instead of fighting) they get a marble – sometimes two. 3. When the marble jar is full, we’re treating ourselves to a family event they’ve been clamoring for. 4. They cannot ask for a marble, or remind me they "deserve" a marble (this is called "marble-grubbing"). 5. I cannot remind them they *might* get a marble – no bribes – their actions need to be self-motivated. I stumbled upon this secret when I arrived at afterschool one day to find my children sweetly cleaning up the toys – something the eldest never does at home without a scene first! Their caregivers gave me this "secret." We’ve been doing it home now for a few months, and to my amazement, it is *still* working. jen * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!
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Jen has them!! – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> This is an interesting idea…. > … regrettably, though, I have lost my marbles > Enid > I learned a great trick from my children’s afterschool program. > I bought two glass jars and a whole bunch of marbles. I put all the > marbles in one jar to start. Here are the rules: > 1. Anytime my 5 and 7 year old do something without being asked, they > get to take out a marble and put it in the other jar. > 2. Anytime they do something nice, kind, or sweet, (i.e., being *good* > to each other instead of fighting) they get a marble – sometimes two. > 3. When the marble jar is full, we’re treating ourselves to a family > event they’ve been clamoring for. > 4. They cannot ask for a marble, or remind me they "deserve" a marble > (this is called "marble-grubbing"). > 5. I cannot remind them they *might* get a marble – no bribes – their > actions need to be self-motivated. > I stumbled upon this secret when I arrived at afterschool one day to > find my children sweetly cleaning up the toys – something the eldest > never does at home without a scene first! Their caregivers gave me this > "secret." We’ve been doing it home now for a few months, and to my > amazement, it is *still* working. > jen > * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * > The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet –
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Great idea! thanks for sharing it!! Just curious, do they lose marbles for doing bad things?? How many marbles do you use? And how do you keep them from sneaking & putting marbles in themselves? Awesome idea!!!! Thanks Again! Melody – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > I learned a great trick from my children’s afterschool program. > I bought two glass jars and a whole bunch of marbles. I put all the > marbles in one jar to start. Here are the rules: > 1. Anytime my 5 and 7 year old do something without being asked, they > get to take out a marble and put it in the other jar. > 2. Anytime they do something nice, kind, or sweet, (i.e., being *good* > to each other instead of fighting) they get a marble – sometimes two. > 3. When the marble jar is full, we’re treating ourselves to a family > event they’ve been clamoring for. > 4. They cannot ask for a marble, or remind me they "deserve" a marble > (this is called "marble-grubbing"). > 5. I cannot remind them they *might* get a marble – no bribes – their > actions need to be self-motivated. > I stumbled upon this secret when I arrived at afterschool one day to > find my children sweetly cleaning up the toys – something the eldest > never does at home without a scene first! Their caregivers gave me this > "secret." We’ve been doing it home now for a few months, and to my > amazement, it is *still* working. > jen > * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * > The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!
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