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> there are a lot of parents with a very strong need to rationalize why > their kids are still in diapers at 3 and 4 so they NEED to assert that > training a child at 2 [when most are quite ready for it physically and > psychologically]
No, they aren’t. Most not till 3. > MUST involve some sort of cruelty [or the other silly > line is 'it is the parents who are trained'] > kids are ready at different points — but most are between 2 and 2.5 — > helping the child understand the process, practice the skills and feel > pride of achievement do the trick as you note. it is fairly recent that > the common wisdom was that kids aren’t ‘ready’ until 3 and that it is > acceptable and normal for kids to be messing their pants at 4.
Yes, they used to simply beat children if they didn’t. The current knowledge came from when they stopped doing that and actually tried the various methods in studies of lots of kids. You can beat an animal into micking all sorts of things before it is able to learn or has successfully learned, but it does permanent harm and makes the animal unpredictable! Steve
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->> > One method a friend of mine used was to buy the Disney Princess >underwear – >> > and tell the daughter that she doesn’t want to get the princesses > dirty. >> > Good Luck >> > Heidi >> That’s cruel. >> Steve >I TOTALLY agree. This is akin to chastising your kids for just soiling >their diapers in the first place. What a complex garnering punishment. >ENTIRELY cruel, and only serves to prolong the "potty learning" experience. >AJPDLA > Where is the chastising or punishment in this?
You make her feel bad for dirtying something she likes which she can’t help. You’re missing the point here entirely, that a child who doesn’t do it in the toilet CAN’T yet and that THAT is why they DON’T!!! > Since the little girl was > trained quickly, and happily, where is the ‘punishment’?
You put her under great emotional strain and accidentally it wasn’t too early, or not by much, but the trauma is still present and the distrust it creates in the child, and this will come back to bite you later! It’s like making you drive a car blindfolded and guess whether you’re running over your children or not! > When she had an > accident, the mother merely said ’oh well, lets wash the princess up ‘ and > didn’t make a big fuss. The little girl was thrilled to have princess > underwear, and was happy to try to go potty to keep them clean. > Please explain where it’s cruel – I’m really curious.
If your guess about them being ready is wrong, then you create a horror. > Heidi
That’s cruel. If you really don’t know this then you should fucking STOP HAVING KIDS RIGHT NOW!!! Steve
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It worked for us too…we took the kids to the store, they picked out special underpants (we went from Mickey Mouse, to Jurassic park, to Blues Clues and Toy Story!) , and it really did motivate them to go to the potty. It wasn’t cruel at all. It’s also easier to take underpants on and off again, we had a few incidents of "I have to pee!" and struggling to get the diaper off in time resulted in missing the potty opportunity. The going naked is also something to consider, we used a combination of both. But I agree that a child must show signs of readiness. I read or heard somewhere (can’t remember) that there is a "window" in which the child shows signs of readiness, , and if the parent doesn’t recognize this and jump in , the child will slip back and then it becomes much more difficult to train a child at a reasonable age. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->The first half of your theory is right, the last part wrong. If a child >was some whimsical adult who had simply not learned to wipe his butt you >might be right, but of course they are not!! A child is not ABLE to >notice their bladder or bowels until a certain level of brain and mind >complexity and growth are completed, usually after about age 3. You >trying to "train" them is unrealistic. > I disagree – in some areas of China, for instance, they use pants that have > no seat on them, and nothing else on the child. Most of the children are > using a toilet before they turn 2. It’s a matter of letting the child learn > what the feeling means when his bladder or bowels are full. Leaving them > naked allows them to make the connection. >> If you have the patience, there’s no harm >> in letting the child potty train at her own speed. If you’d like to > ‘hurry >> it along’, then you can try the naked and $75 dollar weekend method. You > let >> the kid run around the house naked from the waist down – when the pee > goes >> down her leg, she’ll get upset, at which point you remind her that the > next >> time she can go into the potty. The $75 is for the rug cleaner you’ll > need >> to rent at the supermarket once she’s successfully trained. >If you do that for an unready child they will simply pee and play with >it. > yes, but in this child’s case, since she has already begun to complain about > being wet, and seems ready to potty, this method could work. It may not, but > all children and all parents are different – it worked with my son. >> Also, instead of a potty chair, I got a padded seat that fit into the big >> toilet seat in my house (Kmart and Toys R Us has them). I figured that > this >> way, I don’t have to retrain to use the big toilet since he’ll be used to >> going the regular toilet, and I won’t have to clean out a potty. >That’s not a terrible thing for later, but the toilet is a bit large for >them to learn to use for themselves until they master the idea of >"going" at all! > Not at all – my son learned right away. >> One method a friend of mine used was to buy the Disney Princess > underwear – >> and tell the daughter that she doesn’t want to get the princesses dirty. >> Good Luck >> Heidi >That’s cruel. >Steve > In your opinion, it’s cruel. It worked for my friend’s daughter – she was > very excited about her new princess underwear and was willing to help clean > the princesses clean. It depends on the child, and how it’s presented to > her. The person who posted her question asked for techniques, and I gave her > two. As in most parenting, you take what advice will seem to work for you, > and ignore the rest. > Also, I’m curious why it’s ‘cruel’. I’d really like to know (since it worked > so well for her daughter, I’m just wondering what the harm is in it).
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->> > One method a friend of mine used was to buy the Disney Princess >underwear – >> > and tell the daughter that she doesn’t want to get the princesses > dirty. >> > Good Luck >> > Heidi >> That’s cruel. >> Steve >I TOTALLY agree. This is akin to chastising your kids for just soiling >their diapers in the first place. What a complex garnering punishment. >ENTIRELY cruel, and only serves to prolong the "potty learning" experience. >AJPDLA > Where is the chastising or punishment in this? Since the little girl was > trained quickly, and happily, where is the ‘punishment’? When she had an > accident, the mother merely said ’oh well, lets wash the princess up ‘ and > didn’t make a big fuss. The little girl was thrilled to have princess > underwear, and was happy to try to go potty to keep them clean. > Please explain where it’s cruel – I’m really curious.
there are a lot of parents with a very strong need to rationalize why their kids are still in diapers at 3 and 4 so they NEED to assert that training a child at 2 [when most are quite ready for it physically and psychologically] MUST involve some sort of cruelty [or the other silly line is 'it is the parents who are trained'] kids are ready at different points — but most are between 2 and 2.5 — helping the child understand the process, practice the skills and feel pride of achievement do the trick as you note. it is fairly recent that the common wisdom was that kids aren’t ‘ready’ until 3 and that it is acceptable and normal for kids to be messing their pants at 4.
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > One method a friend of mine used was to buy the Disney Princess >underwear – > > and tell the daughter that she doesn’t want to get the princesses dirty. > > Good Luck > > Heidi > That’s cruel. > Steve >I TOTALLY agree. This is akin to chastising your kids for just soiling >their diapers in the first place. What a complex garnering punishment. >ENTIRELY cruel, and only serves to prolong the "potty learning" experience. >AJPDLA
Where is the chastising or punishment in this? Since the little girl was trained quickly, and happily, where is the ‘punishment’? When she had an accident, the mother merely said ’oh well, lets wash the princess up ‘ and didn’t make a big fuss. The little girl was thrilled to have princess underwear, and was happy to try to go potty to keep them clean. Please explain where it’s cruel – I’m really curious. Heidi Life is wonderful – pass it on. Sign your organ donor card.
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>The first half of your theory is right, the last part wrong. If a child >was some whimsical adult who had simply not learned to wipe his butt you >might be right, but of course they are not!! A child is not ABLE to >notice their bladder or bowels until a certain level of brain and mind >complexity and growth are completed, usually after about age 3. You >trying to "train" them is unrealistic.
I disagree – in some areas of China, for instance, they use pants that have no seat on them, and nothing else on the child. Most of the children are using a toilet before they turn 2. It’s a matter of letting the child learn what the feeling means when his bladder or bowels are full. Leaving them naked allows them to make the connection. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> If you have the patience, there’s no harm > in letting the child potty train at her own speed. If you’d like to ‘hurry > it along’, then you can try the naked and $75 dollar weekend method. You let > the kid run around the house naked from the waist down – when the pee goes > down her leg, she’ll get upset, at which point you remind her that the next > time she can go into the potty. The $75 is for the rug cleaner you’ll need > to rent at the supermarket once she’s successfully trained. >If you do that for an unready child they will simply pee and play with >it.
yes, but in this child’s case, since she has already begun to complain about being wet, and seems ready to potty, this method could work. It may not, but all children and all parents are different – it worked with my son. > Also, instead of a potty chair, I got a padded seat that fit into the big > toilet seat in my house (Kmart and Toys R Us has them). I figured that this > way, I don’t have to retrain to use the big toilet since he’ll be used to > going the regular toilet, and I won’t have to clean out a potty. >That’s not a terrible thing for later, but the toilet is a bit large for >them to learn to use for themselves until they master the idea of >"going" at all!
Not at all – my son learned right away. > One method a friend of mine used was to buy the Disney Princess underwear – > and tell the daughter that she doesn’t want to get the princesses dirty. > Good Luck > Heidi >That’s cruel. >Steve
In your opinion, it’s cruel. It worked for my friend’s daughter – she was very excited about her new princess underwear and was willing to help clean the princesses clean. It depends on the child, and how it’s presented to her. The person who posted her question asked for techniques, and I gave her two. As in most parenting, you take what advice will seem to work for you, and ignore the rest. Also, I’m curious why it’s ‘cruel’. I’d really like to know (since it worked so well for her daughter, I’m just wondering what the harm is in it).
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> If you have the patience, there’s no harm > in letting the child potty train at her own speed. If you’d like to ‘hurry > it along’, then you can try the naked and $75 dollar weekend method. You let > the kid run around the house naked from the waist down – when the pee goes > down her leg, she’ll get upset, at which point you remind her that the next > time she can go into the potty. The $75 is for the rug cleaner you’ll need > to rent at the supermarket once she’s successfully trained. > If you do that for an unready child they will simply pee and play with > it.
Not to mention what they’ll end up doing with Number Two. Although, it could be a good springboard to sandcastle competitions on the beach, if you get my drift (no pun intended, of course). :) > Also, instead of a potty chair, I got a padded seat that fit into the big > toilet seat in my house (Kmart and Toys R Us has them). I figured that this > way, I don’t have to retrain to use the big toilet since he’ll be used to > going the regular toilet, and I won’t have to clean out a potty. > That’s not a terrible thing for later, but the toilet is a bit large for > them to learn to use for themselves until they master the idea of > "going" at all!
Actually, we have the same padded seat that goes over the toilet, and I think when the time comes it will work quite well for us. The separate little potty we have, every time Noah decides to "try" out the toilet one more time, he uses the bottom part of it upside down as a stool to get onto the padded seat on the toilet. So THAT works out for us both ways. But we’re still in diapers, as well, and will see how it goes over the next few months. He just turned 3 last Saturday. > One method a friend of mine used was to buy the Disney Princess underwear – > and tell the daughter that she doesn’t want to get the princesses dirty. > Good Luck > Heidi > That’s cruel. > Steve
I TOTALLY agree. This is akin to chastising your kids for just soiling their diapers in the first place. What a complex garnering punishment. ENTIRELY cruel, and only serves to prolong the "potty learning" experience. AJPDLA
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > : High said: >Grandmoms have the touch, I guess!!!! > : > : > : That’s cool. Yeah I really don’t mind if my Mom does it and she really > : seems to want to. Lol. It must be a grandma thing. > : > : Later, Sophie > : > : > Realize that when "grandma" was having you she perhaps didn’t > train you with "pampers" but the cloth diapers and who wants > to wash and deal with those a nanosecond longer than they have > to…. of course "grandma" has the knack. > Karen
I used ONLY cloth diapers which *I* washed in a wringer washer and hung them on the line, and I STILL let them do it at their own pace! Steve
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>: High said: >Grandmoms have the touch, I guess!!!! >: That’s cool. Yeah I really don’t mind if my Mom does it >: and she really seems to want to. Lol. It must be a >: grandma thing. >Realize that when "grandma" was having you she perhaps didn’t >train you with "pampers" but the cloth diapers and who wants >to wash and deal with those a nanosecond longer than they >have to…. of course "grandma" has the knack.
excuse me? i use cloth exclusively, except when we’ll be in a hotel for over 2 days. they are no more "stinky" than disposables. and, no, i don’t have a diaper service. i wash diapers every other day. it’s no big deal. it’s less trouble than trucking a bunch of used disposables to the dump. not to mention all the other uses for cloth diapers after they get retired, the money saved, etc… lee
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> x-no-archive: yes > I remember a dreadful week at the beach when my two youngest (twin) brothers > were in cloth diapers …a hot stinky week in 1968! I can certainly see > where moms back then were motivated to diaper train as soon as possible!
Except for the fact that kids drive their own tiolet skills, and you cannot really "train" a child at all!! Steve
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I have a theory on potty training – it’s either going to happen when the child is interested, or when the parents are so tired of changing poopy diapers that they train the kid. If you have the patience, there’s no harm in letting the child potty train at her own speed. If you’d like to ‘hurry it along’, then you can try the naked and $75 dollar weekend method. You let the kid run around the house naked from the waist down – when the pee goes down her leg, she’ll get upset, at which point you remind her that the next time she can go into the potty. The $75 is for the rug cleaner you’ll need to rent at the supermarket once she’s successfully trained. Also, instead of a potty chair, I got a padded seat that fit into the big toilet seat in my house (Kmart and Toys R Us has them). I figured that this way, I don’t have to retrain to use the big toilet since he’ll be used to going the regular toilet, and I won’t have to clean out a potty. One method a friend of mine used was to buy the Disney Princess underwear – and tell the daughter that she doesn’t want to get the princesses dirty. Good Luck Heidi Life is wonderful – pass it on. Sign your organ donor card.
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> I have a theory on potty training – it’s either going to happen when the > child is interested, or when the parents are so tired of changing poopy > diapers that they train the kid.
The first half of your theory is right, the last part wrong. If a child was some whimsical adult who had simply not learned to wipe his butt you might be right, but of course they are not!! A child is not ABLE to notice their bladder or bowels until a certain level of brain and mind complexity and growth are completed, usually after about age 3. You trying to "train" them is unrealistic. We say that word "train", but in actuality they LEARN!! And they can’t till they’re ready. And TRYING to train them is both like beating your head against a wall, and like beating your child’s ehad against a wall. > If you have the patience, there’s no harm > in letting the child potty train at her own speed. If you’d like to ‘hurry > it along’, then you can try the naked and $75 dollar weekend method. You let > the kid run around the house naked from the waist down – when the pee goes > down her leg, she’ll get upset, at which point you remind her that the next > time she can go into the potty. The $75 is for the rug cleaner you’ll need > to rent at the supermarket once she’s successfully trained.
If you do that for an unready child they will simply pee and play with it. > Also, instead of a potty chair, I got a padded seat that fit into the big > toilet seat in my house (Kmart and Toys R Us has them). I figured that this > way, I don’t have to retrain to use the big toilet since he’ll be used to > going the regular toilet, and I won’t have to clean out a potty.
That’s not a terrible thing for later, but the toilet is a bit large for them to learn to use for themselves until they master the idea of "going" at all! > One method a friend of mine used was to buy the Disney Princess underwear – > and tell the daughter that she doesn’t want to get the princesses dirty. > Good Luck > Heidi
That’s cruel. Steve
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My son wasn’t ready until a couple of weeks before his 3rd birthday. He was completely unconcerned about wet diapers, etc, so I didn’t push him on it. He let me know when he was ready and he has never had an accident and has never wet the bed since. Even if you can get your daughter to go to the bathroom by constantly asking her (which is unlikely if she doesn’t want to do it!) she isn’t really trained until she can let you know she feels the need and asks to go. Flori — "The squeaky wheel doesn’t always get greased; sometimes it gets replaced." –John Peers
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hi, > I am new to the group, and I’m very new to potty training. My daughter > is 2 1/2 and is showing no signs of being interested in learning to use > the potty. We have had a potty chair for a few months, and she loves to > sit on it, with and without clothes. She also loves to put things in > it….toys, dolls, books,etc. She puts her dolls on it to go potty, and > she comes in with me sometimes while I go to the bathroom, so I know > she’s familiar with the concept of potty. > She tells me, "Mommy, I pooped again" or "Mommy I need a diaper change", > but when I have her sit on the potty, she does nothing. I have tried > putting her in the thick cotton training pants and I ask her every 1/2 > hour or so if she has to go, to which she always says no. When I notice > that she is wet while wearing the pants, I ask her if she did pee pee, > aand she says no. She also doesn’t seem to be bothered by wet pants. > I’m getting frustrated. I know that every child develops differently, > so I don’t want to push her, but what else can I do to encourage her to > go pn the potty? > Thanks, > Danielle
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> Barbara, > Wow, 3.5 seems a little old. My Mom is really gung-ho about coming after > Dylan leaves and getting Charlotte trained. She says she got my sister and > I done in a couple of days. We’ll see. > Later, Sophie
Don’t fall for that, God, don’t fall for that! That kind of crap is what damages kids. Steve
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High said: >Grandmoms have the touch, I guess!!!! That’s cool. Yeah I really don’t mind if my Mom does it and she really seems to want to. Lol. It must be a grandma thing. Later, Sophie
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: High said: >Grandmoms have the touch, I guess!!!! : : : That’s cool. Yeah I really don’t mind if my Mom does it and she really : seems to want to. Lol. It must be a grandma thing. : : Later, Sophie : : Realize that when "grandma" was having you she perhaps didn’t train you with "pampers" but the cloth diapers and who wants to wash and deal with those a nanosecond longer than they have to…. of course "grandma" has the knack. Karen
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > Hi, > I am new to the group, and I’m very new to potty training. My daughter > is 2 1/2 and is showing no signs of being interested in learning to use > the potty. We have had a potty chair for a few months, and she loves to > sit on it, with and without clothes. She also loves to put things in > it….toys, dolls, books,etc. She puts her dolls on it to go potty, and > she comes in with me sometimes while I go to the bathroom, so I know > she’s familiar with the concept of potty. > She tells me, "Mommy, I pooped again" or "Mommy I need a diaper change", > but when I have her sit on the potty, she does nothing. I have tried > putting her in the thick cotton training pants and I ask her every 1/2 > hour or so if she has to go, to which she always says no. When I notice > that she is wet while wearing the pants, I ask her if she did pee pee, > aand she says no. She also doesn’t seem to be bothered by wet pants. > I’m getting frustrated. I know that every child develops differently, > so I don’t want to push her, but what else can I do to encourage her to > go pn the potty? > Thanks, > Danielle
Never be pushy, never punish. Ask. Be an example, show them how you do it. Talk about how one goes about noticing whether you have to go or not. They will be more ready by age 3. It seems like a long process, but you won’t even remember it years later! Steve
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I worked full-time when my older 2 boys were toddlers, and my mom babysat them. She did the potty-training, and my oldest was trained by the time he was 2, and the middle by the time he was 2.5. My youngest was fully trained, night and day, by his 3rd birthday, (by me) all the while my mom is asking "is he potty-trained trained yet???" Grandmoms have the touch, I guess!!!! – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Barbara, > Wow, 3.5 seems a little old. My Mom is really gung-ho about coming after > Dylan leaves and getting Charlotte trained. She says she got my sister and > I done in a couple of days. We’ll see. > Later, Sophie
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->Hi, >I am new to the group, and I’m very new to potty training. My daughter >is 2 1/2 and is showing no signs of being interested in learning to use >the potty. We have had a potty chair for a few months, and she loves to >sit on it, with and without clothes. She also loves to put things in >it….toys, dolls, books,etc. She puts her dolls on it to go potty, and >she comes in with me sometimes while I go to the bathroom, so I know >she’s familiar with the concept of potty. >She tells me, "Mommy, I pooped again" or "Mommy I need a diaper change", >but when I have her sit on the potty, she does nothing. I have tried >putting her in the thick cotton training pants and I ask her every 1/2 >hour or so if she has to go, to which she always says no. When I notice >that she is wet while wearing the pants, I ask her if she did pee pee, >aand she says no. She also doesn’t seem to be bothered by wet pants. >I’m getting frustrated. I know that every child develops differently, >so I don’t want to push her, but what else can I do to encourage her to >go pn the potty? >Thanks, >Danielle
Wait until she’s ready. Banty
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Barbara, Wow, 3.5 seems a little old. My Mom is really gung-ho about coming after Dylan leaves and getting Charlotte trained. She says she got my sister and I done in a couple of days. We’ll see. Later, Sophie
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> Barbara said: >When he was just past 3yo, we told him if he wanted to go to > preschool >with his cousin, he’d have to go pee and poop in the potty. > For Charlotte to go to the next toddler group up (which I guess is > technically preschool) she has to be 3 and potty trained. Well 3 will > happen in June but we’ve got till the end of August till school starts. > I’m hoping this will be incentive enough for her to get potty trained soon, > or at least by the time school starts.
The main thing, in my experience, is that the child has to be both ready and willing. If you’re missing one element or the other, you’d be better off chasing your own tail than trying to potty train. While I’m sure that telling him he wouldn’t be able to go to preschool with Adam was a bit of an incentive for him, I also believe that he was finally ready at that point when he hadn’t been before. It really was as if someone had flipped a switch. For a lot of kids, 3.5 seems to be a magical age for potty training if you just let them lead the way entirely. At that point, lots of kids seem to wake up one morning and decide they want to wear underwear and, voila, they’re potty trained. I suppose if it hadn’t worked with Julian at 3, we’d have been happy enough to wait another 6 months, but we got lucky and it worked. — Be well, Barbara (Julian [7/22/97] and Aurora’s [7/19/99, BCH] mom) Visit us at http://dreamwater.net/guavaln
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Barbara said: >When he was just past 3yo, we told him if he wanted to go to preschool >with his cousin, he’d have to go pee and poop in the potty. For Charlotte to go to the next toddler group up (which I guess is technically preschool) she has to be 3 and potty trained. Well 3 will happen in June but we’ve got till the end of August till school starts. I’m hoping this will be incentive enough for her to get potty trained soon, or at least by the time school starts. Later, Sophie
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My daughter is 2.8 yrs old and she sounds just like your daughter. However we did get her interested a little while ago. She would go on the potty for my husband/her dad (she’s a real Daddy’s Girl). But he got deployed and she wouldn’t go for me so we’re back to square one. I’ll be interested in seeing what replies you get. Sorry I didn’t have any advice. :) Later, Sophie mom to Charlotte (2.8 yrs) and Patrick (15 months)
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hi, > I am new to the group, and I’m very new to potty training. My daughter > is 2 1/2 and is showing no signs of being interested in learning to use > the potty. We have had a potty chair for a few months, and she loves to > sit on it, with and without clothes. She also loves to put things in > it….toys, dolls, books,etc. She puts her dolls on it to go potty, and > she comes in with me sometimes while I go to the bathroom, so I know > she’s familiar with the concept of potty. > She tells me, "Mommy, I pooped again" or "Mommy I need a diaper change", > but when I have her sit on the potty, she does nothing. I have tried > putting her in the thick cotton training pants and I ask her every 1/2 > hour or so if she has to go, to which she always says no. When I notice > that she is wet while wearing the pants, I ask her if she did pee pee, > aand she says no. She also doesn’t seem to be bothered by wet pants. > I’m getting frustrated. I know that every child develops differently, > so I don’t want to push her, but what else can I do to encourage her to > go pn the potty?
If your daughter is not bothered by wet pants, she is not ready for potty training. My son was just like this. He got the idea of going in the potty and would use it with glee when *he* wanted to, but he was absolutely unconcerned if he had an "accident". We kept trying putting him in underwear/training pants, but always ended up switching back to diapers within less than 24 hours due to multiple accidents in very short periods of time. I am pleased to say he has now been completely potty trained for 6 months and has had perhaps 3-4 daytime accidents in that span of time (usually due to having too much fun and putting off getting to the potty for too long). What we did was this: we backed off completely for several months. We let him use the potty whenever he felt like it, but left him in diapers. During this period, he gained a lot of confidence in using the toilet, but knew it wasn’t an absolute requirement. When he was just past 3yo, we told him if he wanted to go to preschool with his cousin, he’d have to go pee and poop in the potty. He agreed. This was a Sunday afternoon. When we got home that evening, we switched to underwear (regular underwear, not the absorbent training pants–even those can work against you in my experience). He had a few accidents over the next 24 hours, but on Monday evening we were out at our favorite pizza restaurant and, sitting next to me at the table, he said "Uh-oh." I said, "Hold it," grabbed his hand, and rushed him to the restroom. His underwear were a bit damp, but he did the rest of his business there and, from there on, he was dry and clean. It was really that easy. So, my experience suggests that if you wait until your child *agrees* to the idea of using the potty regularly and then you just switch to underwear, if the child is ready, she’ll get it within a very short period of time. Multiple accidents, constant pestering to use the potty, and unconcern about wet/dirty underpants are all signs that it’s too soon and you need to switch back to diapers. — Be well, Barbara (Julian [7/22/97] and Aurora’s [7/19/99] mom) Visit us at http://dreamwater.net/guavaln
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Hi, I am new to the group, and I’m very new to potty training. My daughter is 2 1/2 and is showing no signs of being interested in learning to use the potty. We have had a potty chair for a few months, and she loves to sit on it, with and without clothes. She also loves to put things in it….toys, dolls, books,etc. She puts her dolls on it to go potty, and she comes in with me sometimes while I go to the bathroom, so I know she’s familiar with the concept of potty. She tells me, "Mommy, I pooped again" or "Mommy I need a diaper change", but when I have her sit on the potty, she does nothing. I have tried putting her in the thick cotton training pants and I ask her every 1/2 hour or so if she has to go, to which she always says no. When I notice that she is wet while wearing the pants, I ask her if she did pee pee, aand she says no. She also doesn’t seem to be bothered by wet pants. I’m getting frustrated. I know that every child develops differently, so I don’t want to push her, but what else can I do to encourage her to go pn the potty? Thanks, Danielle
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