Pure Parents

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If I were you I would take one day at a time and just try to be the best mom you can be.don’t let the little things get to you. If someone tries to offer to help let them an take a break from your baby. like go take a nice warm bath or something. believe me it has saved me from seeing the doc about things like that butthen i was already diagnosed with it. * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!

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I am not pregnant yet.. but I have a plan for *most* eventual situations.. see that is one of the few benefits of my disorders lol.. I lie awake at night and THINK about all the "what-ifs".. also I am looking into adoption.. we shall see.. I am not sure what I am going to do yet.. I am still  in the "planning" stages of our family thanks for the input though Claire

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> If I were you I would take one day at a time and just try to be the > best mom you can be.don’t let the little things get to you. If someone > tries to offer to help let them an take a break from your baby. like go > take a nice warm bath or something. believe me it has saved me from > seeing the doc about things like that butthen i was already diagnosed > with it. > * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * > The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!

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I have read so many books already.. and I wish we lived in a more gay-friendly environment..because Jen cannot attend the "father" classes lol. Thank you so much for your support! I was not too worried about passing it on because I have the advantage to KNOW what to look for and not freak out and deny, or worse, overlook it.  I am sitting here listening to Rusted Root and as soon as the person that is coming over to pick up my stereo (I don’t use this one anymore) I will be working out.. I have lost I 3 pounds in preparation for this angel.. and that is exactly how he/she will be treated! Jen and I BOTH want this so bad! Thanks again! Claire Bear

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Claire, I have three children, and I’m a damn good > mommy  :)  it can be done.  As for passing it down > to your kids, let me tell you, there are worse > things you can pass down.  ;)  I look upon this as > a gift.  An opportunity.  So for those of you that > say NAY to having children, fine, that’s your > choice.  But it CAN be positive for both parents > and child.  That said: > Check with your pdoc on what meds you can take > safely while pregnant.  Also work closely with > him/her the whole way through.  You’ll need to > keep a close eye on yourself during that time, as > your hormones will be raging on top of being > pregnant and bipolar.  ALSO very important… see > an OB/GYN early on, and let them know what is > going on with you mentally.  Working closely with > both doctors will help. > While you’re pregnant, it wouldn’t hurt to take > some parenting courses.  This WILL help both you, > Jen (is that her name?), and the baby. > Best of luck to you all. > Linda >I have wanted to be a mommy for as long as I can remember! I have baby >clothes, toys, and even names! I am a lesbian (not sure how many remember >me) and my girlfriend can’t very well help me out…Well.. a friend of ours >has offered to donate his *ahem* services.. for as long as it takes..I am >going to go ahead with this..I am 25..and I am at a great place in my life! >Please don’t flame me for asking this as I just need a little advice. I am >on Depakote (a no no for sure), and wellbutrin.. I have rapid cycling manic >depression and it is not THAT bad.. I have some hypomanic days but can only >remember one manic day and even that was mild (no voices etc..)..Ok.. I >guess my question is: what CAN I take while I am pregnant for depression.. I >am slowly coming off my meds and feeling great  I can’t remember having >ever been so exciting.. and I figure that if postpartum gets too bad.. I can >get back on my meds and bottle feed.. I am going to be a stay at home mom >even though my job said that I am always welcome back..and that they will >miss me! Anyone here gotten preggers and then been diagnosed? Or wanted to >get pregnant so you sought other remedies? Please help! Thanks so much gang >and please.. wish me luck rather than failure.. I will be a great mom! >Claire Bear.. The Green Eyed Gal

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Claire, I have three children, and I’m a damn good mommy  :)  it can be done.  As for passing it down to your kids, let me tell you, there are worse things you can pass down.  ;)  I look upon this as a gift.  An opportunity.  So for those of you that say NAY to having children, fine, that’s your choice.  But it CAN be positive for both parents and child.  That said: Check with your pdoc on what meds you can take safely while pregnant.  Also work closely with him/her the whole way through.  You’ll need to keep a close eye on yourself during that time, as your hormones will be raging on top of being pregnant and bipolar.  ALSO very important… see an OB/GYN early on, and let them know what is going on with you mentally.  Working closely with both doctors will help. While you’re pregnant, it wouldn’t hurt to take some parenting courses.  This WILL help both you, Jen (is that her name?), and the baby. Best of luck to you all. Linda – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >I have wanted to be a mommy for as long as I can remember! I have baby >clothes, toys, and even names! I am a lesbian (not sure how many remember >me) and my girlfriend can’t very well help me out…Well.. a friend of ours >has offered to donate his *ahem* services.. for as long as it takes..I am >going to go ahead with this..I am 25..and I am at a great place in my life! >Please don’t flame me for asking this as I just need a little advice. I am >on Depakote (a no no for sure), and wellbutrin.. I have rapid cycling manic >depression and it is not THAT bad.. I have some hypomanic days but can only >remember one manic day and even that was mild (no voices etc..)..Ok.. I >guess my question is: what CAN I take while I am pregnant for depression.. I >am slowly coming off my meds and feeling great  I can’t remember having >ever been so exciting.. and I figure that if postpartum gets too bad.. I can >get back on my meds and bottle feed.. I am going to be a stay at home mom >even though my job said that I am always welcome back..and that they will >miss me! Anyone here gotten preggers and then been diagnosed? Or wanted to >get pregnant so you sought other remedies? Please help! Thanks so much gang >and please.. wish me luck rather than failure.. I will be a great mom! >Claire Bear.. The Green Eyed Gal

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Well Claire, you’ll definitely have to check with your docs about the safety of your medications BEFORE you start the, er, conceiving process.  This is because the first trimester is always the very riskiest time for birth defects, and also because many of our meds stay in the bloodstream for a long time after you stop taking them. As for possible worries about "passing on" the disorder… it could happen; however since you are very aware of your own condition, you’ll be in a better position than anyone else to see symptoms if they do occur, and know what to do about them. Cheers, TAE

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I have wanted to be a mommy for as long as I can remember! I have baby clothes, toys, and even names! I am a lesbian (not sure how many remember me) and my girlfriend can’t very well help me out…Well.. a friend of ours has offered to donate his *ahem* services.. for as long as it takes..I am going to go ahead with this..I am 25..and I am at a great place in my life! Please don’t flame me for asking this as I just need a little advice. I am on Depakote (a no no for sure), and wellbutrin.. I have rapid cycling manic depression and it is not THAT bad.. I have some hypomanic days but can only remember one manic day and even that was mild (no voices etc..)..Ok.. I guess my question is: what CAN I take while I am pregnant for depression.. I am slowly coming off my meds and feeling great  I can’t remember having ever been so exciting.. and I figure that if postpartum gets too bad.. I can get back on my meds and bottle feed.. I am going to be a stay at home mom even though my job said that I am always welcome back..and that they will miss me! Anyone here gotten preggers and then been diagnosed? Or wanted to get pregnant so you sought other remedies? Please help! Thanks so much gang and please.. wish me luck rather than failure.. I will be a great mom! Claire Bear.. The Green Eyed Gal

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