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Hi Jeff: I found this book that I think you would like about parenting.  It’s called Life Teachings:  Raising a Child by Jeanie Davis Pullen.  She tells her life stories about raising her 2 daughters:  what she did, how they reacted to it and how her kids are today. It’s a simple read full of great ideas and techniques.  If you want more information about it, she has a website at http://www.LifeTeachings.com which has excerpts of the book and information about the offer.  I was able to buy it at amazon.com.  If you do decide to get it, let me know what you think. Michelle > I’m a non custodial father of a 17 month girl, looking for relevant > and informative websites, and book recommendations, to help > me learn more about parenting, especially at the toddler stage. > Thanks, > Jeff

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I’m a non custodial father of a 17 month girl, looking for relevant and informative websites, and book recommendations, to help me learn more about parenting, especially at the toddler stage. Thanks, Jeff

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> I’m a non custodial father of a 17 month girl, looking for relevant > and informative websites, and book recommendations, to help > me learn more about parenting, especially at the toddler stage. > Thanks, > Jeff

I don’t know about web sites for 17 month olds (because, while the Internet existed when mine were that age, it wasn’t the same animal it is now) but books I found to be a mixed bag. I liked the comforting tone of Penelope Leach’s Your Baby and Child, I loved the explicit diagrams for doing things.  But I found a lot of her advice left me wondering if we were from the same planet, or if perhaps I had a different species of child than she was familiar with. Dr. Spock was good as a general reference for concrete things, although the 1988 or 89 edition still told you you should prepare your daughter for the onset of menses by buying her her own belted pads and sanitary belt !!!!!  (Yeah, why not make her wash the laundry by beating it on a rock at the river side, while you’re at it…..) T.Berry Brazelton did not have much that was useful for me; although he clearly loves and appreciates babies, however his attitudes towards moms was way to condescending for me, and there wasn’t any information I found particularly useful. Burton White had some interesting theories from the laboratory, which I had serious doubts about whether they spoke to what really works in real homes.  Also the attitude seemed to be; if you don’t do exactly as I say 1) you are an idiot and 2) your child is doomed. I have seen to many great kids whose parents have vastly different concepts of parenting to believe much of that. Many people on these ngs swear by Sears.  I haven’t read them, but you could give them a go. I guess a lot depends on what your style of parenting IS;  with a 17 month old you probably already have some ideas about what works for you, what kind of parent you are by nature, what problems you have that need to be addressed. Best wishes on your search! Enid

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thanks to all. the books that were recommended to me are from the gesell institute and are out of print, however i was able to locate a bunch of them on ebay and powells. the web sites look terrific.  thanks again. jeff – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->I’m a non custodial father of a 17 month girl, looking for relevant >and informative websites, and book recommendations, to help >me learn more about parenting, especially at the toddler stage. >Thanks, >Jeff >Try http://www.zerotothree.org >Lots of articles including one on how men affect their children’s >development.  While you are the ncp, if you want to stay involved, >then there are many books and websites that you may use.  This >website offers a good start and includes links to many other >resources. >The other webiste I like is the natural parenting website at: >http://www.naturalchild.com/  while it may be geared more >for moms, the advice it gives applies to all parents. >Dorothy >There is no sound, no cry in all the world >that can be heard unless someone listens .. >source unknown

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Try www.babycenter.com , they have and Ages & Stages section as well as message boards about different developemental stages.  it was a great help to me before I found this group. Mouse

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I’m a non custodial father of a 17 month girl, looking for relevant > and informative websites, and book recommendations, to help > me learn more about parenting, especially at the toddler stage. > Thanks, > Jeff

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>I’m a non custodial father of a 17 month girl, looking for relevant >and informative websites, and book recommendations, to help >me learn more about parenting, especially at the toddler stage. >Thanks, >Jeff

Try http://www.zerotothree.org Lots of articles including one on how men affect their children’s development.  While you are the ncp, if you want to stay involved, then there are many books and websites that you may use.  This website offers a good start and includes links to many other resources. The other webiste I like is the natural parenting website at: http://www.naturalchild.com/  while it may be geared more for moms, the advice it gives applies to all parents. Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. source unknown

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