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> >LaVonne > I meant making her choose her own punishment is close to emotional > cruelty, an "alternative" form of punishment that I’ve seen suggested. > How is making a kid choose their own punishment help matters? They’ll > be worried that they don’t give themselves a big enough one, in which > case the parents will heap more on them, or if they give too much, > self-explanitory. I’d say that spanking in this case is the best > choice, for all the reasons mentioned, quick and gets the point > across.
In raising children, the most important job I or anyone else will ever have, I am not interested in expediency, but rather in what is best for children, both short and long term. The only point that spanking gets across is that hitting others is an acceptable way to express displeasure, to force others to comply with our wishes — especially others that are smaller, younger, and weaker. This lesson is not one of my parenting goals. I want to raise children who learnto make good choices in life — not children who simply avoid bad behavior because they may be caught and punished. Individuals who make choices dependent upon the likelihood of punishment have little reason to make good choices when the liklihood of being caught is minimal. LaVonne – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Z
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