Pure Parents

Question:

  I am due with >twins in October and am disabled as well.  But I have noticed >some sure fire ways to get flamed here. >3.  Say you do/don’t want natural childbirth, an epidural, drugs >or a c-section

 ,<snipping all the stuff I’m not specifically addressing> I am an adult and have to make my own decisions about my birth experience and >my child raising methods.  I can take advice and yet make my own >decision.

Congrats on the twins!!!  I was interested in your comments about natural childbirth and your birth experience decisions.  My daughter will be two next month and we are trying to get pregnant with our second child now.  With my daughter, I had a non-medicated delivery just because there wasn’t enough time to get an epidural (1 1/2 hours of labor from water breaking to delivery!).  I was unhappy with my treatment in the hospital by the doctors, however.  I felt like a number, not a person, and there was definelty a lack of compassion.  I am thinking about home delivery or maybe midwife or water delivery this time.  I haven’t investigated thoroughly yet, but if you have any info or would like to share your decision or experience, I’d love to hear it!  Thanks!   jennifer, katelyn’s mom

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This newsgroup is becoming really upsetting to me.  I am due with twins in October and am disabled as well.  But I have noticed some sure fire ways to get flamed here. 1.  Say you do/don’t want to put your child in daycare 2.  Say you do/don’t want to circumsize your child 3.  Say you do/don’t want natural childbirth, an epidural, drugs or a c-section 4.  Say you feel guilty about some aspect of parenting. Can’t anyone post something non-judgemental?  Simply state your feelings and not shove it down someones throat?  I am an adult and have to make my own decisions about my birth experience and my child raising methods.  I can take advice and yet make my own decision. Geez!!! I come here for help and my heart goes out to all those brow beaten for asking! B. —

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