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> Good Luck! I hear that once the terrible two’s are over, it’s pretty > calm (relatively) until they’re teenagers. I won’t hold my breath on > that, though! > Leigh in raLeigh
These methods probably WILL come in handy during the teen years. When my daughter is having a 16 year old version of a tantrum and frothing at the mouth because she disagrees about something, I still do the "leaving the room" thing. Only now I can verbalize a little more than when she was two. Like "Obviously we can’t have a calm, rational discussion about this right now. Come see me when you can be a little more coherent and we’ll see what we can work out. Oh, and wipe that froth off your chin." The tried and true methods still work for me!
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My 22 month old child has recently started throwing major tantrums. If I give her her drink in a cup that is not what she usually drinks it in she throws hersefl on the ground and scream like I am cutting her ams off or something. I ingnore these tantrums but does anyone know how long it takes before they get the message that I am not going to respond? This is driving me nuts. She is a VERY strong willed child. She is sweet, but strong willed and assertive. If anyone can offer any advice or experience I would be glad to hear it. In the time being, I will go on ignoring it and breathing deeply. Happy Parenting, Tereson — Lafayette Online http://www.inlafayette.com The Creative Child Catalog and Newsletter http://www.the-creative-child.com/newsletter
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> My 22 month old child has recently started throwing major tantrums. If > I give her her drink in a cup that is not what she usually drinks it in > she throws hersefl on the ground and scream like I am cutting her ams > off or something. > I ingnore these tantrums but does anyone know how long it takes before > they get the message that I am not going to respond? This is driving me > nuts. She is a VERY strong willed child. She is sweet, but strong > willed and assertive. > If anyone can offer any advice or experience I would be glad to hear > it. In the time being, I will go on ignoring it and breathing deeply.
My son (almost 22 months) started having tantrums a few months ago. Lately, it’s mostly when we are leaving someplace he wants to stay (park, toy store, etc.) so I can’t use the advice my pediatrician gave me which was to remove myself from his presence. This strategy does work at home because he doesn’t like me to be in another room. It’s even more effective if he’s up in his high chair and can’t get down to come find me. I always warn him that if he does "whatever" again (throw food, toys, whine) that I don’t want to be around him and I’ll have to leave the room until he stops. Sometimes it’s a nice little "time-out" for me, too, when I’m getting very angry about the behavior! My mother said I was quite a strong willed child (Aaron comes by it honestly!) and one day dropped to the floor in a total hissy fit so she threw a glass of cold water on me. She said it was quite effective and I never had a "throw myself on the floor, kicking and screaming" fit again after that. I think I was 2.5 at that point, however, and more able to understand that the water was a consequence of the tantrum. Good Luck! I hear that once the terrible two’s are over, it’s pretty calm (relatively) until they’re teenagers. I won’t hold my breath on that, though! Leigh in raLeigh
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