Question:
Part of the problem (where it starts) is that they are toddlers and express their frustration physically. The other part of the problem (where it usually ends up) is the attention the child gains from the behavior (positively or negatively). The first part is usually dealt with by teaching appropriate ways to express anger, usually with words as this is a developing skill for toddlers and useful anyway. The second part is mildly punishing the behavior to reduce its frequency. Many parents yell or react in some negative way and reinforce the very problem they wish to stop. Ron http://www.ParentingToolbox.com Join the Parenting Thoughts newsletter!
Response:
How about saying "NO THROWING!!" Then when he does put him in a playpen or crib where he doesn’t have anything to throw? This is what we did to Julie. Yes she was upset and cried, and I gave her sympathy. And I told her that she would stay there until she was ready to behave. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >Hi, My almost 2 1/2 year old loves to throw. He is very good at it. We expect >him to pitch for the Dodgers someday. We give him lots of chances to throw >appropriately. >Our problem is that his uses it in anger especially at his older brother. I >take the item away when he throws it (does not usually cause remorse) and try >to catch him before he throws. He has learned that if I see his arm back to >throw, I will grab the toy away. So instead of not throwing, he throws it >before I get to him. Today I got hit in the face with a metal harmonica (it >still hurts and will most likely bruise). >Since the obvious deterrents are not working and I cannot keep him from having >anything in his hand, I would appreciate some ideas. Thanks!
– Just my $0.02 worth. Hope this helps, Gordon PS: To reply: replace ‘X.bleeb’ with ‘greeder’.
Response:
My nephew is going through the exact same thing. He likes to throw anything and everything. Especially his sippy cups. Once he is finished with them he just pitches them. And let me tell ya…this kid has got an arm. He threw one at me once…on purpose…and it hit me square in the forehead. It left an nasty pump knot & bruise. What irked me the most is that my MIL didn’t punish him. (My MIL has weekend visitations with him and we were at her house.) But that’s another story… My daughter occasionally does the same. She picked it up from my nephew. I’ve tried just about everything. The only thing that seems to work is a time out. She doesn’t really care if you take the toy/object away. She has to go stand in the corner for a bit. You may have already tried time outs. But, that’s what worked for me. Lisa Mom to Kelsey (2 1/2)
Response:
Hi, My almost 2 1/2 year old loves to throw. He is very good at it. We expect him to pitch for the Dodgers someday. We give him lots of chances to throw appropriately. Our problem is that his uses it in anger especially at his older brother. I take the item away when he throws it (does not usually cause remorse) and try to catch him before he throws. He has learned that if I see his arm back to throw, I will grab the toy away. So instead of not throwing, he throws it before I get to him. Today I got hit in the face with a metal harmonica (it still hurts and will most likely bruise). Since the obvious deterrents are not working and I cannot keep him from having anything in his hand, I would appreciate some ideas. Thanks!
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