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I guess if you feel the need to battle with a toddler. It’s just a whole lot faster and easier for both parent and child if you wait till they are ready. Believe me, I’m no namby-pamby, just like to do things the ‘easy’ way. hbfb
>pee. He was trained in 2 days. He was able to do
it, he was jsut lazy. >Sometimes they just need alittle push. Nonsense
with all those psycho >babble humdrum, your child will not be scarred for
life, if you push him to >toilet trian. Especially at 3. He’s making this
into a game. If you cn’t – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->win theis battle, what will become of him later? > BRAVO BRAVO My girlfriend and I were just discussing this yesterday. > how many people do you really know are scarred because they were > forced to use the potty?
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I agree totally on waiting until they are ready because it is much easier you can’t do this to soon because they simply won’t understand what you are trying to teach them and if you try to force your toddler you could make he/she feel scared of it and feel if they don’t do what you want that you don’t love them so let nature run it’s course you will know when it is time for he/she to be potty trained – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text –
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> I guess if you feel the need to battle with a toddler. > It’s just a whole lot faster and easier for both parent > and child if you wait till they are ready. Believe me, > I’m no namby-pamby, just like to do things the ‘easy’ > way. > hbfb
A headline was pulled in on my web site’s news section called "Potty Protocol: Knowing When the Time is Right". The article was located at http://www.familyplay.com/advice/schuster/e0730potty.html (not my site) if you’re interested. I don’t remember exactly what procedure my parents used with me, but I’m fairly certain that they didn’t have me read books and watch videos on the subject! How ’bout you? 
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well I don’t think there’s anything wrong with using a book or video to demonstrate what other children have gone through, but uhhh no, I’m pretty sure MY mom didn’t use any. hbfb
> In article
> I guess if you feel the need to battle with a toddler. > It’s just a whole lot faster and easier for both parent > and child if you wait till they are ready. Believe me, > I’m no namby-pamby, just like to do things the ‘easy’ > way. > hbfb > A headline was pulled in on my web site’s news
section called "Potty > Protocol: Knowing When the Time is Right". The
article was located at http://www.familyplay.com/advice/schuster/e0730potty.ht ml (not my > site) if you’re interested. > I don’t remember exactly what procedure my parents
used with me, but I’m – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> fairly certain that they didn’t have me read books and watch videos on > the subject! How ’bout you? > — > Parenting and Child Care Resources on the Web > http://www.babygiftset.com > Parenting and Child Care Forums > http://www.babygiftset.com/forums > Before you buy.
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Hi all…gonna piggy back on this message. Sorry about that. My youngest son had both of your sons beat. He was almost 4 before he was potty trained. Wait…let me repeat that, before I helped him decide to use potty. Note that I say I "helped" him decide. I was finally fed up with waiting on him to decide on his own. I followed the advice of doctors and did not push him. Which only made Adam lazier about it. Finally one day I threw the pull-ups in the trash, put a pair of underwear on him and told him if he peed or pooped in them, he’d have to wear them. (of course I wouldn’t have made him wear them, but he didn’t know that.) No more diapers, no more pull ups, nothing. He was going to wear big boy underwear and would go to the bathroom like all the other 4 year olds. He looked at me, looked at the toilet, and said "Ok Mommy." He only had one accident after that day, and that wasn’t his fault (he was sick and everything was coming out both ends. LOL). Seriously, I think waiting until they seem ready is a good idea, but be careful as it can also make a child lazy about it. I didn’t push Adam as hard on using the potty as I did my older son, who coincidently was a breeze to potty train. (Nick was completely potty-trained by the age of 2 years 9 months, so I got spoiled and thought "Ha…this potty training bit is a cinch." How WRONG I was!!!! LOL) So by not giving him a push to use it, he just didn’t seem to care. Once I gave him the ultimatum, there was no problem. He just needed that final, firm push. Judy – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >you have my son!!! He didn’t care if he was wet either. Not one bit! He was >3 plus 6 months when he FINALLY used the potty! We bought the potty when he >was 23 months old. I too had just a few months left before pre-school would >start. Since that day he decided it was time he has had less than a handful >of accidents. He’s INDEPENDENT… rarely needs reminders or help with pants >etc… BUT he still will NOT use the toilet for BM…. but hey we’re more >than half way there. He would have SCREAMING FREAKED OUT FITS when I tried >to put him on the potty before he was ready. I backed off. He knew the >M&M’s were there…we tried underwear from time to time for a few >hours….he read the books… he just wasn’t ready. Everyone HERE said he’d >do it when he was ready and I just had to be patient so I’ll repeat that! > Hi, can anyone help me? > I have a 3 year and 3 month old who does not want to know about using > the toilet OR potty. Whenever we mention it he goes into a tirade of "No > potty." "No toilet." I’ve tried everything the books say. Trying to let > him go at his own pace, looking for all the ready signs (which are there > except for a willingness to sit and produce), easing off, not > pressuring, bribing, praising, giving incentives, making it fun, using > nappies, using training pants, using undies, putting he potty near him, > putting the potty in the bathroom etc etc etc. The past three days I > have tried the training pants and undies approach and he does not even > seem to know OR care that he is doing a wee. I know he can hold on > because he does for ages. He even holds on with his poos until he gets > his night time nappy on. > He won’t tell me when he is about to wee, he won’t tell me when he has > pooed (in his nappy). He hates having his nappy changed BUT eon’t use > the toilet or potty. He just sits and wees and then tells me > (sometimes). I know it has only been three days of this BUT we are > getting NOWHERE. His awareness or his cooperation is just not > forthcoming. > I cannot cope with this. What can I do??? Do I just let it ride? He has > to be toilet trained before he starts pre-school next year and this is > really getting me down. > Please HELP!!!! > Lynda C > — > | _____ | > | / | | / THE HOUSE OF CALDER | > | / $$$ /## www.ozemail.com.au/~alcalder/ | > | _ /#### | > | _|_|_ ##/ |
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you have my son!!! He didn’t care if he was wet either. Not one bit! He was 3 plus 6 months when he FINALLY used the potty! We bought the potty when he was 23 months old. I too had just a few months left before pre-school would start. Since that day he decided it was time he has had less than a handful of accidents. He’s INDEPENDENT… rarely needs reminders or help with pants etc… BUT he still will NOT use the toilet for BM…. but hey we’re more than half way there. He would have SCREAMING FREAKED OUT FITS when I tried to put him on the potty before he was ready. I backed off. He knew the M&M’s were there…we tried underwear from time to time for a few hours….he read the books… he just wasn’t ready. Everyone HERE said he’d do it when he was ready and I just had to be patient so I’ll repeat that! – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hi, can anyone help me? > I have a 3 year and 3 month old who does not want to know about using > the toilet OR potty. Whenever we mention it he goes into a tirade of "No > potty." "No toilet." I’ve tried everything the books say. Trying to let > him go at his own pace, looking for all the ready signs (which are there > except for a willingness to sit and produce), easing off, not > pressuring, bribing, praising, giving incentives, making it fun, using > nappies, using training pants, using undies, putting he potty near him, > putting the potty in the bathroom etc etc etc. The past three days I > have tried the training pants and undies approach and he does not even > seem to know OR care that he is doing a wee. I know he can hold on > because he does for ages. He even holds on with his poos until he gets > his night time nappy on. > He won’t tell me when he is about to wee, he won’t tell me when he has > pooed (in his nappy). He hates having his nappy changed BUT eon’t use > the toilet or potty. He just sits and wees and then tells me > (sometimes). I know it has only been three days of this BUT we are > getting NOWHERE. His awareness or his cooperation is just not > forthcoming. > I cannot cope with this. What can I do??? Do I just let it ride? He has > to be toilet trained before he starts pre-school next year and this is > really getting me down. > Please HELP!!!! > Lynda C > — > | _____ | > | / | | / THE HOUSE OF CALDER | > | / $$$ /## www.ozemail.com.au/~alcalder/ | > | _ /#### | > | _|_|_ ##/ |
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Hi, can anyone help me? I have a 3 year and 3 month old who does not want to know about using the toilet OR potty. Whenever we mention it he goes into a tirade of "No potty." "No toilet." I’ve tried everything the books say. Trying to let him go at his own pace, looking for all the ready signs (which are there except for a willingness to sit and produce), easing off, not pressuring, bribing, praising, giving incentives, making it fun, using nappies, using training pants, using undies, putting he potty near him, putting the potty in the bathroom etc etc etc. The past three days I have tried the training pants and undies approach and he does not even seem to know OR care that he is doing a wee. I know he can hold on because he does for ages. He even holds on with his poos until he gets his night time nappy on. He won’t tell me when he is about to wee, he won’t tell me when he has pooed (in his nappy). He hates having his nappy changed BUT eon’t use the toilet or potty. He just sits and wees and then tells me (sometimes). I know it has only been three days of this BUT we are getting NOWHERE. His awareness or his cooperation is just not forthcoming. I cannot cope with this. What can I do??? Do I just let it ride? He has to be toilet trained before he starts pre-school next year and this is really getting me down. Please HELP!!!! Lynda C — | _____ | | / | | / THE HOUSE OF CALDER | | / $$$ /## www.ozemail.com.au/~alcalder/ | | _ /#### | | _|_|_ ##/ |
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You just can’t make them. We had to lose a spot in prechool because my daughter wasn’t trained yet. I think some kids are just resistant. Nothing we tried worked – she finally started using the potty when she was about 31/2. Good luck!! J – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> you have my son!!! He didn’t care if he was wet either. Not one bit! He was > 3 plus 6 months when he FINALLY used the potty! We bought the potty when he > was 23 months old. I too had just a few months left before pre- school would > start. Since that day he decided it was time he has had less than a handful > of accidents. He’s INDEPENDENT… rarely needs reminders or help with pants > etc… BUT he still will NOT use the toilet for BM…. but hey we’re more > than half way there. He would have SCREAMING FREAKED OUT FITS when I tried > to put him on the potty before he was ready. I backed off. He knew the > M&M’s were there…we tried underwear from time to time for a few > hours….he read the books… he just wasn’t ready. Everyone HERE said he’d > do it when he was ready and I just had to be patient so I’ll repeat that! > Hi, can anyone help me? > I have a 3 year and 3 month old who does not want to know about using > the toilet OR potty. Whenever we mention it he goes into a tirade of "No > potty." "No toilet." I’ve tried everything the books say. Trying to let > him go at his own pace, looking for all the ready signs (which are there > except for a willingness to sit and produce), easing off, not > pressuring, bribing, praising, giving incentives, making it fun, using > nappies, using training pants, using undies, putting he potty near him, > putting the potty in the bathroom etc etc etc. The past three days I > have tried the training pants and undies approach and he does not even > seem to know OR care that he is doing a wee. I know he can hold on > because he does for ages. He even holds on with his poos until he gets > his night time nappy on. > He won’t tell me when he is about to wee, he won’t tell me when he has > pooed (in his nappy). He hates having his nappy changed BUT eon’t use > the toilet or potty. He just sits and wees and then tells me > (sometimes). I know it has only been three days of this BUT we are > getting NOWHERE. His awareness or his cooperation is just not > forthcoming. > I cannot cope with this. What can I do??? Do I just let it ride? He has > to be toilet trained before he starts pre-school next year and this is > really getting me down. > Please HELP!!!! > Lynda C > — > | _____ | > | / | | / THE HOUSE OF CALDER | > | / $$$ /## www.ozemail.com.au/~alcalder/ | > | _ /#### | > | _|_|_ ##/ |
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