Question:
Welcome to the group, Julia. You’ll find lots of good advice here and great shoulders to cry on. 
Louise V. If there’s still – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> anyone out there that I have not offended and who wants to welcome a > new stepmom to the fold, I’d love to hear from you. I would like to > share stories and support each other. > Before you buy.
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Hey I’m a Mom, and as far as being optimistic there you go! That’s it your a mom! 
) See, technically, my oldest is my *step-daughter*, but she’s mine because I’m the one who raised her. Every lost tooth, scrapped knee, girlscouts….you get the picture. It really doesn’t matter if you gave birth to them. It only matters if you love them and raise them the best way you know and can learn how! As far as being successful? I don’t know *my youngest* is about to turn 13. I can feel another grey hair comming in! My oldest graduates high school June 2 with honors, full scholarship to an in state university, has a full time job, plus will be finished with her freshman year at college at the same time. The way I see it, if they become moral, independant, upstanding citizens of society when they’re adults than we are successful. Don’t judge what a child will become tomarrow by what their attitudes are today, because they are what they are….kids. Remeber when you were one? Most importantly do something for your self everyday, even if it’s to brush your hair 100 strokes, stand in the back yard and watch the clouds for 30 seconds, what ever DO IT! You’ll be okay. — We can’t redirect the wind but, we can always readjust our sails! LedMaryn – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> If every one in this discussion group is tolerent of other people’s > needs and difficulties, than why am I getting so much flak over my > request to connect with other stepmoms who have been able to find a way > to approach their lifestyle positively.
Response:
> Lose the cross-posting. To continue to cross-post is a clear > indication that you just want to stir up trouble instead of having > genuine input and discussion.
No, I do not want to stir up trouble and I did remove my cross posts. I honestly did not realize how heinous it was to cross post. Hopefully this ends my seemingly endless stream of faux pas. If there’s still anyone out there that I have not offended and who wants to welcome a new stepmom to the fold, I’d love to hear from you. I would like to share stories and support each other. Before you buy.
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<Please respond if you are a stepmom who vents, shares, processes <negative feelings and then rises once again to the challenge with hope <and determination.Let’s chat and attempt to uplift each other. Thanks. < That’s what we do here. Oh, "here" as in alt.support.step-parents. I don’t know what they do in those other groups. Lose the cross-posting. To continue to cross-post is a clear indication that you just want to stir up trouble instead of having genuine input and discussion. Vicki — Mediation and Alternative Dispute Resolution Resources: http://www.rit.edu/~vjrnts/mediation/mediation.html The alt.folklore.urban FAQ and archive can be found at http://www.urbanlegends.com/
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I’am both a stepmom and a BM. I love my children dearly. And think of them as mine. Of course it is hard. Blending two families is not easy.
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Being a stepmom is sometimes very hard for me, but I don’t want to be > mired in the negativity which I often find in this forum. > I am looking for other veteran stopmoms who feel optimistic and > committed to their step-family. > Anyone out there? > Well, yes! But they’re all mired up right now. > — >
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