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What ethnic background does your x-wife have? If she comes from a Latin background, this makes a lot of sense. One of my sister-in-laws in Latin and she dresses her daughters just like you describe. It is an ethnic and cultural thing & to them it is normal for females. Personally, while I wouldn’t like it, I would not fight it if I were you. My oldest daughter now 18, has been a LOT of trouble (drugs, law, school, etc). If the only problem I had with her was her running around topless or mini-skirts with no underware, I would be VERY HAPPY! – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > I am the father of 2 girls, ages 15 & 17. I have had custody since my > x-wife & I divorced 12 years ago. I recently moved from Chicago to > Florida for a work promotion, and part of the reason I did it was > because I would be living within 30 miles of my x-wife, who moved to > Florida after we divorced. I want very much for my daughters get to be > closer to their mother, who they have barely known since our divorce. > My daughters were excited about moving to Florida > Knowing I was moving to Florida, I sent my daughters to live with their > mother immediately after school let out. I arrived in Florida 2 weeks > ago and am staying in a hotel while I find an apartment to rent. I’ve > been going to my x-wife’s home nearly every day. > This is the problem. Apparently as soon as the girls arrived in > Florida, my x-wife took them on a shopping spree for clothes. She has > them dressing like sluts very revealing mini-skirts that barely cover > their butt, tops that expose breast cleavage, Daisy Duke type jean cut > short-shorts that expose their butt cleavage (the shorts end above where > the butt folds into the leg- showing the lower end of the butt), and > skimpy see-thru tops. She also bought them new underware and swim > suits, all thong style from what I can tell. > I find it embarrasing to be in public with my daughters and one of them > has to bend over or step high and their butt cheek is exposed because > they are wearing thong underware under > a too short mini-skirt. I have talked to the girls about this and they > see nothing wrong with it, stating that in Florida they dress more > openly than in Chicago and that they like the style. > In talking with my brother, he tells me to ignore it & be thankfull they > are wearing any underware at all, stating that his daughter went thru a > phase where she refused underware even if she was exposed when sitting > or bending. > I guess what I am most angry about is that my x-wife is letting them run > around in thong bikini swim suits, and occasionally topless. I tried to > talk to my x-wife and daughters about this & they see nothing wrong with > it. I called the local police, and they informed me that it is legal in > this county & the next county over for a female to be in public > topless. The police also said that thong bottoms are legal in public. > I am to the point of moving the girls back to Florida, or attempting to > call the Florida Children’s Protection on my x-wife. My brother is > telling me to drop it & accept it > and that in teenage years I have to accept that partial nudity is the > style. > How have the rest of you handled this type of issue? Is it true that in > teen years > girls like to show off their bodies and that it is simply a part of > thieir growth? > thanks
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Really, I wouldn’t worry much about this, for several reasons. 1. Your daughters are obviously brave and confident young ladies, who will do what THEY want, rather than be led by what the majority or others want. These are leadership qualities that will make them successful in the future. 2. They are not naked, they are legally covering parts that need to be covered when they need to be covered. 3. Showing off the body is a natural phase a lot of young girls go thru. It is nothing to be alarmed about. Note: in Florida & several other states, toplessness for females and thong bottoms are legal. Don’t sweat this much. I know it can be hard at first. My oldest daughter (now 22) started wearing the thong bikinis at about age 14. I about lost myself when I saw her come home from day at the beach, wearing nothing but the thong bottom (no top) and she stood in front of our house for about 15 minutes talking with the friends that dropped her off, she was about 16 when that happened. She also went thru the phase of wearing the shorts that exposed her butt, wearing her bra in public, wearing no underware, etc. Today, at 22, she is employed in a highly successful job as a manager, a type of job that many don’t get until their mid-30’s. She still dresses that way sometimes, but it obviously hasn’t hurt her any.
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I am the father of 2 girls, ages 15 & 17. I have had custody since my > x-wife & I divorced 12 years ago. I recently moved from Chicago to > Florida for a work promotion, and part of the reason I did it was > because I would be living within 30 miles of my x-wife, who moved to > Florida after we divorced. I want very much for my daughters get to be > closer to their mother, who they have barely known since our divorce. > My daughters were excited about moving to Florida > Knowing I was moving to Florida, I sent my daughters to live with their > mother immediately after school let out. I arrived in Florida 2 weeks > ago and am staying in a hotel while I find an apartment to rent. I’ve > been going to my x-wife’s home nearly every day. > This is the problem. Apparently as soon as the girls arrived in > Florida, my x-wife took them on a shopping spree for clothes. She has > them dressing like sluts very revealing mini-skirts that barely cover > their butt, tops that expose breast cleavage, Daisy Duke type jean cut > short-shorts that expose their butt cleavage (the shorts end above where > the butt folds into the leg- showing the lower end of the butt), and > skimpy see-thru tops. She also bought them new underware and swim > suits, all thong style from what I can tell. > I find it embarrasing to be in public with my daughters and one of them > has to bend over or step high and their butt cheek is exposed because > they are wearing thong underware under > a too short mini-skirt. I have talked to the girls about this and they > see nothing wrong with it, stating that in Florida they dress more > openly than in Chicago and that they like the style. > In talking with my brother, he tells me to ignore it & be thankfull they > are wearing any underware at all, stating that his daughter went thru a > phase where she refused underware even if she was exposed when sitting > or bending. > I guess what I am most angry about is that my x-wife is letting them run > around in thong bikini swim suits, and occasionally topless. I tried to > talk to my x-wife and daughters about this & they see nothing wrong with > it. I called the local police, and they informed me that it is legal in > this county & the next county over for a female to be in public > topless. The police also said that thong bottoms are legal in public. > I am to the point of moving the girls back to Florida, or attempting to > call the Florida Children’s Protection on my x-wife. My brother is > telling me to drop it & accept it > and that in teenage years I have to accept that partial nudity is the > style. > How have the rest of you handled this type of issue? Is it true that in > teen years > girls like to show off their bodies and that it is simply a part of > thieir growth? > thanks
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>I have an 8 month old daughter and I would not even let her out of the house >looking like that.
That’s why. She’s 8 months. When you find she’ll punch your face if you get in her life you’ll change your mind or lose her! >I can see where you are stuck between a rock and a hard >place here if your ex wife if promoting this behaviour.
if you really believe such inhumane prudish shit then go off to the fucking nunnery and give up on real people in the real world, bitch! >I had a cousin who went through the same phase, drove me nuts, I was >embarrassed to be seen in public with her. The main reason woman feel they >need to dress this way is to attract attention and to feel sexy. What you >need to show your daughters and maybe with the ex’s help *cross fingers* >that they can achieve this without looking trashy and showing everything >off.
There’s no reason not to show what you’ve got. NONE! >They are at a very crucial age, self esteem is very fragile and this can >affect alot of aspects of there lives. Maybe educate them on what kind of >people those kind of clothes attract, if that does not work play then "nasty >girl" by Destiny’s Child, cause that is nasty for those young girls to be >walking around like that.
The word "nasty" doesn’t even mean that anymore, it means the SAME as HOT! It means the same as GOOD and NICE, and ATTRACTIVE! >Make them buy there own clothes if they insist on wearing those types of >things, why should you waste your money on garbage rags. Maybe your ex wife >feels she is making up for lost time, but she is a pimp if she dresses those >girls up like that at that age. The only people fit to wear that in public >are street walkers and strippers.
Bullshit you fundy antisexual bitch! Go jam your fist up your ass and twist it you antisexual shithead! >Maybe it is different where you are from, all the woman I know pride >themselves on there appeal not how much skin they can show without being >totally naked.
Pride and worth doesn’t go away in proportion to nudity, in fact it has nothing whatsoever to do with it! >I could go on forever about this subject, because I know I will battle it >with my own child someday, but I have dealt with alot of family members with >the same problem. I hope it is at least a little helpful or if not a little >reassuring somehow. I really feel for you. Not an easy position to be in. >Tania
That’s because you’re a fucking fundy piece of repressed puritan trash!! Steve – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I am the father of 2 girls, ages 15 & 17. I have had custody since my > x-wife & I divorced 12 years ago. I recently moved from Chicago to > Florida for a work promotion, and part of the reason I did it was > because I would be living within 30 miles of my x-wife, who moved to > Florida after we divorced. I want very much for my daughters get to be > closer to their mother, who they have barely known since our divorce. > My daughters were excited about moving to Florida > Knowing I was moving to Florida, I sent my daughters to live with their > mother immediately after school let out. I arrived in Florida 2 weeks > ago and am staying in a hotel while I find an apartment to rent. I’ve > been going to my x-wife’s home nearly every day. > This is the problem. Apparently as soon as the girls arrived in > Florida, my x-wife took them on a shopping spree for clothes. She has > them dressing like sluts very revealing mini-skirts that barely cover > their butt, tops that expose breast cleavage, Daisy Duke type jean cut > short-shorts that expose their butt cleavage (the shorts end above where > the butt folds into the leg- showing the lower end of the butt), and > skimpy see-thru tops. She also bought them new underware and swim > suits, all thong style from what I can tell. > I find it embarrasing to be in public with my daughters and one of them > has to bend over or step high and their butt cheek is exposed because > they are wearing thong underware under > a too short mini-skirt. I have talked to the girls about this and they > see nothing wrong with it, stating that in Florida they dress more > openly than in Chicago and that they like the style. > In talking with my brother, he tells me to ignore it & be thankfull they > are wearing any underware at all, stating that his daughter went thru a > phase where she refused underware even if she was exposed when sitting > or bending. > I guess what I am most angry about is that my x-wife is letting them run > around in thong bikini swim suits, and occasionally topless. I tried to > talk to my x-wife and daughters about this & they see nothing wrong with > it. I called the local police, and they informed me that it is legal in > this county & the next county over for a female to be in public > topless. The police also said that thong bottoms are legal in public. > I am to the point of moving the girls back to Florida, or attempting to > call the Florida Children’s Protection on my x-wife. My brother is > telling me to drop it & accept it > and that in teenage years I have to accept that partial nudity is the > style. > How have the rest of you handled this type of issue? Is it true that in > teen years > girls like to show off their bodies and that it is simply a part of > thieir growth? > thanks
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I have an 8 month old daughter and I would not even let her out of the house looking like that. I can see where you are stuck between a rock and a hard place here if your ex wife if promoting this behaviour. I had a cousin who went through the same phase, drove me nuts, I was embarrassed to be seen in public with her. The main reason woman feel they need to dress this way is to attract attention and to feel sexy. What you need to show your daughters and maybe with the ex’s help *cross fingers* that they can achieve this without looking trashy and showing everything off. They are at a very crucial age, self esteem is very fragile and this can affect alot of aspects of there lives. Maybe educate them on what kind of people those kind of clothes attract, if that does not work play then "nasty girl" by Destiny’s Child, cause that is nasty for those young girls to be walking around like that. Make them buy there own clothes if they insist on wearing those types of things, why should you waste your money on garbage rags. Maybe your ex wife feels she is making up for lost time, but she is a pimp if she dresses those girls up like that at that age. The only people fit to wear that in public are street walkers and strippers. Maybe it is different where you are from, all the woman I know pride themselves on there appeal not how much skin they can show without being totally naked. I could go on forever about this subject, because I know I will battle it with my own child someday, but I have dealt with alot of family members with the same problem. I hope it is at least a little helpful or if not a little reassuring somehow. I really feel for you. Not an easy position to be in. Tania
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I am the father of 2 girls, ages 15 & 17. I have had custody since my > x-wife & I divorced 12 years ago. I recently moved from Chicago to > Florida for a work promotion, and part of the reason I did it was > because I would be living within 30 miles of my x-wife, who moved to > Florida after we divorced. I want very much for my daughters get to be > closer to their mother, who they have barely known since our divorce. > My daughters were excited about moving to Florida > Knowing I was moving to Florida, I sent my daughters to live with their > mother immediately after school let out. I arrived in Florida 2 weeks > ago and am staying in a hotel while I find an apartment to rent. I’ve > been going to my x-wife’s home nearly every day. > This is the problem. Apparently as soon as the girls arrived in > Florida, my x-wife took them on a shopping spree for clothes. She has > them dressing like sluts very revealing mini-skirts that barely cover > their butt, tops that expose breast cleavage, Daisy Duke type jean cut > short-shorts that expose their butt cleavage (the shorts end above where > the butt folds into the leg- showing the lower end of the butt), and > skimpy see-thru tops. She also bought them new underware and swim > suits, all thong style from what I can tell. > I find it embarrasing to be in public with my daughters and one of them > has to bend over or step high and their butt cheek is exposed because > they are wearing thong underware under > a too short mini-skirt. I have talked to the girls about this and they > see nothing wrong with it, stating that in Florida they dress more > openly than in Chicago and that they like the style. > In talking with my brother, he tells me to ignore it & be thankfull they > are wearing any underware at all, stating that his daughter went thru a > phase where she refused underware even if she was exposed when sitting > or bending. > I guess what I am most angry about is that my x-wife is letting them run > around in thong bikini swim suits, and occasionally topless. I tried to > talk to my x-wife and daughters about this & they see nothing wrong with > it. I called the local police, and they informed me that it is legal in > this county & the next county over for a female to be in public > topless. The police also said that thong bottoms are legal in public. > I am to the point of moving the girls back to Florida, or attempting to > call the Florida Children’s Protection on my x-wife. My brother is > telling me to drop it & accept it > and that in teenage years I have to accept that partial nudity is the > style. > How have the rest of you handled this type of issue? Is it true that in > teen years > girls like to show off their bodies and that it is simply a part of > thieir growth? > thanks
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This seems oddly reminiscent of a troll post from a few months back…hmmmm <goes off to check google>
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I am the father of 2 girls, ages 15 & 17. I have had custody since my > x-wife & I divorced 12 years ago. I recently moved from Chicago to > Florida for a work promotion, and part of the reason I did it was > because I would be living within 30 miles of my x-wife, who moved to > Florida after we divorced. I want very much for my daughters get to be > closer to their mother, who they have barely known since our divorce. > My daughters were excited about moving to Florida > Knowing I was moving to Florida, I sent my daughters to live with their > mother immediately after school let out. I arrived in Florida 2 weeks > ago and am staying in a hotel while I find an apartment to rent. I’ve > been going to my x-wife’s home nearly every day. > This is the problem. Apparently as soon as the girls arrived in > Florida, my x-wife took them on a shopping spree for clothes. She has > them dressing like sluts very revealing mini-skirts that barely cover > their butt, tops that expose breast cleavage, Daisy Duke type jean cut > short-shorts that expose their butt cleavage (the shorts end above where > the butt folds into the leg- showing the lower end of the butt), and > skimpy see-thru tops. She also bought them new underware and swim > suits, all thong style from what I can tell. > I find it embarrasing to be in public with my daughters and one of them > has to bend over or step high and their butt cheek is exposed because > they are wearing thong underware under > a too short mini-skirt. I have talked to the girls about this and they > see nothing wrong with it, stating that in Florida they dress more > openly than in Chicago and that they like the style. > In talking with my brother, he tells me to ignore it & be thankfull they > are wearing any underware at all, stating that his daughter went thru a > phase where she refused underware even if she was exposed when sitting > or bending. > I guess what I am most angry about is that my x-wife is letting them run > around in thong bikini swim suits, and occasionally topless. I tried to > talk to my x-wife and daughters about this & they see nothing wrong with > it. I called the local police, and they informed me that it is legal in > this county & the next county over for a female to be in public > topless. The police also said that thong bottoms are legal in public. > I am to the point of moving the girls back to Florida, or attempting to > call the Florida Children’s Protection on my x-wife. My brother is > telling me to drop it & accept it > and that in teenage years I have to accept that partial nudity is the > style. > How have the rest of you handled this type of issue? Is it true that in > teen years > girls like to show off their bodies and that it is simply a part of > thieir growth? > thanks
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->I disagree with your brother and your ex. >While many ideologists will say that people are not defined by their >clothing, but by who they are instead. I still to a large extent believe >that in the teen-age years the addage "clothes make the man" is true. >Just a small example: I have a cousin who is now 20 years-old. When she was >15 she came to visit. She dressed like a tramp and like you it was >embarassing. I was unnerved by the stares she received, to the point of >almost threatening one man at an amusement park. I am only 8 years older >than her so I’m not totally clueless. But, she started to enjoy the >attention and her clothes became more and more revealing and tighter. >When she was 17 she was having problems at home so she stayed with me for a >few months. In those 2 years she literally *became* the person she dressed >like. I believe that self-esteem is partially based on the way you are >treated. If you dress like a "tramp" and are treated like a "tramp" the >chance that you will become so is greatly increased.
Except there is NO such thing as a "tramp", there are instead women who enjoy sex and the attention of men, and then there are neurotic mis-raised and mis-guilted and mis-shamed women who are afraid of it and are wholly uncomfortable with their sexuality altogether, as was fashionable to abusively raise girls in a by-gone era. That IS your delusion. And the fact that you can’t fathom why she would do what you’re frightened and shamed to do is reflected in your primitive attempt to try to blame the way she thinks and feels on her clothing, when in fact her clothing merely REFLECTS the way that she feels and thinks. What you’re expressing is that if you were FORCED to dress in that manner that you would feel ashamed and feel degraded BY YOUR OWN awareness of your sexuality, JUST AS YOU WERE TAUGHT TO FEEL ABOUT YOUR OWN SEXUALITY, but you simply do NOT realize that SHE does NOT feel that way ABOUT HERS! It was merely YOUR DELUSION that she "became" the object of your own female terror and shame. it didn’t bother HER AT ALL! The young have a phrase that describes how your fears in the culture are all turned around by their totally different take on it, they say, "Yeah, I’m a slut, but I dig it so it’s all good". This means that how they think about what they are, and NOT how YOU think, makes it just fine! >I now have an 18 month-old daughter. I have told my husband (who to some >extent thinks I’m rediculous) that my daughter will not wear pants which are >a size smaller than she is. She will not wear skirts which are shorter than >2" above her knees. She will not wear halter tops which tie in the back. >She will not show excessive cleavage. I am not opposed to going to her >school unannounced *(to her)* and checking on her attire. I am also in >favor of school uniforms.
Your daughter will then leave home at 13 and be everything to are destined to try to teach her to avoid, and that is the INEVITABLE result of the kind of crap you’re trying to sell us here! You don’t realize it yet, but that is exactly what’s going to happen to you. Your husband will take her side, and you and your daughter will hate each other and you will barely know your own grandchildren if you don’t grow up sexually!! >Now, I’m not a religious zealot. Or, even a right-wing conservative. I’m a >moderate with a slightly leftist lean. But, when it comes to the saftey and >emotional stability of my children I am strict.
You’re an abused idiot who only THINKS you’re not a confused little bigot. YOU imagine tht bigotry ONLY comes from religion, but you’re soaking in it, as "Marge" used to say on the Palmolive commercials. You’re a puritan lefty bigot, one of the most confused kids. Antisexuality is actually the SOURCE of all bigotry and backwardness and bullshit religions. You just don’t grasp that your sexual discomfort is all the same shit you hate, in disguise! Steve – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I am the father of 2 girls, ages 15 & 17. I have had custody since my > x-wife & I divorced 12 years ago. I recently moved from Chicago to > Florida for a work promotion, and part of the reason I did it was > because I would be living within 30 miles of my x-wife, who moved to > Florida after we divorced. I want very much for my daughters get to be > closer to their mother, who they have barely known since our divorce. > My daughters were excited about moving to Florida > Knowing I was moving to Florida, I sent my daughters to live with their > mother immediately after school let out. I arrived in Florida 2 weeks > ago and am staying in a hotel while I find an apartment to rent. I’ve > been going to my x-wife’s home nearly every day. > This is the problem. Apparently as soon as the girls arrived in > Florida, my x-wife took them on a shopping spree for clothes. She has > them dressing like sluts very revealing mini-skirts that barely cover > their butt, tops that expose breast cleavage, Daisy Duke type jean cut > short-shorts that expose their butt cleavage (the shorts end above where > the butt folds into the leg- showing the lower end of the butt), and > skimpy see-thru tops. She also bought them new underware and swim > suits, all thong style from what I can tell. > I find it embarrasing to be in public with my daughters and one of them > has to bend over or step high and their butt cheek is exposed because > they are wearing thong underware under > a too short mini-skirt. I have talked to the girls about this and they > see nothing wrong with it, stating that in Florida they dress more > openly than in Chicago and that they like the style. > In talking with my brother, he tells me to ignore it & be thankfull they > are wearing any underware at all, stating that his daughter went thru a > phase where she refused underware even if she was exposed when sitting > or bending. > I guess what I am most angry about is that my x-wife is letting them run > around in thong bikini swim suits, and occasionally topless. I tried to > talk to my x-wife and daughters about this & they see nothing wrong with > it. I called the local police, and they informed me that it is legal in > this county & the next county over for a female to be in public > topless. The police also said that thong bottoms are legal in public. > I am to the point of moving the girls back to Florida, or attempting to > call the Florida Children’s Protection on my x-wife. My brother is > telling me to drop it & accept it > and that in teenage years I have to accept that partial nudity is the > style. > How have the rest of you handled this type of issue? Is it true that in > teen years > girls like to show off their bodies and that it is simply a part of > thieir growth? > thanks
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->I am the father of 2 girls, ages 15 & 17. I have had custody since my >x-wife & I divorced 12 years ago. I recently moved from Chicago to >Florida for a work promotion, and part of the reason I did it was >because I would be living within 30 miles of my x-wife, who moved to >Florida after we divorced. I want very much for my daughters get to be >closer to their mother, who they have barely known since our divorce. >My daughters were excited about moving to Florida >Knowing I was moving to Florida, I sent my daughters to live with their >mother immediately after school let out. I arrived in Florida 2 weeks >ago and am staying in a hotel while I find an apartment to rent. I’ve >been going to my x-wife’s home nearly every day. >This is the problem. Apparently as soon as the girls arrived in >Florida, my x-wife took them on a shopping spree for clothes. She has >them dressing like sluts very revealing mini-skirts that barely cover >their butt, tops that expose breast cleavage, Daisy Duke type jean cut >short-shorts that expose their butt cleavage (the shorts end above where >the butt folds into the leg- showing the lower end of the butt), and >skimpy see-thru tops. She also bought them new underware and swim >suits, all thong style from what I can tell. >I find it embarrasing to be in public with my daughters and one of them >has to bend over or step high and their butt cheek is exposed because >they are wearing thong underware under >a too short mini-skirt. I have talked to the girls about this and they >see nothing wrong with it, stating that in Florida they dress more >openly than in Chicago and that they like the style. >In talking with my brother, he tells me to ignore it & be thankfull they >are wearing any underware at all, stating that his daughter went thru a >phase where she refused underware even if she was exposed when sitting >or bending. >I guess what I am most angry about is that my x-wife is letting them run >around in thong bikini swim suits, and occasionally topless. I tried to >talk to my x-wife and daughters about this & they see nothing wrong with >it. I called the local police, and they informed me that it is legal in >this county & the next county over for a female to be in public >topless. The police also said that thong bottoms are legal in public. >I am to the point of moving the girls back to Florida, or attempting to >call the Florida Children’s Protection on my x-wife. My brother is >telling me to drop it & accept it >and that in teenage years I have to accept that partial nudity is the >style. >How have the rest of you handled this type of issue? Is it true that in >teen years >girls like to show off their bodies and that it is simply a part of >thieir growth? >thanks
You’re a vicious antisexual little shit of a man of the kind who richly deserves to be killed for your shame before you hurt anyone else with it. Eat shit and die! Your ex-wife is right, she was probably ALWAYS right about you and you need to shut the fuck up and go the fuck away if you can’t handle it! Yes, it is NORMAL and part of them growing up. They weren’t MEANT for you to keep and fuck, they were meant for OTHER men to fuck, and for you to want to deny that to them is to want to deny them a LIFE OF THEIR OWN!! How vicious and backward can an asshole like you BE, anyway!?? Be GLAD for their attractiveness and quit being upset and confused by your own HARD-ON for them, you stupid old fuck! Be GLAD they’re getting fucked now, and leave them ALONE about it! Would you prefer your daughters were dogs who looked horrible and couldn’t GET LAID??? Or would you VAINLY prefer they live with you to keep you company and CRY ALL THEIR UN-FUCKING LIVES? Get fucking REAL, jackass! Steve
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I disagree with your brother and your ex. While many ideologists will say that people are not defined by their clothing, but by who they are instead. I still to a large extent believe that in the teen-age years the addage "clothes make the man" is true. Just a small example: I have a cousin who is now 20 years-old. When she was 15 she came to visit. She dressed like a tramp and like you it was embarassing. I was unnerved by the stares she received, to the point of almost threatening one man at an amusement park. I am only 8 years older than her so I’m not totally clueless. But, she started to enjoy the attention and her clothes became more and more revealing and tighter. When she was 17 she was having problems at home so she stayed with me for a few months. In those 2 years she literally *became* the person she dressed like. I believe that self-esteem is partially based on the way you are treated. If you dress like a "tramp" and are treated like a "tramp" the chance that you will become so is greatly increased. I now have an 18 month-old daughter. I have told my husband (who to some extent thinks I’m rediculous) that my daughter will not wear pants which are a size smaller than she is. She will not wear skirts which are shorter than 2" above her knees. She will not wear halter tops which tie in the back. She will not show excessive cleavage. I am not opposed to going to her school unannounced *(to her)* and checking on her attire. I am also in favor of school uniforms. Now, I’m not a religious zealot. Or, even a right-wing conservative. I’m a moderate with a slightly leftist lean. But, when it comes to the saftey and emotional stability of my children I am strict. I don’t know if this helps any. I can’t tell you what to do. But, I definately would be concerned. Good Luck, Dawn ~~~~~~~ Dawn, Come and Visit the BEST online Parenting Community! <a href="http://www.helpingfamiliesgrow.com">helpingfamiliesgrow.com</a> And, for Chat! <a href="http://www.nannyb.com">nannyb.com</b> – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > Organization: Florida home > Newsgroups: alt.parenting.solutions > I am the father of 2 girls, ages 15 & 17. I have had custody since my > x-wife & I divorced 12 years ago. I recently moved from Chicago to > Florida for a work promotion, and part of the reason I did it was > because I would be living within 30 miles of my x-wife, who moved to > Florida after we divorced. I want very much for my daughters get to be > closer to their mother, who they have barely known since our divorce. > My daughters were excited about moving to Florida > Knowing I was moving to Florida, I sent my daughters to live with their > mother immediately after school let out. I arrived in Florida 2 weeks > ago and am staying in a hotel while I find an apartment to rent. I’ve > been going to my x-wife’s home nearly every day. > This is the problem. Apparently as soon as the girls arrived in > Florida, my x-wife took them on a shopping spree for clothes. She has > them dressing like sluts very revealing mini-skirts that barely cover > their butt, tops that expose breast cleavage, Daisy Duke type jean cut > short-shorts that expose their butt cleavage (the shorts end above where > the butt folds into the leg- showing the lower end of the butt), and > skimpy see-thru tops. She also bought them new underware and swim > suits, all thong style from what I can tell. > I find it embarrasing to be in public with my daughters and one of them > has to bend over or step high and their butt cheek is exposed because > they are wearing thong underware under > a too short mini-skirt. I have talked to the girls about this and they > see nothing wrong with it, stating that in Florida they dress more > openly than in Chicago and that they like the style. > In talking with my brother, he tells me to ignore it & be thankfull they > are wearing any underware at all, stating that his daughter went thru a > phase where she refused underware even if she was exposed when sitting > or bending. > I guess what I am most angry about is that my x-wife is letting them run > around in thong bikini swim suits, and occasionally topless. I tried to > talk to my x-wife and daughters about this & they see nothing wrong with > it. I called the local police, and they informed me that it is legal in > this county & the next county over for a female to be in public > topless. The police also said that thong bottoms are legal in public. > I am to the point of moving the girls back to Florida, or attempting to > call the Florida Children’s Protection on my x-wife. My brother is > telling me to drop it & accept it > and that in teenage years I have to accept that partial nudity is the > style. > How have the rest of you handled this type of issue? Is it true that in > teen years > girls like to show off their bodies and that it is simply a part of > thieir growth? > thanks
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I am the father of 2 girls, ages 15 & 17. I have had custody since my x-wife & I divorced 12 years ago. I recently moved from Chicago to Florida for a work promotion, and part of the reason I did it was because I would be living within 30 miles of my x-wife, who moved to Florida after we divorced. I want very much for my daughters get to be closer to their mother, who they have barely known since our divorce. My daughters were excited about moving to Florida Knowing I was moving to Florida, I sent my daughters to live with their mother immediately after school let out. I arrived in Florida 2 weeks ago and am staying in a hotel while I find an apartment to rent. I’ve been going to my x-wife’s home nearly every day. This is the problem. Apparently as soon as the girls arrived in Florida, my x-wife took them on a shopping spree for clothes. She has them dressing like sluts very revealing mini-skirts that barely cover their butt, tops that expose breast cleavage, Daisy Duke type jean cut short-shorts that expose their butt cleavage (the shorts end above where the butt folds into the leg- showing the lower end of the butt), and skimpy see-thru tops. She also bought them new underware and swim suits, all thong style from what I can tell. I find it embarrasing to be in public with my daughters and one of them has to bend over or step high and their butt cheek is exposed because they are wearing thong underware under a too short mini-skirt. I have talked to the girls about this and they see nothing wrong with it, stating that in Florida they dress more openly than in Chicago and that they like the style. In talking with my brother, he tells me to ignore it & be thankfull they are wearing any underware at all, stating that his daughter went thru a phase where she refused underware even if she was exposed when sitting or bending. I guess what I am most angry about is that my x-wife is letting them run around in thong bikini swim suits, and occasionally topless. I tried to talk to my x-wife and daughters about this & they see nothing wrong with it. I called the local police, and they informed me that it is legal in this county & the next county over for a female to be in public topless. The police also said that thong bottoms are legal in public. I am to the point of moving the girls back to Florida, or attempting to call the Florida Children’s Protection on my x-wife. My brother is telling me to drop it & accept it and that in teenage years I have to accept that partial nudity is the style. How have the rest of you handled this type of issue? Is it true that in teen years girls like to show off their bodies and that it is simply a part of thieir growth? thanks
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