Pure Parents

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I would suggest that you purchase or borrow from the library a book called Holding Time by Martha Welsh,  MD.,  Dr. Welsh describes a method for reestablishing the bond between child and caregiver.  It is an excellent method, simple, non technical, and it really works.  We used this method of basically just holding one’s child very closely, and allowing one’s child to vent it’s feelings in a safe, harmless, and acceptable manner. It made an enormous difference to our children, and to us, and our enjoyment of them.  If you have any problem getting the book, I can describe this method in detail or put you in touch with Dr Welch. Rayner > I’m disappointed — I too am in the same boat with a 4 and a half year old > who can be very difficult and an 8 and a half year old who is very easy > going.  I read this group in hopes of learning ways to deal with not only > them, but also our overall family life.  I’m surprised that someone’s > response in a parenting solutions newsgroup would be we can’t help you, > seek professional help.

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I’m disappointed — I too am in the same boat with a 4 and a half year old who can be very difficult and an 8 and a half year old who is very easy going.  I read this group in hopes of learning ways to deal with not only them, but also our overall family life.  I’m surprised that someone’s response in a parenting solutions newsgroup would be we can’t help you, seek professional help. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> A friend has two sons, a placid agreeable 5 year old and an 8 year old who > causes havoc anywhere and everywhere. > He is extremely compulsive, and hits out viscously at any perceived slight. ETC>>>snipped….. > ==== > Please don’t try and sort out a matter like this on the internet. This > sort of case needs professional input and on a family and face-face > level. This child needs help, and discussing his case here is not the > best way of providing it. > — > AlanC+

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> A friend has two sons, a placid agreeable 5 year old and an 8 year old who > causes havoc anywhere and everywhere. > He is extremely compulsive, and hits out viscously at any perceived slight. ETC>>>snipped…..

==== Please don’t try and sort out a matter like this on the internet. This sort of case needs professional input and on a family and face-face level. This child needs help, and discussing his case here is not the best way of providing it. — AlanC+

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