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>>HELLO?????? Can ANYBODY spot a FORGERY HERE????? >Since I post from alt.parenting solutions and did post twice that this >was a forgery, I resent your implication that we cannot spot trolls >and forgeries.all by ourselves.   >Aside from that there are enough newbies posting here who haven’t >the vaguest idea what a header is let alone how to pull one up and >see if it is forged that it would pay you to have posted about the >forgery on the original cross-posted thread when you first saw it.

It does take a while to understand.  I never used to have my reader set to see the headers.  Now that I know better, I have the headers on top of the messages.  Makes it easier to figure out where someone is posting from. Kendra ~*~ Y2 KINGS! Bench Mob Rules.

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>Since I post from alt.parenting solutions and did post twice that this >was a forgery, I resent your implication that we cannot spot trolls >and forgeries.all by ourselves.   >Aside from that there are enough newbies posting here who haven’t >the vaguest idea what a header is let alone how to pull one up and >see if it is forged that it would pay you to have posted about the >forgery on the original cross-posted thread when you first saw it. >Dorothy

It would appear to me that Mr. Pang is doing a fine job making himself look even sillier than the imposter did. Cathy Mom to Taylor 6, & Tiffany 4. "To handle yourself, use your head…To handle others, use your heart!" http://hometown.aol.com/cathlynnnn/myhomepage/index.html

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>>Newsgroups: alt.support.grief, alt.2600, misc.kids, alt.parenting.solutions, >uwm.general >Comments: This message hasd been remailed. >HELLO?????? Can ANYBODY spot a FORGERY HERE?????

Since I post from alt.parenting solutions and did post twice that this was a forgery, I resent your implication that we cannot spot trolls and forgeries.all by ourselves.   Aside from that there are enough newbies posting here who haven’t the vaguest idea what a header is let alone how to pull one up and see if it is forged that it would pay you to have posted about the forgery on the original cross-posted thread when you first saw it. Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. source unknown

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>Newsgroups: alt.support.grief, alt.2600, misc.kids, alt.parenting.solutions, >uwm.general >Comments: This message hasd been remailed.

HELLO?????? Can ANYBODY spot a FORGERY HERE?????

ANYBODY yet catch on???? >Report abuse to:

  I reviewed several posts here. Amazing that NOBODY (unlike a few other newsgroups) had the intelligence to spot a rather OBVIOUS FORGERY! his IDIOT fishing expeditions. And what did he find here? A ROOM FULL OF SALMON!    If you can’t read posts and spot forgeries folks, give your mommy back her modem and go to your room and do your homework till you grow up.

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I just don’t get it.  you all must be very strange to get off on having such stupid, disgusting, irritating and rediculous discussions.  It is not like you all just retaliate w/ a few lines; you take disect line after line and just go on and on with grotesque subjects.  i would never read all of it, it would take all day.  The stuff i have skimmed though, is a total waste of time.  What is so exciting about the arshole anyway? * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!

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>Just the other day I saw a huge beer truck a-unloading its cargo at a >Catholic church.  I can just imagine the wild party they going to be >having with those priests and nuns drinking it up!

That would be my church.  <G>  It was Oktoberfest, which is the time of our parish’s annual festival.  We celebrate all cultures, so there was also pancit and lumpia and schnitzel and tacos and some Vietnamese dishes and tabuli and pizza and more.  The celebration is for the whole community, not just the priests and nuns.  Who, by the way, don’t live in the same building.   Denise …who has been to a few "wild parties" during her lifetime  <G>… To e-mail me directly, remember an object at rest tends to stay at rest…

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>you are just another pathetic loser.  Why do you even care what any if >the peronalaties of the hickey scitzo think?  Get a life!!!

Hey stinkey,  get a killfile.

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> What a pathetic loser this Hickey is.  I like to lurk and see what veiw > points on raising well adjusted kids are here.  Why are the posts of > this loser being answered?

snipped The reason I have responded the few times that I have is because I feel a need to respond to the misleading bs that is spewed out by Hickey.  Some people enjoy baiting s/he it for their and others’ amusement.  Here is an insight posted by another poster on misc.kids… UseNet is like a herd of performing elephants with diarrhea–massive, difficult to redirect, awe-inspiring, entertaining,  and a source of mind-boggling amounts of excrement when you least expect it.  – Gene Spafford, 1992 I think this sums up this situation rather well. — Shelly H The Christian ideal has not been tried and found wanting. It has been found difficult; and left untried. G. K. Chesterton (1874-1936), British author

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you are just another pathetic loser.  Why do you even care what any if the peronalaties of the hickey scitzo think?  Get a life!!! * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!

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> : you can always killfile  :0) > Better yet, just don’t read our True Gospel Message.  I don’t want you to > go to hell, but if you insist, you can’t say we didn’t try to help your > unworthy old behinds.

snip Just what is the "True Gospel Message"?, So far I have yet to see any of what you or your mother have said is the truth. (That is, if there really are two of you.  For purposes of this post I will allow that you are who you say you are and not Max Varaslo) As far as I know the only hard and fast commandments from Jesus are: 1) You must believe that Jesus is the Son of God 2) You must believe that Jesus died for our salvation and was raised into heaven by God 3) You must be baptized and accept him as your savior We are all sinners.  We are not Holy(which is something your mother claims that she is).  We have been commanded to love God above all others.  Jesus preached that we must obey the spirit of the law – not the letter.  Paul who was a persecutor of the first Christians and became a leader in the early church taught that we must live a life based on God’s free forgiveness and not legalism. Henrietta Hickey and you have done nothing but preach child abuse, racism, intolerance, and hatred.  I have seen nothing of the Christian ideals I was raised with and try to live my life by in the "sermonettes" that have been posted.  I have seen biblical verses taken out of context and twisted to fit your beliefs.  You claim that the bible has been mis-translated and that you have the correct translation.  Where and when did you get access to those texts?  If you have a correct translation, why isn’t it available to all Christians? I have many other questions for you but I won’t overwhelm you. — Shelly H The Christian ideal has not been tried and found wanting. It has been found difficult; and left untried. G. K. Chesterton (1874-1936), British author

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<snip> >The space in the NG is taken up by idiotic responses to these retarded >threads.  My question is **why**?  

Cause s/h/it is amusing?  Set your newsreader to ignore the threads or killfile her multiple addys or delete the posts withour reading them.  Those are your choices, I’m afraid.  Others cannot be prevented from playing with trolls if they wish to do so. Just can’t be done,  Sorry, but that’s the truth of the usenet. Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. source unknown

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: you can always killfile  :0) Better yet, just don’t read our True Gospel Message.  I don’t want you to go to hell, but if you insist, you can’t say we didn’t try to help your unworthy old behinds.

: > What a pathetic loser this Hickey is.  I like to lurk and see what veiw : > points on raising well adjusted kids are here.  Why are the posts of : > this loser being answered? What make you think I’m a loser, Stinky?  Or my mama?  You just full of the devil and don’t want nobody to hear the True and Full Gospel being preach. : > Grandma Hickey You mean "GrandMOTHER Hickey."  Thank you.  Try hard to get it right and you just might! : > Your Only Hope For some of you, that exactly what she is! : > GrandMOTHER Holiness Her Holiness can be yours if you REPENT and stop resisting Jesus! : > Keesha ( what ever the name is) It’s Keesha Hickey Holloway.  I’m Henrietta Hickey’s daughter. : > The space in the NG is taken up by idiotic responses to these retarded : > threads.   Our threads AIN’T retarded.  How come you so nasty, woman?  You on your period or something?  Or maybe you having hot flashes?  Ain’t you never heard of Midol?  I think you should take some and calm your loud mouth down. : > My question is **why**?   People know we care about their spiritual welfare, and their children’s too. : > If you are one of the people who get off on talking and bickering and : > b****ing to and about the Hickeys then just click on the name and : > Email them directly.   We got every bit as much right to preach the Gospel here as you do to whine about your menstrual cramps and discipline problems.  We help frustrated parents by selling them the whips and chains and ropes and cages they can’t find at the Big K-Mart. : > Spare all of us here who are interested in parenting solutions.   What do you think my mama be offering you?  Tips on how to keep your teeth clean? : > We don’t want to see all the threads poping up as updated every time : > we log on.   Nobody forcing you to read nothing, honey.  Do you take a copy of your least favorite tabloid magazine to the checkout counter just so you can moan and groan (and growl and grunt) because they say Tom Cruise is gay and Oprah Winfrey’s thighs about to explode from cellulite build-up?   No!  You just look at the cover and smirk your smug little smirk and move on through the line thinking that drum of Diet Coke you got in your basket going to soak up all your calories and make you thin and slim in your old age.  And what do you mean "poping up"?  Is that suppose to be some kind of veil reference to the pope?  He got enough power already. : > As far as I’m concerned… That can’t be very far.  You don’t care whether kids go to heaven or hell.  You probably an atheist! : > you are, just as bad, if not more pathetic than the loser… Girl, your commas busting out all over like a rash.  Better put some White-Out on them things and cover them up so won’t nobody know how poorly educated you are.  And I want to tell you something.  I ain’t no loser.  I ain’t lost nothing.  I’m a winner — a SOUL-winner.  Don’t you be badmouthing no child of God. : > …who keeps trying to bother and harrass this NG. It’s only one r in "harass," girlfriend.  What is your problem?  I don’t try to harass or bother NOBODY.  I come here to help you people by preaching the True Gospel you ain’t going to hear in the watered down churches that have their smokers’ lounges and cocktail bars in the back.   Just the other day I saw a huge beer truck a-unloading its cargo at a Catholic church.  I can just imagine the wild party they going to be having with those priests and nuns drinking it up!  If you want to go to heaven, you better pay attention to me.  If you don’t care where you going to wind up when the last trump sound, then just ignore me and my mama.  We don’t care.  Just don’t you be butting in where your mouth don’t belong.  It ain’t fair and it ain’t right. Thank you for your time, Keesha Hickey Holloway

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What a pathetic loser this Hickey is.  I like to lurk and see what veiw points on raising well adjusted kids are here.  Why are the posts of this loser being answered? Grandma Hickey your only hope grandma holiness Keesha ( what ever the name is) ETC…… The space in the NG is taken up by idiotic responses to these retarded threads.  My question is **why**?   If you are one of the people who get off on talking and bickering and bitching to and about the Hickeys then just click on the name and Email them directly.  Spare all of us here who are interested in parenting solutions.  We don’t want to see all the threads poping up as updated every time we log on.  As far as I’m concerned you are, just as bad, if not more pathetic than the loser who keeps trying to bother and harrass this NG. * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!

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you can always killfile  :0) – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > What a pathetic loser this Hickey is.  I like to lurk and see what veiw > points on raising well adjusted kids are here.  Why are the posts of > this loser being answered? > Grandma Hickey > your only hope > grandma holiness > Keesha ( what ever the name is) > ETC…… > The space in the NG is taken up by idiotic responses to these retarded > threads.  My question is **why**?   If you are one of the people who > get off on talking and bickering and bitching to and about the Hickeys > then just click on the name and Email them directly.  Spare all of us > here who are interested in parenting solutions.  We don’t want to see > all the threads poping up as updated every time we log on.  As far as > I’m concerned you are, just as bad, if not more pathetic than the loser > who keeps trying to bother and harrass this NG. > * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * > The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!

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 Hamilton-  You’re my hero. You say all the things that I’m thinking, but can’t verbalize as well. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> <<snip>> > > If I were in your shoes, and knew medically there was nothing wrong > with his > > body to keep him from holding his bladder I would do these things. > Apparently I wasn’t clear on this part: Yes, there is a medical > problem, he has an under developed bladder, and the urologist that > tested him has stated that both his capacity and his muscles/nerves are > equal to a 2 to 3 year old child’s control. >   First, he > > is old enough to know how to wash a load of clothes if you teach > him…Second, > > he is old enough to clean his messes.  and third, he is old enough to > make his > > bed.  I would demand immediately for him to take these > responsibilities.  The > > minute he awakens everyday, the first thing I would make him do is > gather his > > sheets and start his load of laundry.  Next, I would make him get the > cleaner > > for the mattress..and start scrubbing away.  Last, I would make him > remake the > > bed once it is dried.  He will tire of this real quick, and if he > doesn’t, you > > still aren’t having to do it.  I would also recommend mattress > covers.  They > > are plastic and they are very easily cleaned.  They are great for > children who > > bed wet.  Try this…give patience …then let his work begin! > I’m sorry, but for adding all this work, it would sure seem like > punishment for something he can’t help!  I was hoping to get some input > from parents who have "been there" or who might "be there" now, not the > fixes I have been getting like this! > I guess I should have kept my mouth shut and sufferred. > BTW – Roger DOES help with the bedding, we do have a plastic cover > (they do wear out on occasion) and he is good about helping any way he > can. >Kids this old who wet the bed can’t help but be embarrassed and feel babyish. >Matter of factly putting him in charge of the laundry gives him some adult >responsibility and control over the situation.  And there are lots of >products >for adults who have bladder control problems — if he is more comfortable >this way, why not have him put on his own depends to avoid the mess and >laundry? >He is not a baby; he is old enough to handle his own messes; it is no more >’punishment’ for him to deal with this than it is for you to handle your own >kotex, do your own dishes or whatever [or for him to wipe his own butt.] >The more he can appreciate that this is just something that is no big deal >that he has to deal with [as a kid with vision problems wears glasses, a >kid with hearing difficulties wears a hearing aid, that a kid with >paralyzed legs uses a wheelchair, or that a short person uses a ladder to >reach stuff] the better. >The less babying and the more matter of fact accomodation the more he will >take this in stride.  I had a nephew who wet the bed until he was about >the age of your son — when he visited us, he took care of the matter — >it wasn’t the focus of our interaction — it was something he did take in >stride and felt competent to deal with.

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I really want to be supportive here and not out of line. I recognize I may not have any idea what I’m talking about, having not walked in your shoes on this one… but I would like to offer the following observations: 1) The type of bedwetting you are talking about well exceeds "normal" for any 10 year old who "still" wets the bed and just needs understanding and patience to grow out of it. Something is clearly wrong here – physically or mentally. 2) If it is a medical problem, I would be damn well insisting on some medical solution for my child. With this type of bedwetting, I’d look into catheters – the type people with nonworking kidneys use – to give my child back a little ounce of dignity and control over his body. A catheter (where you wear a little baggie that you empty when it fills) may seem drastic, but compared to the psychological trauma of being 10 and needing a diaper because you can’t make it 30 min without an accident… well, i’d consider it the lesser of the two evils. 3) There is something wrong with a 10 year old who wants mommy to diaper him. I’m sorry! I don’t mean to hurt your feelings on that…. I don’t mean to imply it’s anything you did wrong as a parent! On the contrary, you seem like a very wonderful and sensitive parent with the patience and understanding of a saint. The very last thing I intend is to fault you or your judgement on this, or make you defensive because I am saying all this. 4) This is the hardest point I’d like to bring up…. I can’t find a tactful way to do it, so I just will: Have you considered that your son has been/is being sexually abused? Please don’t get upset with me for suggesting this, but I think you ought to consider the possibility very carefully before ruling it out. The severity and nature of bedwetting you are describing is a "classic" "hallmark" sign of sexual abuse. There are many, many theories as to the why’s… (victim wets to prevent abuser from wanting to get near; victim has regressed phsyically and emotionally; victim is crying out for attention that something is desparately wrong; victim feels he has no control over his physical body, so he feels he can’t control basic phsyiological functions either) – but the why’s aren’t all that important, as the fact that it is such a common issue with children who are being abused. Think hard – is there anyone in his life who is around him alone, someone he seems strained around or fears? It is hard to imagine this of anyone, but you must rule this possibility out. jen * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!

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After years of pediatricians, urologists, psychologists, accupunturists, and chiropractors, and who knows how much money spent, it has come down to this: The fact is that Roger is a 10 year old (nearly 11)  incontinent child.  His bladder holds only 120 ml (4 ounces) and this was only after repeated bladder stretching excercizes.  His muscle tone is very poor, according to the urologist, he has the bladder control of a toddler. I have read so many of your suggestions, and yes, we have tried medications and alarms, pads and pants, and we still lose sleep.  The pull-ups and Goodnites only help a little, he still soaks through. Even a short one hour nap or long ride in the car, has its potential wetting hazards! Thursday night I was reading the paper while Roger was reading a comic book.  The TV was set on a game show,  on softly accross the room.  Out of the corner of my eye I saw Roger reach for the remote to turn up the volume, a Pampers commercial had just come on.  As soon as it ended he muted the volume and went back to his comics. Over the past few days I have noticed that evey one of my women’s magazines is dog eared (marked) on pages with diaper ads and Goodnites ads. I asked Roger to come sit by me.  I told him I noticed he seemed interested in the diaper commercials. Roger got a bit teary-eyed and asked me if I liked or hated it when I used to change his diapers.  I told him that it didn’t bother me a bit.  Afterall, he was my baby, and mommies love to take care of their babies. Then Roger asked me if I ever still wished he was still my baby.  I wasn’t really ready for that one!  Before I could answer, he said something to the effect that I couldn’t love him as much now as I used to, because he wasn’t my baby anymore and I didn’t want to take care of him! Those words hit me like a steel blade into my heart! I just blurted out, "Of course I do! You’ll always be my baby!" Then he asked me if he still needed diapers, would I still love him and take care of him. I told him that I would. Then he started crying and asking me why I took his diapers away.  I tried to explain about his grandmother’s actions, but he just cried that I should never have listened to that witch! I just cuddled him and assure him that if he wanted to wear diapers, then I would let him.  We could get them when-ever he wanted. Friday is grocery day, so while in the store I parked the cart in the baby aisle and started looking things over.  Roger grabbed 2 bags of Huggies size 6 with 18 in the bag and tossed them in the cart. I told him that 1 would probably be enough for now, but he gave me "the look" and I left both in the cart. Before wegot to the check-out, I asked Roger if he wanted to go to the car and wait for me.  that way he wouldn’t have to have anyone know they were for him. He said, "I don’t care who knows.  I’m your baby, right?" I told him that he was my baby, but other people wouldn’t understand. He just shrugged his shoulders and stayed with me. I picked up a pack of 30 diaper doublers too. I hope I didn’t do wrong, but as soon as we got home Roger unloaded the car and took one pack of diapers to his bedroom, and the other one to the den and opened it up.  He told me he wanted to try wearing one right then, so I agreed that it might not be a bad idea to get used to it. Roger took off his jeans and pull-up and laid down on the couch and just stared at me.  I told him that he could put it on himself, and he got all teary-eyed again, and started in on the "I’m your baby" bit. I gave in and I have to admit that he looks cute.   Kind of like a 4 foot 2 inch, 57 pound toddler! At bedtime (9:00) I put a diaper doubler in his night diaper, and HURRAY, We got some sleep! I set the alarm to get up and change him at 2:00 and his diaper was drenched, but his bed was dry.  He was wet again in the morning, but this is the first time in nearly 3 years that I haven’t had at least 2 sets of sheets and and blankets to wash.  Roger was all smiles this morning.  He was nearly "parading" around the house in his PJ top and diaper for most of the morning. He keeps saying things like "I’m the baby, gotta love me!" and he has thanked me for the diapers more times than I can count. I have informed him that for school he will have to go back to the pull- ups, and although he was a little disappointed, he seemed to understand my reasons for this. All I can say is "thank-you" to those that have writtne replies of support, and a special thank-you to those that sent the personal responses of support. The internet CAN be a place to go for help and support! Before you buy.

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Thanks Curly–this guy has just gotten under my skin.  Ihave little tolerance for spammers, but none at all for those who spam to parents on ways to "cure" their kids troubles.  This gets me more than a little emotional–thanks for providing the clear-headed response that I couldn’t. Lesa

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hello Lesa, > What is your problem Lesa? Maybe you just do not get it. I am here > writing to you and others to offer a cure to this problem. > This is a news group about parenting solutions through > dialogue, Tom.  Any newbie knows how to search for > merchants on the web.  If you want to discuss the topic, > fine.  But, instead, all you have done so far is suggest > that people pay you money.  You have no medical > qualifications that I can gather which gives you expert > credibility on enuresis.  You are a pastor with a bed > wetting alarm for sale.  You sell the alarm along with > some Christian ministry. Big deal.  You must have a > software program that brings news articles that have the > words bed and wet right into your news reader.  It’s the > only time we see your comments here. > <snip> > I’m not begging. > Your spamming.  I’m pretty sure that violates Kendra’s > charter for the group. > — >

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I worked on Thursday – the day I took my son.  I work full-time.  I really didn’t want to go then.  My son went into a begging mode and I took him.  One of his friends told him the theatres gave out 4 packs of cards.  That boy opened that pack (1) of cards.  Looked through it.  Didn’t see his favorite card and on the way out of the theatre kept telling me, "Mom.  They were supposed to give our 4 free packs of cards."  I told him – nah.   My favorite scene was when the Pokemon were crying and brought the little boy back to life.  It’s amazing what we like when we are kids.  Some things stay with me.  I go into a 1970s newsgroup.  Someone was asking what the members favorite Christmas movies were.  Someone already said the one where the little boy wanted the b-b gun for Christmas but kept being told he’d put his eye out. I REALLY ENJOY that Christmas movie!!!!  Every year I watch it and laugh! Another one I used to like was It’s a Wonderful Life but they play that wwwaaaayyyyy too much during the holidays.   Denise http://www.chistell.com

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Wow!  We just got back from the theatre about a half hour ago.  I thought the movie ended nice.  But I was kind of freaked about the Mewtwo, thing…cloning, psychic stuff, and his vengeance stuff.  I wasn’t expecting that at all.  It seemed different from the tv shows that I have watched with my kids.  I didn’t like his "Rule the World", thing.  But, they did a good job at the end.  I thought it was a wonderful way to teach kids that fighting is not the answer, and what the Power of "Love" Can do.  I don’t know if I’d go see it again, but it was a nice day out with the kids, and they had a good time, so that is what matters. They ran out of the cards here too.  And we went to Burger King afterwards, to get the Pokemon toys you get with the happy meal.  We had to go to three of them before we got one.  They were sold out everywhere. Did you find that during the Pikachu’s vacation movie, the lights flashing on the screen make your eyes go weird?  They would simultaneously flash a pokemon on the screen between clips.  My daughter even said, her eyes hurt. zipper – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >This isn’t about parenting solutions.  Just wondered how many of you took your >children to see the Pokemon movie.  My son and his friends collect the cards. >My son wanted to go to the movie so badly.  I took him on Thursday night.  I >actually enjoyed the movie!  My son’s dad is taking him to see it a second >time.  It’s amazing how each year my son’s interest changes.  Power Rangers one >year, Batman another, Street Fighter, wrestling and now Pokemon.  I was always >into barbie dolls BIG TIME!  I told my son if I was a kid now with all the >barbie stuff they have out now I’d be going nuts!  LOL! >Denise >http://www.chistell.com

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Funny you should ask…I just took my son this afternoon.  I also enjoyed it, though I thought the moralizing was a bit heavy-handed.   But I guess young kids can’t be taught proper morals in too many ways, shapes or forms. Did your theaters still have the cards?  Ours ran out on the 2nd day, but they gave out a certificate to mail along with your ticket stub so that they will be sent to you. Marion—-Tampamom to Louis(6) and Erica(2)

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->This isn’t about parenting solutions.  Just wondered how many of you took your >children to see the Pokemon movie.  My son and his friends collect the cards. >My son wanted to go to the movie so badly.  I took him on Thursday night. I >actually enjoyed the movie!  My son’s dad is taking him to see it a second >time.  It’s amazing how each year my son’s interest changes.  Power Rangers one >year, Batman another, Street Fighter, wrestling and now Pokemon.  I was always >into barbie dolls BIG TIME!  I told my son if I was a kid now with all the >barbie stuff they have out now I’d be going nuts!  LOL! >Denise >http://www.chistell.com

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This isn’t about parenting solutions.  Just wondered how many of you took your children to see the Pokemon movie.  My son and his friends collect the cards. My son wanted to go to the movie so badly.  I took him on Thursday night.  I actually enjoyed the movie!  My son’s dad is taking him to see it a second time.  It’s amazing how each year my son’s interest changes.  Power Rangers one year, Batman another, Street Fighter, wrestling and now Pokemon.  I was always into barbie dolls BIG TIME!  I told my son if I was a kid now with all the barbie stuff they have out now I’d be going nuts!  LOL! Denise http://www.chistell.com

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;Or how about a moderated newsgroup? I dunno. I have a thing about moderated newsgroups. To me, a moderator inhibits real communication, even if it does eliminate all of the line noise from trolls and SPAMmers. I’d rather just have a newsgroup devoted to the topic at hand and killfile anybody outside of the discussion. That’s one of the nice things about my newsreader; I can killfile a person either globally or on a newsgroup-by-newsgroup basis. Is mise le meas, | Darryl L. Pierce Alt.Atheism Member #1142, Death ‘Piper of the BAAWA   | |  Visit me @ http://www.geocities.com/ResearchTriangle/Thinktank/1335/  | |         …you’re breathing so I guess you’re still alive…           | |   Unsolicited email to this address is acceptance of a $500 per day    | | storage expense to be paid within 30 days of the sending of the email. |

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How about one of these…. Penis Terrorizes School or Penis Blamed for 13 Deaths or Teenager Blames Penis for Violent Rampage – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->Had it ever occured to you that the >circumcision of children may be CAUSING problems such as disrespect >and violence ? > here it comes, folks….now violence in our childrens schools will be blamed on > the dreaded "CIRCD PENIS!!!"….i wonder how they would print a headline in a > paper about that? :-) > melissa, mommy to Alex, happily cut at birth

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> Kendra, > Am I the only one that is now having visions of some new, weird > slasher flick?? > Georga

but they wouldn’t name the main character ‘jason’ or whatever some of the other ones have been. instead it would be something like ‘mr. happy’ or some other ‘cute’ name.   now that would be weird.        sleeper << clip >> Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > >To all you who think Circ discussions are irrelevant to this and > other > > >parenting newsgroups are crazy — there are many paretns out there > who have > > >questions about intact sons.  Don’t discriminate against them — it > seems > > >like some of you who are complaining about circ posts are the ones > who are > > >cutting your little boys.   I guess you dont like to hear the truth > about > > >how awful it is. > > I guess she can’t except the fact that America is a democracy, in > which parents > > are the legal medical guardians of their children. >   Except there is no medical indication to perfrom circumcision as per > the AAP: http://www.sexuallymutilatedchild.org/nc-press.htm > OK, Hummppff lets let the Mom’s look at the cosmetic beauty of uncircumcised > penises at sexually mutilated. Com. > Warning only look if you have a strong stomach. > http://www.sexuallymutilatedchild.org/33.htm

I followed the above link and found pictures of healthy normal intact penises, nothing grotesque there. Centure your disdain for the natural unmutiliated penis is more than evident, even to the casual reader. The fact that the penises pictured are intact and have not been subjected to sharp cutting instruments must be a severe disappointment to you. The human body is fine just the way it is, nature doesn’t need any surgical tinkering on the healthy natural foreskin. If adults wish to have their genitals mutilated, fine, their loss, however this unnecessary surgical should not be inflicted on infants whether they are female or male. > The stupidity of showing mothers these hideous appendages is BIZARRE for > those allegedly attempting to save them.

The stupidity of admitting how much you hate the natural body and how much you enjoy the maiming aspect of circumcision is even more "bizarre". – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Share what you know. Learn what you don’t. > Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.

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Kendra, Am I the only one that is now having visions of some new, weird slasher flick?? Georga – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->>   This is the solutions newsgroup.  Had it ever occured to you that the >> circumcision of children may be CAUSING problems such as disrespect >> and violence ? >No, it hasn’t.  MY penis doesn’t leave my body and run around with a >hockey mask and a pickaxe late at night.  With the possible exception of >Baywatch, I am in full control of my thingy – and the rest of my body. >If I show disrespect, it’s because I *have* disrespect.  If I am >violent, it’s because there’s something to be violent about.  My >ding-dong doesn’t control my brain, it’s the other way around.  Maybe >it’s different for you and your sexual organs. > Lol,  Jack, I’ve been laughing for the last 20 minutes. > Very well put. > Kendra > "Outlandish" and Proud! > http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Lane/6516 > http://www.geocities.com/Paris/Gallery/1796

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> ;I DO post there too — but my point is, Im a parent and sometimes its nice > ;to hear from other parents of intact sons.  Most of the people who post on > ;that newsgroup are single men arguing over a foreskin. > Then perhaps starting up a new newsgroup called alt.circumcision.support or > something similar is in order? That’s, in my opinion, far too volatile a subject > for a general newsgroup like this (a.p.s). > Is mise le meas,

Or how about a moderated newsgroup?

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;I DO post there too — but my point is, Im a parent and sometimes its nice ;to hear from other parents of intact sons.  Most of the people who post on ;that newsgroup are single men arguing over a foreskin. Then perhaps starting up a new newsgroup called alt.circumcision.support or something similar is in order? That’s, in my opinion, far too volatile a subject for a general newsgroup like this (a.p.s). Is mise le meas, | Darryl L. Pierce Alt.Atheism Member #1142, Death ‘Piper of the BAAWA   | |  Visit me @ http://www.geocities.com/ResearchTriangle/Thinktank/1335/  | |         …you’re breathing so I guess you’re still alive…           | |   Unsolicited email to this address is acceptance of a $500 per day    | | storage expense to be paid within 30 days of the sending of the email. |

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->   This is the solutions newsgroup.  Had it ever occured to you that the > circumcision of children may be CAUSING problems such as disrespect > and violence ? > No, it hasn’t.  MY penis doesn’t leave my body and run around with a > hockey mask and a pickaxe late at night.  With the possible exception of > Baywatch, I am in full control of my thingy – and the rest of my body. > If I show disrespect, it’s because I *have* disrespect.  If I am > violent, it’s because there’s something to be violent about.  My > ding-dong doesn’t control my brain, it’s the other way around.  Maybe > it’s different for you and your sexual organs. > — Jack Tarkaan                                      Kalamazoo,

Michigan Dear Sirs, I came to America when I was 16 and would like to share some of my observations I made between European society’s treatment of youth and America’s treatment of youth.  I am now 34. I grew up in Austria and Switzerland and believe very much that the problem with America’s youth is caused by the way young people are treated by society. In Austria and Switzerland the concept of com- munity first, the state/canton second, and thirdly federal government has been applied to the structure of their governing principles.  It is not an unknown concept to America that the strength of the smallest element of society, the family, defines the strength of society as a whole.  It should follow that the strength of the next smallest element, the community immediately surrounding the family, should be the second most important building block of a society.  In America the governing process is from the top down – i.e. Federal government , states, community, family, and finally the individual.  In this system the governing process actually prevents true community/social spirit from forming.  The individual’s opinions are divided by the 278million people living in America and thus people have lost the ability to structure their surroundings in a manner which befits the individual community.  As is known, the federal government is mainly influenced by special interest groups such as the bible-swinging ‘religous’ right.  Groups such as this have used their influence to push the government into creating laws which attempt to FORCE people and communities along an overly idealistic path.  The end result they are preaching is a good thing,  but can only be achieved through natural social evolution. Trying to force these ends through laws and abusive enforcement tactics is actually preventing this evolution from occuring. People need to be able to live out their lives in a natural way, instead of being forced to abide by government imposed social experiments. They must also have the ability to allow their youth to make the life experiences needed to prepare themselves for adulthood. In Austria a person is officially  recognized as a ‘young adult’ at the age of 14.  He is given more liberties and responsibilities in law such as being able to choose his religion without parental consent, curfews are extended, he can drive a motorized bicycle,  and make decisions about his sexuality. At 16 one is given more liberties and responsibilities such as being able to drive a larger motocycle, curfews are dropped, one is legally responsible if one commits a crime, and may consume beer and wine at pubs (no hard stuff).  (I came to America when I was 16 and noticed that people are not allowed to consume beer until 21 years of age.  But when 16 year olds managed to get to a party they would drink themselves into a stupor instead of just having a couple of social drinks with friends as we did in Austria.  This, in my opinion, teaches people to ‘binge drink’ and is probably one of the major reasons America has one of the highest alcohol addiction rates in the western world.).  In this system the young adults are able to congregate in public places such as parks, restaurants, discos, spa facilities, lake swimming areas, mountain trails, and designated youth facilities without the need for parental or police scrutiny, as people have been raised with the knowledge that they will be required to behave responsibly in these permitted situations. In these situations people can interact and live out their thoughts and feelings and obtain feedback from their general peer population as to whether their acts are accepted or not.  This is natural social evolution in its’ esscence.  Parental or police interference prevents this natural phenomenon from occuring and is only required in extreme cases of violence or obvious self-destructive behaviour.  In Europe, these young  adults are treated as  just such,  young adults. They are not belittled by society by being called  ’children’ and are included in conversations with adults as equals.The European way  of treating young people as ‘young adults’ gives them  good self esteem.  It also gives them a sense of being  in control of their own lives and of being individually noticed for who they are. In comparison, a major problem with American society, as I see it, is that people are treated like children too late in life.  In the dictionary, a child is defined as a person between infancy and the BEGINNING of puberty.  In a New England Journal of Medicine study of 13,000 girls around this country, on average girls entered puberty at the age of 10 with puberty lasting around two years.  For boys it started later at 12 and ended at 14.   As a result, calling a 16 year old a ‘child’ is not only technically wrong but also morally wrong, as it belittles the young adult involved.   Calling young people ‘children’ until the age of 18 causes society to treat them like children until that age.  By not allowing them to make their own decisions and preventing  them from making the life experiences they should be making around the age of 16, they are forced into emotional isolation with no outlet for their thoughts and feelings.  This anomaly about American society compounds the feeling of discrimmination against them, it enfuriates and frustrates them to the point of wanting to lash out at the source of those bad feelings: society as a whole !!!  The childish treatment of  young adults in America is a direct result of the ‘moralistic’ right wing trying to impose its’ social views on the rest of society.  As a result of  the view that a person is a ‘child’ until the age of 18,  people are raised in a manner which prevents them from making mature decisions at an ealier age.  This social practice is unique to America and should be considered when analyzing the problems with America’s population of young adults. Finally, another anomaly about American society is the widespread (~85%) practice of infant male genital mutilation (circumcision).  A study I read says that this practice causes a 70-80% loss of feeling in the male genitalia due to daily contact with clothing and the environment in general.  This lack of feeling represses psycho-sexual developement and therefore leads to a general feeling of dissatifaction amoung young males, causing them to seek stimulation externally  (i.e. loud music, narcissistic behaviour, violence, etc.).  In not being able to live out their lives in young adulthood and compounding this feeling of isolation by lowered sexual stimulation in the genitalia, their outlook on life tends to be to be hopeless.  Only the muslims,  the jews and the Americans pratice this surgical procedure.  One has to think about its’ ramifications ! Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.

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> >Had it ever occured to you that the >circumcision of children may be CAUSING problems such as disrespect >and violence ? > here it comes, folks….now violence in our childrens schools will be blamed on > the dreaded "CIRCD PENIS!!!"….i wonder how they would print a headline in a > paper about that? :-) > melissa, mommy to Alex, happily cut at birth

  Does this look happy to you ?             http://www.sexuallymutilatedchild.org/post1.htm             http://www.sexuallymutilatedchild.org/post2.htm             http://www.sexuallymutilatedchild.org/post3.htm             http://www.sexuallymutilatedchild.org/post4.htm Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.

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>Had it ever occured to you that the >circumcision of children may be CAUSING problems such as disrespect >and violence ?

here it comes, folks….now violence in our childrens schools will be blamed on the dreaded "CIRCD PENIS!!!"….i wonder how they would print a headline in a paper about that? :-) melissa, mommy to Alex, happily cut at birth

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> >Had it ever occured to you that the >circumcision of children may be CAUSING problems such as disrespect >and violence ? > here it comes, folks….now violence in our childrens schools will be blamed on > the dreaded "CIRCD PENIS!!!"….i wonder how they would print a headline in a > paper about that? :-) > melissa, mommy to Alex, happily cut at birth

Dear Sirs, I came to America when I was 16 and would like to share some of my observations I made between European society’s treatment of youth and America’s treatment of youth.  I am now 34. I grew up in Austria and Switzerland and believe very much that the problem with America’s youth is caused by the way young people are treated by society. In Austria and Switzerland the concept of com- munity first, the state/canton second, and thirdly federal government has been applied to the structure of their governing principles.  It is not an unknown concept to America that the strength of the smallest element of society, the family, defines the strength of society as a whole.  It should follow that the strength of the next smallest element, the community immediately surrounding the family, should be the second most important building block of a society.  In America the governing process is from the top down – i.e. Federal government , states, community, family, and finally the individual.  In this system the governing process actually prevents true community/social spirit from forming.  The individual’s opinions are divided by the 278million people living in America and thus people have lost the ability to structure their surroundings in a manner which befits the individual community.  As is known, the federal government is mainly influenced by special interest groups such as the bible-swinging ‘religous’ right.  Groups such as this have used their influence to push the government into creating laws which attempt to FORCE people and communities along an overly idealistic path.  The end result they are preaching is a good thing,  but can only be achieved through natural social evolution. Trying to force these ends through laws and abusive enforcement tactics is actually preventing this evolution from occuring. People need to be able to live out their lives in a natural way, instead of being forced to abide by government imposed social experiments. They must also have the ability to allow their youth to make the life experiences needed to prepare themselves for adulthood. In Austria a person is officially  recognized as a ‘young adult’ at the age of 14.  He is given more liberties and responsibilities in law such as being able to choose his religion without parental consent, curfews are extended, he can drive a motorized bicycle,  and make decisions about his sexuality. At 16 one is given more liberties and responsibilities such as being able to drive a larger motocycle, curfews are dropped, one is legally responsible if one commits a crime, and may consume beer and wine at pubs (no hard stuff).  (I came to America when I was 16 and noticed that people are not allowed to consume beer until 21 years of age.  But when 16 year olds managed to get to a party they would drink themselves into a stupor instead of just having a couple of social drinks with friends as we did in Austria.  This, in my opinion, teaches people to ‘binge drink’ and is probably one of the major reasons America has one of the highest alcohol addiction rates in the western world.).  In this system the young adults are able to congregate in public places such as parks, restaurants, discos, spa facilities, lake swimming areas, mountain trails, and designated youth facilities without the need for parental or police scrutiny, as people have been raised with the knowledge that they will be required to behave responsibly in these permitted situations. In these situations people can interact and live out their thoughts and feelings and obtain feedback from their general peer population as to whether their acts are accepted or not.  This is natural social evolution in its’ esscence.  Parental or police interference prevents this natural phenomenon from occuring and is only required in extreme cases of violence or obvious self-destructive behaviour.  In Europe, these young  adults are treated as  just such,  young adults. They are not belittled by society by being called  ’children’ and are included in conversations with adults as equals.The European way  of treating young people as ‘young adults’ gives them  good self esteem.  It also gives them a sense of being  in control of their own lives and of being individually noticed for who they are. In comparison, a major problem with American society, as I see it, is that people are treated like children too late in life.  In the dictionary, a child is defined as a person between infancy and the BEGINNING of puberty.  In a New England Journal of Medicine study of 13,000 girls around this country, on average girls entered puberty at the age of 10 with puberty lasting around two years.  For boys it started later at 12 and ended at 14.   As a result, calling a 16 year old a ‘child’ is not only technically wrong but also morally wrong, as it belittles the young adult involved.   Calling young people ‘children’ until the age of 18 causes society to treat them like children until that age.  By not allowing them to make their own decisions and preventing  them from making the life experiences they should be making around the age of 16, they are forced into emotional isolation with no outlet for their thoughts and feelings.  This anomaly about American society compounds the feeling of discrimmination against them, it enfuriates and frustrates them to the point of wanting to lash out at the source of those bad feelings: society as a whole !!!  The childish treatment of  young adults in America is a direct result of the ‘moralistic’ right wing trying to impose its’ social views on the rest of society.  As a result of  the view that a person is a ‘child’ until the age of 18,  people are raised in a manner which prevents them from making mature decisions at an ealier age.  This social practice is unique to America and should be considered when analyzing the problems with America’s population of young adults. Finally, another anomaly about American society is the widespread (~85%) practice of infant male genital mutilation (circumcision).  A study I read says that this practice causes a 70-80% loss of feeling in the male genitalia due to daily contact with clothing and the environment in general.  This lack of feeling represses psycho-sexual developement and therefore leads to a general feeling of dissatifaction amoung young males, causing them to seek stimulation externally  (i.e. loud music, narcissistic behaviour, violence, etc.).  In not being able to live out their lives in young adulthood and compounding this feeling of isolation by lowered sexual stimulation in the genitalia, their outlook on life tends to be to be hopeless.  Only the muslims,  the jews and the Americans pratice this surgical procedure.  One has to think about its’ ramifications ! Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->To all you who think Circ discussions are irrelevant to this and other >parenting newsgroups are crazy — there are many paretns out there who have >questions about intact sons.  Don’t discriminate against them — it seems >like some of you who are complaining about circ posts are the ones who are >cutting your little boys.   I guess you dont like to hear the truth about >how awful it is. > I guess she can’t except the fact that America is a democracy, in which parents > are the legal medical guardians of their children.

  Except there is no medical indication to perfrom circumcision as per the AAP: http://www.sexuallymutilatedchild.org/nc-press.htm Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> >To all you who think Circ discussions are irrelevant to this and > other > >parenting newsgroups are crazy — there are many paretns out there > who have > >questions about intact sons.  Don’t discriminate against them — it > seems > >like some of you who are complaining about circ posts are the ones > who are > >cutting your little boys.   I guess you dont like to hear the truth > about > >how awful it is. > I guess she can’t except the fact that America is a democracy, in > which parents > are the legal medical guardians of their children. >   Except there is no medical indication to perfrom circumcision as per > the AAP: http://www.sexuallymutilatedchild.org/nc-press.htm

OK, Hummppff lets let the Mom’s look at the cosmetic beauty of uncircumcised penises at sexually mutilated. Com. Warning only look if you have a strong stomach. http://www.sexuallymutilatedchild.org/33.htm The stupidity of showing mothers these hideous appendages is BIZARRE for those allegedly attempting to save them. > Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.

Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> To all you who think Circ discussions are irrelevant to this and other > parenting newsgroups are crazy — there are many paretns out there > who have > questions about intact sons.  Don’t discriminate against them — it > seems > like some of you who are complaining about circ posts are the ones > who are > cutting your little boys.   I guess you dont like to hear the truth > about > how awful it is. > — > Kari and Justin > http://members.xoom.com/jstkaylie >   Good for you girl – Kari.  Go girl go.

Hummppff and Kari and Justin,   I will give this one more go.  Circumcision is an issue related to parenting and if the thread originates here in a.p.s. I see no problem with it however some parenting issues are huge ie. spanking and long ago some bright people realised this and decided to set up a specific newsgroup dedicated to spanking so that the more general parenting groups ie. a.p.s. and misc.kids weren’t over-run by these threads.  Not everyone has filtering capabilities on their machine and these subject specific newsgroups is a way to keep everyone happy.  Seeing as there is a newsgroup dedicated to circumcision, what is so wrong with posting circumcision queries there? Leonie.

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>>   This is the solutions newsgroup.  Had it ever occured to you that the > circumcision of children may be CAUSING problems such as disrespect > and violence ? >No, it hasn’t.  MY penis doesn’t leave my body and run around with a >hockey mask and a pickaxe late at night.  With the possible exception of >Baywatch, I am in full control of my thingy – and the rest of my body. >If I show disrespect, it’s because I *have* disrespect.  If I am >violent, it’s because there’s something to be violent about.  My >ding-dong doesn’t control my brain, it’s the other way around.  Maybe >it’s different for you and your sexual organs.

Lol,  Jack, I’ve been laughing for the last 20 minutes.   Very well put.   Kendra "Outlandish" and Proud! http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Lane/6516 http://www.geocities.com/Paris/Gallery/1796

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> To all you who think Circ discussions are irrelevant to this and other > parenting newsgroups are crazy — there are many paretns out there who have > questions about intact sons.  Don’t discriminate against them — it seems > like some of you who are complaining about circ posts are the ones who are > cutting your little boys.   I guess you dont like to hear the truth about > how awful it is. > — > Kari and Justin > http://members.xoom.com/jstkaylie

  Good for you girl – Kari.  Go girl go. Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> To all you who think Circ discussions are irrelevant to this and other > parenting newsgroups are crazy — there are many paretns out there who have > questions about intact sons. > There’s a newsgroup for them too.  It’s called alt.circ.  See you there! > …well, maybe not. > — Jack Tarkaan                                      Kalamazoo, Michigan > — http://www.bigfoot.com/~tarkaan

> — NO UNSOLICITED E-MAIL AT THIS ADDRESS – Respect privacy – NO SPAM!!!!

  This is the solutions newsgroup.  Had it ever occured to you that the circumcision of children may be CAUSING problems such as disrespect and violence ? Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.

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You do have a right to post whatever you want.  And I agree that circ discussions do have a place here.  My only complaint is that they come into threads that have nothing to do with circ.  One thread on another ng was about how a pregnant lady could ease her hemrhoids (sp?) and it got turned into a circ thread.  That’s just out and out ridiculous.  Another complaint is starting 15 other threads about circ.  Why can’t it be containted to 3-4 threads??  Circ does have it’s place in a.p.s. but in a limited quantity. If you’re going to go into an all out war about whether it’s right or wrong that needs to be done in alt.circ. Lisa Mom to Kelsey (3) & TTC #2 — http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Bluffs/9283

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> To all you who think Circ discussions are irrelevant to this and other > parenting newsgroups are crazy — there are many paretns out there who have > questions about intact sons.  Don’t discriminate against them — it seems > like some of you who are complaining about circ posts are the ones who are > cutting your little boys.   I guess you dont like to hear the truth about > how awful it is. > — > Kari and Justin > http://members.xoom.com/jstkaylie

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> To all you who think Circ discussions are irrelevant to this and > other parenting newsgroups are crazy — there are many paretns out > there who have questions about intact sons.  Don’t discriminate > against them — it seems like some of you who are complaining about > circ posts are the ones who are cutting your little boys.   I guess > you dont like to hear the truth about how awful it is. > — > Kari and Justin

<< sig clip >> i’ll take a different tack than others have in responding to your post.  and i write this without having read any of your other posts to the group (i choose not to read the ‘circ’ threads.) sure you can "post whatever (you) want".  but if you continually post about the same subject and post with the attitude that your subject line seems to imply, well, don’t be surprised if your words and message come to mean less and less to the regulars of this group. that, of course, is just MHO…. :-)       sleeper Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.

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I may be wrong but I haven’t noticed one single question about circumcision originating from this group recently.  All the circ. noise has come from these cross posts that I feel we have every right to complain about. Parenting solutions means just that, not parenting Opinions which is what a discussion about circumcision is really about.  I don’t agree with it either but I don’t expect or even care if other people have a problem with my opinion.  That is their opinion but this topic certainly does not belong here in parenting solutions where people just want some good old-fashioned advice. No-one is discriminating against anyone here, we are just voicing our own right to have a newsgroup which isn’t infested with off-topic discussions about subjects based around individual opinions with no solutions on the horizon. Leonie. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > To all you who think Circ discussions are irrelevant to this and other > parenting newsgroups are crazy — there are many paretns out there who have > questions about intact sons.  Don’t discriminate against them — it seems > like some of you who are complaining about circ posts are the ones who are > cutting your little boys.   I guess you dont like to hear the truth about > how awful it is. > — > Kari and Justin > http://members.xoom.com/jstkaylie

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> Hello my name is Tristan, I’m 16 Years old, from Australia and I would > like to ask a few questions. > In this time of people telling us to turn back the clock in a cultural > sense, I seems in my home country male infant circumcisions > seem to making a come back. Years after circumcision rates dropped to > around 10-20%. Do you think that this coming back > of male circumcisions seem to be part of growing conserativism in the > community in English speaking countries. > I give a newspaper story that might explain a few things from a Sydney > Newspaper.

This is of course very interesting. I wonder why our Sean did not bring this to our attention? You see he/they have been telling all and sundry that circumcision is dead is Oz. Do you think he is hiding something from us? You see we have also heard that circumcision in Korea has reached about 90%. Not much said about that either? hehe Want a theory on all this? Well when a majority circumcising population is told that circumcision has no value, that the 4skin has value and that the health risks relating to the 4skin are overstated they have no point of reference by which to judge this information. This is what is happening currently in the US. It is only when the number of uncircumcised boys rises and with it the corresponding number of 4skin delinquencies that people start to question the 4skin sales pitch. These people tend to begin making the circumcision decision based on current knowledge and experience. And not for some now somewhat vague historical reasons (hey, why do we do this?). They would be unlikely to swallow the crap being sold around here about the 4skin. I would not call it conservatism. More like health based activism. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> The Sun-Herald, April 25, 1999 >      BABIES AT THE CUTTING EDGE >      Circumcision of male infants is making a comeback >      reports Martin Chulov > After years of declining rates in Australia and opposition to the > procedure from doctors, a growing number of parents are asking > for their baby boys to be circumcised. And, for the first time, the > Royal Australian College of Surgeons has formed a policy > position – it does not oppose the procedure. [Note: The name is actually > the Royal Australasian College of Surgeons] > Thirty years ago more than 60 per cent of Australian males were > routinely circumcised; that figure has fallen dramatically to less > than 10 per cent of male babies born. However, hospitals have reported a > recent surge in requests for the procedure, which is > typically performed when baby boys are about seven days old. A report > released recently showed that pediatricians were > receiving requests from parents to circumcise up to 20 per cent of > newborn boys. > The College of Surgeons said performing the procedure was at the > discretion of parents and could be performed for religious, > cultural, medical or social reasons. It said it should be performed only > by "a competent operator… under sterile conditions > designed to minimise hazards… using appropriate anaesthetic". > The procedure is leading to widespread division among GPs and medical > lobby groups with the Australian College of Pediatrics > saying circumcision should not be performed until babies are at least > six months. It said "neonatal male circumcision has no > medical indication. It is a traumatic procedure performed without > anaesthesia to remove a normal functional and protective > prepuce". > The Australian Medical Association (AMA) opposes routine circumcision > and will only endorse it on "therapeutic grounds". > AMA NSW president Peter Thursby said: "And then we would need to be > convinced of the reasons for exposing > seven-day-old infants to this." Dr Thursby said Australians’ access to > hygiene reduced the risks of penile cancers or diseases > which were associated with non-circumcised men in some first and second > world countries (sic). "Penile carcinoma rates have > fallen dramatically in Australia over the past 50 years and are > continuing to do so", Dr Thursby said. > But Professor Brian Morris fron the University of Sydney’s Physiology > Department claims, in a new book, that "there are > benefits to be had from the procedure at any age". Dr Morris says lack > of circumcision is responsible for increasing the rates of > urinary tract infection by up to 12 times and offers increased exposure > to penile cancers. He also says it increases the risk of > acquiring the HIV virus and other sexually transmitted diseases.

> Hello my name is Tristan, I’m 16 Years old, from Australia and I would > like to ask a few questions. > In this time of people telling us to turn back the clock in a cultural > sense, I seems in my home country male infant circumcisions > seem to making a come back. Years after circumcision rates dropped to > around 10-20%. Do you think that this coming back > of male circumcisions seem to be part of growing conserativism in the > community in English speaking countries. > I give a newspaper story that might explain a few things from a Sydney > Newspaper.

This is of course very interesting. I wonder why our Sean did not bring this to our attention? You see he/they have been telling all and sundry that circumcision is dead is Oz. Do you think he is hiding something from us? You see we have also heard that circumcision in Korea has reached about 90%. Not much said about that either? hehe Want a theory on all this? Well when a majority circumcising population is told that circumcision has no value, that the 4skin has value and that the health risks relating to the 4skin are overstated they have no point of reference by which to judge this information. This is what is happening currently in the US. It is only when the number of uncircumcised boys rises and with it the corresponding number of 4skin delinquencies that people start to question the 4skin sales pitch. These people tend to begin making the circumcision decision based on current knowledge and experience. And not for some now somewhat vague historical reasons (hey, why do we do this?). They would be unlikely to swallow the crap being sold around here about the 4skin. I would not call it conservatism. More like health based activism. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> The Sun-Herald, April 25, 1999 >      BABIES AT THE CUTTING EDGE >      Circumcision of male infants is making a comeback >      reports Martin Chulov > After years of declining rates in Australia and opposition to the > procedure from doctors, a growing number of parents are asking > for their baby boys to be circumcised. And, for the first time, the > Royal Australian College of Surgeons has formed a policy > position – it does not oppose the procedure. [Note: The name is actually > the Royal Australasian College of Surgeons] > Thirty years ago more than 60 per cent of Australian males were > routinely circumcised; that figure has fallen dramatically to less > than 10 per cent of male babies born. However, hospitals have reported a > recent surge in requests for the procedure, which is > typically performed when baby boys are about seven days old. A report > released recently showed that pediatricians were > receiving requests from parents to circumcise up to 20 per cent of > newborn boys. > The College of Surgeons said performing the procedure was at the > discretion of parents and could be performed for religious, > cultural, medical or social reasons. It said it should be performed only > by "a competent operator… under sterile conditions > designed to minimise hazards… using appropriate anaesthetic". > The procedure is leading to widespread division among GPs and medical > lobby groups with the Australian College of Pediatrics > saying circumcision should not be performed until babies are at least > six months. It said "neonatal male circumcision has no > medical indication. It is a traumatic procedure performed without > anaesthesia to remove a normal functional and protective > prepuce". > The Australian Medical Association (AMA) opposes routine circumcision > and will only endorse it on "therapeutic grounds". > AMA NSW president Peter Thursby said: "And then we would need to be > convinced of the reasons for exposing > seven-day-old infants to this." Dr Thursby said Australians’ access to > hygiene reduced the risks of penile cancers or diseases > which were associated with non-circumcised men in some first and second > world countries (sic). "Penile carcinoma rates have > fallen dramatically in Australia over the past 50 years and are > continuing to do so", Dr Thursby said. > But Professor Brian Morris fron the University of Sydney’s Physiology > Department claims, in a new book, that "there are > benefits to be had from the procedure at any age". Dr Morris says lack > of circumcision is responsible for increasing the rates of > urinary tract infection by up to 12 times and offers increased exposure > to penile cancers. He also says it increases the risk of > acquiring the HIV virus and other sexually transmitted diseases.

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There are many people who have questions about repairing their cars. That doesn’t mean the messages belong in this ng. Circ discussions are irrelevant only when the members of this newsgroup did not post the message or question AND when members of this newsgroup do not reply to the messages posted. A good example is the thread that is currently going on by a parent who wants to know how to respond to others who dissagree with her decision to leave her son intact.  She posted the message in this newsgroup and received many good replies from others in this newsgroup.  That thread belongs here.   However, there are a large number of cross posts from messages that did not originate on this ng.  And people from this ng are not replying to them.  All those messages are doing is turning people away from this ng so the information you want to out to everyone is actually getting out to fewer and fewer people as a result of the cross posting. If you feel there is a gap in the information in this ng, then it would be far more successful to work *with* the members of this ng to help find a way to bridge that gap.  Forcing it upon people who are not interested does not work.  People just skip the messages without reading them anyway.  All I am getting out of the cross posting is that there are a group of people who are so blinded by their desire to get their point across to others that they are willing to be disrespectful to others in the process.  When I do not respect the people posting the message, I also do not respect their point of view. To be honest, most of the problem with this whole issue comes from the manner in which some members of alt.circumcision are being rude and controlling in that ng.  It turns people away who really would like more information on the subject.  People in general are repelled by fighting. Spilling the fights into another ng is not going to accomplish anything other than turn people away from that ng as well.   What needs to be done is to either get alt.circumcision cleaned up (which is what we are trying to do in this ng) or to start another ng with a charter that can stop that kind of fighting before the new ng is destroyed. Take Care! Vicki Surratt Proud Mom of Kathy (6) and Jenny (9)! :-) My website has moved!  Please note the new address: http://www.webcom.com/vicki/ – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > To all you who think Circ discussions are irrelevant to this and other > parenting newsgroups are crazy — there are many paretns out there who have > questions about intact sons.  Don’t discriminate against them — it seems > like some of you who are complaining about circ posts are the ones who are > cutting your little boys.   I guess you dont like to hear the truth about > how awful it is. > — > Kari and Justin > http://members.xoom.com/jstkaylie

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To all you who think Circ discussions are irrelevant to this and other parenting newsgroups are crazy — there are many paretns out there who have questions about intact sons.  Don’t discriminate against them — it seems like some of you who are complaining about circ posts are the ones who are cutting your little boys.   I guess you dont like to hear the truth about how awful it is. — Kari and Justin http://members.xoom.com/jstkaylie

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I DO post there too — but my point is, Im a parent and sometimes its nice to hear from other parents of intact sons.  Most of the people who post on that newsgroup are single men arguing over a foreskin.

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> To all you who think Circ discussions are irrelevant to this and other > parenting newsgroups are crazy — there are many paretns out there who have > questions about intact sons. > There’s a newsgroup for them too.  It’s called alt.circ.  See you there! > …well, maybe not. > — Jack Tarkaan                                      Kalamazoo, Michigan > — NO UNSOLICITED E-MAIL AT THIS ADDRESS – Respect privacy – NO SPAM!!!!

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>To all you who think Circ discussions are irrelevant to this and other >parenting newsgroups are crazy — there are many paretns out there who have >questions about intact sons.  Don’t discriminate against them — it seems >like some of you who are complaining about circ posts are the ones who are >cutting your little boys.   I guess you dont like to hear the truth about >how awful it is.

I guess she can’t except the fact that America is a democracy, in which parents are the legal medical guardians of their children.

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writes: >Hey, I just discovered how to filter my newsreader.   Wow, what a >difference.   God bless killfiles! >Norma

Cool!  Now that you’ve discovered it – could you explain it to me??? JMHO Sam (White Storm Cloud) "Who knows where thoughts come from – they just appear." – Lucas, Empire Records

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > :writes: > : > :> > :>Man, you are good, Sam!!  LOL!!  :-) > :> > :>Norma > :>bowing from the waist > :> > :> > : > :Thank you  :) > : > :JMHO > :Sam (White Storm Cloud) > : > :"Who knows where thoughts come from – > :they just appear." > :- Lucas, Empire Records > : > Hey, I just discovered how to filter my newsreader.   Wow, what a > difference.   God bless killfiles! > Norma

You inspired me to try to figure out how to do the same and I’ve just discovered the Ignore Thread button.  Fantastic! Leonie.

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > :> I am disgusted by the off topics overrunning this NG and the rude > behaviour > :> of the posters (ie, swearing, namecalling, personal attacks, etc.) that > I > :> will be back when parents are posting useful parenting solutions and all > :> the rabble has departed.   Hope this NG finds it’s way home. > :> > :> Norma > : > :you’re not here to read this so why post it ?? > : > :because others might !! > : > :if you don’t like the "’off topics" and the rude behavior then don’t > :participate in those threads.  click them ‘read’ and move on.  would you > :abandon the neighborhood park in thugs moved in and tried to take it over > ?? > :i hope not !! > : > :the way you ‘fight back’ in a NG is not to run away and hide.  the way to > :’fight back’ is to _stay_ and contribute _on-topic_ ideas and ignore > :"the rabble". > : > :hope we see you back. > :i have looked for your ID and make a point of reading your posts. > : > :       sleeper > : > Hi, > Back with a vengence :-) > I logged on after two days only to find this NG overrun with hundreds of > those posts, you know which ones.   Guess I just got irked, I’m over it now > :-) > Norma

Welcome back. Leonie.

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I’m using an offline reader that is wonderful.  I really don’t need to read my mail offline, but the features in this one are so good that I use it switched to it anyway.  Although I doubt many people in here can use it since it is for the Macintosh, if interested, it’s called MacSoup. One of my favorite features is one where I can "auto-kill thread."  If I stumble across a thread I don’t care much about, I invoke the auto-kill and all messages (both received and new ones not yet received) for that thread are automatically killed.  It’s an extremely handy feature.  Just press command-minus while reading the message, and that thread is now filtered. Other newsreaders have other specialized features.  If anyone’s using a newsreader that doesn’t have filters, it’s easy enough to download some and find one that does have filters.  It’s really worth the extra effort. Take Care! Vicki Surratt Proud Mom of Kathy (6) and Jenny (9)! :-) Visit my new website!  http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Oaks/9003/ – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > Depends on which news reader you use.  I have Outlook Express.  With that > you click on Tools up at the top.  It will show a list of things.  Go down > to Newsgroup Filters.  Then click Add.  It will pop up a box that says > Properties. Inside the box it says "Where to filter"  That allows you to > choose which NG’s the filter applies to.  Then it says "Do not show messages > that meet the following criteria:"  And you can choose either a person it is > from (like M. Hickey) or words in the subject line.  You can also tell it > not to show messages more than a certain number of days old.  Whatever you > tell it then POOF, they all go far far away. > I hope that helps.  If you have different software, I am sure someone else > can tell you how to make yours work.  If you don’t have OE, post back with > what kind you do have. > Sharon

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>How do you do it? >Cally

Depends on which news reader you use.  I have Outlook Express.  With that you click on Tools up at the top.  It will show a list of things.  Go down to Newsgroup Filters.  Then click Add.  It will pop up a box that says Properties. Inside the box it says "Where to filter"  That allows you to choose which NG’s the filter applies to.  Then it says "Do not show messages that meet the following criteria:"  And you can choose either a person it is from (like M. Hickey) or words in the subject line.  You can also tell it not to show messages more than a certain number of days old.  Whatever you tell it then POOF, they all go far far away. I hope that helps.  If you have different software, I am sure someone else can tell you how to make yours work.  If you don’t have OE, post back with what kind you do have. Sharon

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> Hey, I just discovered how to filter my newsreader.   Wow, what a > difference.   God bless killfiles!

*NOW* you’re cooking!  I just downloaded my packet since this morning. I was told there were 212 messages.  By the time my filters were done with it, I was down to 68.  I filter out certain people and certain headers.  I also filter out just about anything that is cross posted.  I find those threads usually get out of hand very quickly and are of little interest to me.   You really can’t survive in an ng without filters! Take Care! Vicki Surratt Proud Mom of Kathy (6) and Jenny (9)! :-) Visit my new website!  http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Oaks/9003/

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Oh, hey, listen  you can argue with them if you want, heck I even had a go with that Mother Whoever once.   I just discovered my newsreader filter and things are ever so much calmer.   Have you tried it?   Wonderful invention that. Norma

:Norma, :I apoligize for engaging in combat with some of the people involved in the off :topic posts.  Actually, one of them started out as a fairly legitimate :parenting question and it degraded just because one person didn’t agree with :something that was said.  I guess that not everyone is open-minded like the :rest of us try to be.  For the most part, I try to ignore them because they :usually really get under my skin.  I will try to behave myself better in the :future.  Please don’t go. :Georga :

: :> I am disgusted by the off topics overrunning this NG and the rude behaviour :> of the posters (ie, swearing, namecalling, personal attacks, etc.) that I :> will be back when parents are posting useful parenting solutions and all :> the rabble has departed.   Hope this NG finds it’s way home. :> :> Norma : : :

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Here here!!!!!!! Nancy  

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>Hi, >Back with a vengence :-) >I logged on after two days only to find this NG overrun with hundreds of >those posts, you know which ones.   Guess I just got irked, I’m over it now >:-) >Norma

Glad you’re back Norma.  And just remember the majority of "those" posts are no longer a true discussion.  They are just being posted now to irk all of us.  Mark them as read and ignore them.  They will go away soon enough. Most of them are posted to lots of different NGs.  You have been around long enough to know that is a sure sign of someone just trying to stir up trouble.  Have a bowl of "comfort" ice cream, go on I give you permission. :-}  That will help you just be a little ducky and let it all roll off your back. My best, Sharon

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:writes: : :> :>Man, you are good, Sam!!  LOL!!  :-) :> :>Norma :>bowing from the waist :> :> : :Thank you  :) : :JMHO :Sam (White Storm Cloud) : :"Who knows where thoughts come from – :they just appear." :- Lucas, Empire Records : Hey, I just discovered how to filter my newsreader.   Wow, what a difference.   God bless killfiles! Norma

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How do you do it? Cally – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > :writes: > : > :> > :>Man, you are good, Sam!!  LOL!!  :-) > :> > :>Norma > :>bowing from the waist > :> > :> > : > :Thank you  :) > : > :JMHO > :Sam (White Storm Cloud) > : > :"Who knows where thoughts come from – > :they just appear." > :- Lucas, Empire Records > : > Hey, I just discovered how to filter my newsreader.   Wow, what a > difference.   God bless killfiles! > Norma

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writes: >Man, you are good, Sam!!  LOL!!  :-) >Norma >bowing from the waist

Thank you  :) JMHO Sam (White Storm Cloud) "Who knows where thoughts come from – they just appear." – Lucas, Empire Records

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Norma, I apoligize for engaging in combat with some of the people involved in the off topic posts.  Actually, one of them started out as a fairly legitimate parenting question and it degraded just because one person didn’t agree with something that was said.  I guess that not everyone is open-minded like the rest of us try to be.  For the most part, I try to ignore them because they usually really get under my skin.  I will try to behave myself better in the future.  Please don’t go. Georga – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > I am disgusted by the off topics overrunning this NG and the rude behaviour > of the posters (ie, swearing, namecalling, personal attacks, etc.) that I > will be back when parents are posting useful parenting solutions and all > the rabble has departed.   Hope this NG finds it’s way home. > Norma

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:And here – I’ll do my part – here’s an issue  (concerning :parenting) that I need help with.  Storm is really gassy lately (she has :thrush, and is being given drops for it, and her doctor says that is probably :what’s making her so gassy because it may have gotten into her intestines). :What can I do to relieve her pain from the gas???  I’ve tried that mylicon :stuff, I always make sure she burps after eating – I roll her legs around and :do the bycicle thing too to help her work out the gas.  nothing works!!! Help! : : : :JMHO :Sam (White Storm Cloud) : :"Who knows where thoughts come from – :they just appear." :- Lucas, Empire Records : Well, my second baby was really gassy too.  I did the bicycle legs thing, the patting on the back while he layed across my legs on his tummy thing, etc.   I just had to muddle through, it was no fun though.  Hopefully it will apss soon, good luck!! Norma

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:writes: : :> :>I am disgusted by the off topics overrunning this NG and the rude behaviour :>of the posters (ie, swearing, namecalling, personal attacks, etc.) that I :>will be back when parents are posting useful parenting solutions and all :>the rabble has departed.   Hope this NG finds it’s way home. :> :>Norma : :by the way :i could not possibly imagine this group without your insights as a part of :it!!!!  :) : :JMHO :Sam (White Storm Cloud) : :"Who knows where thoughts come from – :they just appear." :- Lucas, Empire Records : Man, you are good, Sam!!  LOL!!  :-) Norma bowing from the waist

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:> I am disgusted by the off topics overrunning this NG and the rude behaviour :> of the posters (ie, swearing, namecalling, personal attacks, etc.) that I :> will be back when parents are posting useful parenting solutions and all :> the rabble has departed.   Hope this NG finds it’s way home. :> :> Norma : :you’re not here to read this so why post it ?? : :because others might !! : :if you don’t like the "’off topics" and the rude behavior then don’t :participate in those threads.  click them ‘read’ and move on.  would you :abandon the neighborhood park in thugs moved in and tried to take it over ?? :i hope not !! : :the way you ‘fight back’ in a NG is not to run away and hide.  the way to :’fight back’ is to _stay_ and contribute _on-topic_ ideas and ignore :"the rabble". : :hope we see you back. :i have looked for your ID and make a point of reading your posts. : :       sleeper : Hi, Back with a vengence :-) I logged on after two days only to find this NG overrun with hundreds of those posts, you know which ones.   Guess I just got irked, I’m over it now :-) Norma

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writes: >I am disgusted by the off topics overrunning this NG and the rude behaviour >of the posters (ie, swearing, namecalling, personal attacks, etc.) that I >will be back when parents are posting useful parenting solutions and all >the rabble has departed.   Hope this NG finds it’s way home. >Norma

norma – I’m disappointed! there are parenting discussions going on – what about the bath thread or the getting babies to sleep thread or the 6 mo old fights at feeding time thread?  you of all people should know that you just have to ignore the other stuff – i can’t remember how many times you’ve told me parenting) that I need help with.  Storm is really gassy lately (she has thrush, and is being given drops for it, and her doctor says that is probably what’s making her so gassy because it may have gotten into her intestines). What can I do to relieve her pain from the gas???  I’ve tried that mylicon stuff, I always make sure she burps after eating – I roll her legs around and do the bycicle thing too to help her work out the gas.  nothing works!!!  Help! JMHO Sam (White Storm Cloud) "Who knows where thoughts come from – they just appear." – Lucas, Empire Records

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writes: >I am disgusted by the off topics overrunning this NG and the rude behaviour >of the posters (ie, swearing, namecalling, personal attacks, etc.) that I >will be back when parents are posting useful parenting solutions and all >the rabble has departed.   Hope this NG finds it’s way home. >Norma

by the way i could not possibly imagine this group without your insights as a part of it!!!!  :) JMHO Sam (White Storm Cloud) "Who knows where thoughts come from – they just appear." – Lucas, Empire Records

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Norma, I wish you’d stay. I think you’re smart and love reading your advice. Marie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >I am disgusted by the off topics overrunning this NG and the rude behaviour >of the posters (ie, swearing, namecalling, personal attacks, etc.) that I >will be back when parents are posting useful parenting solutions and all >the rabble has departed.   Hope this NG finds it’s way home. >Norma

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I am disgusted by the off topics overrunning this NG and the rude behaviour of the posters (ie, swearing, namecalling, personal attacks, etc.) that I will be back when parents are posting useful parenting solutions and all the rabble has departed.   Hope this NG finds it’s way home. Norma

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> I am disgusted by the off topics overrunning this NG and the rude behaviour > of the posters (ie, swearing, namecalling, personal attacks, etc.) that I > will be back when parents are posting useful parenting solutions and all > the rabble has departed.   Hope this NG finds it’s way home. > Norma

you’re not here to read this so why post it ?? because others might !! if you don’t like the "’off topics" and the rude behavior then don’t participate in those threads.  click them ‘read’ and move on.  would you abandon the neighborhood park in thugs moved in and tried to take it over ?? i hope not !! the way you ‘fight back’ in a NG is not to run away and hide.  the way to ‘fight back’ is to _stay_ and contribute _on-topic_ ideas and ignore "the rabble". hope we see you back. i have looked for your ID and make a point of reading your posts.        sleeper

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>Well, not trying to "dis" him, but he sure never has anything to say about >"parenting solutions" so it would seem to me he is just trying to flame >people in an outright trolliness–even if he is a so-called good troll.

Troll Patrol perhaps?  :-} Kandle – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Erikc is NOT a troll.  Please do not lump him in the sleazy category of >troll > Laura > —  sleep. glorious heavenly sleep

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;I tend to think of Erick as an "anti-troll."  He doesn’t chime in on much of ;anything else.  But let a troll rear it’s ugly head and here he comes just ;like Mighty Mouse to save the day.  :-} Plus, he’s a rather silly git himself… =) Mise le meas, | Darryl L. Pierce Alt.Atheism Member #1142, Death ‘Piper of the BAAWA   | |  Visit me @ http://www.geocities.com/ResearchTriangle/Thinktank/1335/  | |            …I never drew first, but I drew first blood…            | |   Unsolicited email to this address is acceptance of a $500 per day    | | storage expense to be paid within 30 days of the sending of the email. |

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Erikc is NOT a troll.  Please do not lump him in the sleazy category of troll Laura —  sleep. glorious heavenly sleep

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Well, not trying to "dis" him, but he sure never has anything to say about "parenting solutions" so it would seem to me he is just trying to flame people in an outright trolliness–even if he is a so-called good troll.

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Erikc is NOT a troll.  Please do not lump him in the sleazy category of troll > Laura > —  sleep. glorious heavenly sleep

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> Well, not trying to "dis" him, but he sure never has anything to say about > "parenting solutions" so it would seem to me he is just trying to flame > people in an outright trolliness–even if he is a so-called good troll.

Erick isn’t a troll…..he’s here because Mother Eulalia spent some irritating time over on alt.atheism (not Erick’s signature line).  He hasn’t flamed anybody here but Max (or one of his personalities)……and Max deserves it. Hey Erick…..from #1399!! -Treelo – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Erikc is NOT a troll.  Please do not lump him in the sleazy category of > troll > Laura > —  sleep. glorious heavenly sleep

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>> Well, not trying to "dis" him, but he sure never has anything to say about > "parenting solutions" so it would seem to me he is just trying to flame > people in an outright trolliness–even if he is a so-called good troll. >Erick isn’t a troll…..he’s here because Mother Eulalia spent some irritating >time over on alt.atheism (not Erick’s signature line).  He hasn’t flamed >anybody here but Max (or one of his personalities)……and Max deserves it.

I tend to think of Erick as an "anti-troll."  He doesn’t chime in on much of anything else.  But let a troll rear it’s ugly head and here he comes just like Mighty Mouse to save the day.  :-} Sharon

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I agree with the both of you I enjoy Erick’s posts to mulitpersonality Max…every now and then I will post something to Mother Hickey Mother Eulalia or whoeverMax is that day

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>I tend to think of Erick as an "anti-troll."  He doesn’t chime in on much of >anything else.  But let a troll rear it’s ugly head and here he comes just >like Mighty Mouse to save the day.  :-}

Sorta like the ng "bouncer".   ;-) Kendra *Proud to be Outlandish!* http://www.geocities.com/heartland/lane/6516 — Visit my pages of SnowGlobes! http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Lane/6516/snowglobes.htm

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A very good friend of mine in high school had a copy of the Anarchists Cookbook.  To this day I have no idea why or what he ever did with it.  Then again, he was just a little weird.  Last I heard he joined the Army….Maybe he went into munitions. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > x-no-archive: yes > A molotov cocktail takes 4 ingredients found in almost every home.  I forget > which uncle showed me how to make one. > snip >:I also know that in Canada it is pretty easy to get your hands on a gun if >:you want one. whether they be legal or illegal. and as far as pipe bombs >go >:if you have access to the Internet you to can learn to make one from >:ordinary household materials. >I have heard this.  What kind of "ordinary household materials" do they >assume you have in your home???   The worst stuff in my home is Clorox >bleach, used in the laundry.    I do not even have a piece of pipe to build >a bomb in.   What are they talking about I wonder? > snip

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>Hi Kerry, here’s my two cents worth:  guns have no place in a house where >kids are.

If a gun is kept locked in a safe, there is virtually no danger. >:As far as kids getting there hands on guns go up here in hillbilly land is >:quite easy. I have guns in my house that are not loaded and locked away >not >:to mention that they have trigger locks as well. >To me this is like having a pit bull trained to rip out any throat in >range, but outfitted with a good muzzle.   What if something happens?  What >if the muzzle gets taken off by some curious kid?   This is a dangerous >thing waiting to happen.

Only if the kids know the combination to the safe where the guns are locked up. >Do not have any guns anywhere near kids, that is how to protect them.

Or, be responsible and have them locked away at all times. >Kids are beyond curious, and will do the darndest things when they think >they can get away with it.

There is no way my son will ever be able to get into the safe where our gun is. >:Guns are a must in my house do to the extreme wildlife in our area. >How about a high fence?

I can’t speak for Kerry-Lynn as it sounds like she lives in a much more remote place than I do….. but do you know the damage a bear can do to a mere fence? And it would have to be pretty high to keep mountain lions out. >we have no close neighbors to call if we need help. It takes 10 mins to >get >:to our house from the main road >How about a cellular phone?

Where I live, cell phones don’t work much.  Too many mountains, and trees.  Not all places have the necessary antennaes. Kendra *Proud to be Outlandish!* http://www.geocities.com/heartland/lane/6516 — Visit my pages of SnowGlobes! http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Lane/6516/snowglobes.htm

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > Cally, >   I recently posted on another NG about the declining morals in our society > and I was pretty much poo-pooed.  I was told that society was just fine and > that i shouldn’t worry about it.  Our society is not just fine if something > like this is happening.  We need to realize the trouble that we are really in > and do something about it.  Get back to fidelity in marriages, and teaching > our children right from wrong.  Teach them that guns and killing are not the > answer.  Teach them the old fashoined values that our parents were raised on. > I don’t remember this kind of thing happening in the 50’s.  Yes technology is > wonderful and lifestyles may be better now but why abandon the "old fashioned > values"  now?  Why is it that having values should be called old fashioned? > Get yourselves and your childern back to church, no matter what your religion > is.  Live by Gods rules and take the commandments seriously, they were not > meant as suggestions. >   We are all in deep trouble whether we want to admit it or not.  We all need > to take a serious look at our lives and want to change the way we are living. > If we wait for the next person to do it it will never happen.  A society’s > value system is based on what the people view as allowable behaviors.  Stop > looking the other way and not wanting to get involved. Doing nothing and > allowing this to go on is enabling this type of behavior.  We need to stand > up and say enough is enough.  How many more children have to die before we > get it? >     We are all responsible for this tragedy by letting our lifestyles get to > the point that they are.  When Jerry Springer is the #1 rated daytime show, > something is wrong.  I for one have had it.  Have you?  What will it take > before we all say enough is enough? > Sapphire7

Excellent observations, Sapphire. You are 100% correct.  The main difference between schools of the 1950s and today’s schools is feminism–Christian principles controlled children’s behavior then, feminist "principles" confuse children’s behavior today. What did we EXPECT would happen to our schools if school prayer is banned and "adultery" becomes a "woman’s right"? The link is simple.  Why can’t the mediots ever connect the dots? http://fathers.ourfamily.com/feminism.htm John Knight

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Norma, You are entitled to your opinion and respected for it but if my kids can open a combination lock with out knowing the numbers than they are pretty talented. Not only are they locked in a gun safe they are also key locked . You made reference to my having a cell phone…… it would make no difference what I was saying is if a bear came at my children for example It would take anybody over 25mins to get to my driveway let alone my house. As far as a high fence goes that all sounds pretty easy on paper or in the mind but to actually put a high enough fence up on my property to keep out a majority of the wildlife is not possible unless of course I used the same type of fencing they have at zoo’s but in my opinion it would be a lot easier for my kids to get electrocuted that way far easier than getting there hands on the guns in my house. I live in a very rural area  guess that I could move to a city so that I have to worry about my kids playing out side and some one snatching them or worrying about them getting hit by cars ect. We enjoy where we live we enjoy our gardens and we enjoy the wild life . this is our life and we like it as I am sure that every one else enjoys there homes in there locations. Yes I still must worry about my kids but not like I would if we lived in town. There is always answers that sound good to people who are not in a situation remotely close to the one in which they are giving the advice Kerry-Lynn mom2 Noah & aunt to Madison

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:Cally, : :  I recently posted on another NG about the declining morals in our society :and I was pretty much poo-pooed.  I was told that society was just fine and :that i shouldn’t worry about it.  Our society is not just fine if something :like this is happening.  We need to realize the trouble that we are really in :and do something about it.  Get back to fidelity in marriages, and teaching :o ur children right from wrong. Teach them that guns and killing are not the :answer.  Teach them the old fashoined values that our parents were raised on. :I don’t remember this kind of thing happening in the 50’s.  Yes technology is :wonderful and lifestyles may be better now but why abandon the "old fashioned :values"  now?  Why is it that having values should be called old fashioned? :Get yourselves and your childern back to church, no matter what your religion :is.  Live by Gods rules and take the commandments seriously, they were not :meant as suggestions. : :  We are all in deep trouble whether we want to admit it or not.  We all need :to take a serious look at our lives and want to change the way we are living. :If we wait for the next person to do it it will never happen.  A society’s :value system is based on what the people view as allowable behaviors. Stop :looking the other way and not wanting to get involved. Doing nothing and :allowing this to go on is enabling this type of behavior.  We need to stand :up and say enough is enough.  How many more children have to die before we :get it? : : :    We are all responsible for this tragedy by letting our lifestyles get to :the point that they are.  When Jerry Springer is the #1 rated daytime show, :something is wrong.  I for one have had it.  Have you?  What will it take :before we all say enough is enough? : : :> My god another school shooting. What is the world coming to? :> Can you imagine sending your child to school and never seeing them :> again? (not that any of the victims have died yet) One girl was shot 9 :> times in the chest!! How am I supposed to explain to my child that she :> is safe at school when she might not be? :> So many questions , so few answers :> Cally :> :– :Sapphire7 : :Serious error. :All shortcuts have disappeared. :Screen.  Mind.  Both are blank. :

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Hi Kerry, here’s my two cents worth:  guns have no place in a house where kids are.

:As far as kids getting there hands on guns go up here in hillbilly land is :quite easy. I have guns in my house that are not loaded and locked away not :to mention that they have trigger locks as well. To me this is like having a pit bull trained to rip out any throat in range, but outfitted with a good muzzle.   What if something happens?  What if the muzzle gets taken off by some curious kid?   This is a dangerous thing waiting to happen. :Growing up here my father had guns all over the house and always loaded. :I know that there are more gun laws now than when I was a kid but some :parents do not take the precautions that they should. :There was a little 4yr old(I think) girl a few weeks ago in Buffalo that :found her step dads gun and shot her self. all because he left the gun :loaded and not locked away. :I know the dangers of having guns in a house with small children but I also :know :how to protect my children from hurting themselves and others with them Do not have any guns anywhere near kids, that is how to protect them. Kids are beyond curious, and will do the darndest things when they think they can get away with it.   Things you would be aghast at.    (I caught my darling seven y o daughter, whom I thought was completely trustworthy, trying to smuggle sweets I expressly told her she couldn’t have into a secluded spot so she could eat them) :Guns are a must in my house do to the extreme wildlife in our area. How about a high fence? :we have no close neighbors to call if we need help. It takes 10 mins to get :to our house from the main road. How about a cellular phone? :My children however will not be introduced to guns until much later in life :and even then they will not own a gun while living in my home. I am very glad for this, I certainly hope they never try to get at them earlier. :P eople in my area are not so cautious they take there 12 yr olds hunting and :buy them there own guns for birthdays. I am against this and will fight to :get the hunting age limit raised to a more appropriate age. Good for you. :I also know that in Canada it is pretty easy to get your hands on a gun if :you want one. whether they be legal or illegal. and as far as pipe bombs go :if you have access to the Internet you to can learn to make one from :o rdinary household materials. I have heard this.  What kind of "ordinary household materials" do they assume you have in your home???   The worst stuff in my home is Clorox bleach, used in the laundry.    I do not even have a piece of pipe to build a bomb in.   What are they talking about I wonder? :I think that the most important thing to teach parents is that our kids are :not perfect and sometimes they do need help. I am sure these kids parents :thought that there kids were just like every one else’s there are signs to :look for in our kids and we must recognize them and give our kids the time :with us they deserve. Yes, I agree parents need to be much more on top of things, and stricter. I just disagree with you on the gun issue. Norma :Just my 2 cents worth :Kerry-Lynn :Mom 2 Noah & aunt 2 Madison : : :

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > Kathleen, >     I think that you are absolutely correct.  Everything starts at home.  We > always have told our son those exact words.  "We are the boss, you are the > little boy." >   Also, there is something wrong when boys of that age can get their hands on > that kind of firepower.  I am not ashamed to say that my son is 8 years old > and I know everything that he has in his room.     I go in there and I know what > is going on.  I am not worried about his privacy,  it is my house and I have > every right to know what he is doing.  Maybe if those parents did the same > this never would have happened.  Freehanded internet access is also not good. >  These boys apparently had their own hate webpage and went on the web to find > out how to make bombs.     When my son is online (which is rare)  I am right > there with him to help and guide him.  There is all kinds of crap out there > that he doesn’t need to see.  I know that I have accidentaly pulled up porn > pages myself by punching up the wrong address.     He could just as easily. > Sapphire7

The problem in many households is the lack of a father.  The odds are very good that this is the situation in Littleton, considering that this was the problem with the following "famous" Americans: What do the following infamous Americans have in common? " 1. Sirhan Sirhan, assassin of Robert Kennedy" "2. Richard Lawrence, attempted assassin of Andrew Jackson" "3. Charles Guiteau, assassin of James Garfield" "4. Leon Czolgosz, assassin of William McKinley" "5. John Schrank, attempted assassin of Theodore Roosevelt" "6. Giuseppe Zangara, attempted assassin of Franklin Roosevelt" "7. Dean Corll, the Houston mass-murderer" "8. John Wilkes Booth, assassin of Abraham Lincoln" "9. Lee Harvey Oswald, assassin of John Kennedy" "10. James Earl Ray, assassin of Martin Luther King" "11. Charles Manson, triple murderer of Sharon Tate, et al" "12. Andreas Baader, mass murderer" "13. Lynette Fromme, attempted assassin of Gerald Ford" "14. Marc Lepine, mass murderer" "15. Mitchell Johnson, 13 year old youth, shot 4 students and a teacher." "16. Aileen Wuornos, serial killer" "17. Dorothea Puente, serial killer." "18. Marybeth Tinning, serial killer." 19. fourteen female serial murderesses in Heide and Keeney’s study. "20. Jane Toppan, nurse who killed up to 100 patients." "21. Orenthal James Simpson, fatherless, ""Fatherless America"", pg. 38." 22. William Jefferson Clinton [list too long to post here]. "23. Jesse James, bank robbery, train robbery, and murder." "24. Frank James, bank robbery, train robbery, and murder." "25. Henry McCarty, aka Billy the Kid, 20 murders." "26. Ted Bundy, murdered, mutilated 30-40 young women." "27. Mary Flora Bell, mass murderer in Britain" "28. Dennis Nilsen, ""Britain’s Jeffrey Dahmer""" "29. Luke Woodham, Pearl, Mississippi, killed 3 in school shooting" "30. Jeremy Delle, Richardson, Texas, blew his brains out in front of teacher" John Knight

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> My take?  Kids in America are becoming increasingly schizophrenic because of > the inconsistent messages with which they’re constantly being bombarded.  On > the one hand, parents and some groups (e.g.,  many churches) stress the > necessity of *personal* responsibility; on the other, groups such as the > federal government emit the message that "they" will take of you and your > needs.  Add to the latter a creeping (&, IMO, creepy) attitude, often fostered > by our public schools, that "everyone’s feelings are okay, everyone’s views are > valid, let’s not critique anyone’s opinion lest we maim his/her self-esteem," > and it’s little wonder kids are confused.  Maybe this confusion leads to anger, > and maybe some kids try deal with it by acting out.  One thing of which I’m > sure:  A person intent on wreaking mayhem will find a way to do so; no laws > (e.g., gun control, metal detectors) can or will prevent him/her.  Where > there’s a will, there’s a way. > JG

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As far as kids getting there hands on guns go up here in hillbilly land is quite easy. I have guns in my house that are not loaded and locked away not to mention that they have trigger locks as well. Growing up here my father had guns all over the house and always loaded. I know that there are more gun laws now than when I was a kid but some parents do not take the precautions that they should. There was a little 4yr old(I think) girl a few weeks ago in Buffalo that found her step dads gun and shot her self. all because he left the gun loaded and not locked away. I know the dangers of having guns in a house with small children but I also know how to protect my children from hurting themselves and others with them Guns are a must in my house do to the extreme wildlife in our area. we have no close neighbors to call if we need help. It takes 10 mins to get to our house from the main road. My children however will not be introduced to guns until much later in life and even then they will not own a gun while living in my home. People in my area are not so cautious they take there 12 yr olds hunting and buy them there own guns for birthdays. I am against this and will fight to get the hunting age limit raised to a more appropriate age. I also know that in Canada it is pretty easy to get your hands on a gun if you want one. whether they be legal or illegal. and as far as pipe bombs go if you have access to the Internet you to can learn to make one from ordinary household materials. I think that the most important thing to teach parents is that our kids are not perfect and sometimes they do need help. I am sure these kids parents thought that there kids were just like every one else’s there are signs to look for in our kids and we must recognize them and give our kids the time with us they deserve. Just my 2 cents worth Kerry-Lynn Mom 2 Noah & aunt 2 Madison

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > wisdom, writ: >>Littleton is a nice surburb.  Like many others.  Just unfortunate enough to >>have those misguided killers on the loose.  Luck of the draw…could have >>been anyschool, anytown usa.  *sigh* >>>My god another school shooting. What is the world coming to? >I’m angry about this – you know, its not happening in *the World* – it’s >actually happening in the U.S about 99% of the time ( the only exception I >can remember is Dublane, Scotland – and that was done by an Adult, wasn’t >it?) >What I want to know is:  What the hell is going on in the USA that is >causing the  killing of kids by other kids??? >It honestly does NOT happen here in NZ, nor to my knowledge in any other >country in the world. >I’d like to know WHAT you all, as parents, are doing about this – or what >you are MAKING your government do about it  - home schooling is not going to >make the problem go away, and nor is calling a suburb "unfortunate" – WHY >are your (i.e. US) kids killing each other????? >PLEASE don’t dismiss this as anti-American or take it personally – its just >that I’m so very upset that in the last couple of years these ‘massacres’ >are happening there regularly – I just want to know WHY. >Anyone have any insight on this? >Margherita >BTW I think "Parenting Solutions" is an appropriate forum to talk about >this.

Dear Margherita, Everyone in the US DOES know what is wrong with our schools, but nobody wants to even consider the facts: 1) There are too few male teachers in US schools. 2) The breakdown of families caused by feminized education causes extreme distress in boys. This shooting is a mere sliver of insight into those truths, but ultimately we will understand that the reason no other country has such problems is because most boys are taught by mostly by men teachers in all other countries.  The percent of men teachers in New Zealand is lower than the international averate, but it is more than double the proportion of men teachers in the US. John Knight – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I think it’s a combination of issues. First, there is the ease with which > *anyone* can get their hands on guns. A good friend of mine committed > suicide five years ago with a shotgun he purchased at Wal-Mart. See, > there’s no waiting period to buy a shotgun. > Second, there is, in *my* opinion, a pervasive belief that parents should > be their childrens’ best friends, that parents should not exert authority > over children, that punishment is a bad thing. It’s *my* belief that > parents *cannot* be their childrens’ best friends and maintain the > authority that they *must* have to do their jobs properly. That’s not to > say that parents can’t communicate with their children, but ultimately, > the parent *must* be the boss. > It *is* our responsibility to teach our children right from wrong. Going > to extremes to allow our children to express each and every feeling any > way they want is just asking for trouble. It’s just my opinion, and I know > that I’ll get slammed for it, but I’m entitled to it. > Kathleen >    "If sense were common, more people would have it." > — Me > ICQ# – 33613577 > **Spam Trap** > Accentuate the Positive to send e-mail.

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Kathleen,     I think that you are absolutely correct.  Everything starts at home.  We always have told our son those exact words.  "We are the boss, you are the little boy."   Also, there is something wrong when boys of that age can get their hands on that kind of firepower.  I am not ashamed to say that my son is 8 years old and I know everything that he has in his room.  I go in there and I know what is going on.  I am not worried about his privacy,  it is my house and I have every right to know what he is doing.  Maybe if those parents did the same this never would have happened.  Freehanded internet access is also not good.  These boys apparently had their own hate webpage and went on the web to find out how to make bombs.  When my son is online (which is rare)  I am right there with him to help and guide him.  There is all kinds of crap out there that he doesn’t need to see.  I know that I have accidentaly pulled up porn pages myself by punching up the wrong address.  He could just as easily. Sapphire7 – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > wisdom, writ: >>Littleton is a nice surburb.  Like many others.  Just unfortunate enough to >>have those misguided killers on the loose.  Luck of the draw…could have >>been anyschool, anytown usa.  *sigh* >>>My god another school shooting. What is the world coming to? >I’m angry about this – you know, its not happening in *the World* – it’s >actually happening in the U.S about 99% of the time ( the only exception I >can remember is Dublane, Scotland – and that was done by an Adult, wasn’t >it?) >What I want to know is:  What the hell is going on in the USA that is >causing the  killing of kids by other kids??? >It honestly does NOT happen here in NZ, nor to my knowledge in any other >country in the world. >I’d like to know WHAT you all, as parents, are doing about this – or what >you are MAKING your government do about it  - home schooling is not going to >make the problem go away, and nor is calling a suburb "unfortunate" – WHY >are your (i.e. US) kids killing each other????? >PLEASE don’t dismiss this as anti-American or take it personally – its just >that I’m so very upset that in the last couple of years these ‘massacres’ >are happening there regularly – I just want to know WHY. >Anyone have any insight on this? >Margherita >BTW I think "Parenting Solutions" is an appropriate forum to talk about >this. > I think it’s a combination of issues. First, there is the ease with which > *anyone* can get their hands on guns. A good friend of mine committed > suicide five years ago with a shotgun he purchased at Wal-Mart. See, > there’s no waiting period to buy a shotgun. > Second, there is, in *my* opinion, a pervasive belief that parents should > be their childrens’ best friends, that parents should not exert authority > over children, that punishment is a bad thing. It’s *my* belief that > parents *cannot* be their childrens’ best friends and maintain the > authority that they *must* have to do their jobs properly. That’s not to > say that parents can’t communicate with their children, but ultimately, > the parent *must* be the boss. > It *is* our responsibility to teach our children right from wrong. Going > to extremes to allow our children to express each and every feeling any > way they want is just asking for trouble. It’s just my opinion, and I know > that I’ll get slammed for it, but I’m entitled to it. > Kathleen >    "If sense were common, more people would have it." > — Me > ICQ# – 33613577 > **Spam Trap** > Accentuate the Positive to send e-mail.

– Sapphire7 Serious error. All shortcuts have disappeared. Screen.  Mind.  Both are blank.

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As goes metal detectors in schools-  when I was a senior we had them put in. One of my classmates STILL managed to get a gun into our school…   I just wonder what are the parents doing or not doing.  I would hope that if my son (or daughter) showed any kind of hatred or seemed into making pipe bombs or figuring out ways to kill people that it would shoot off warning bells in me and I would do my darndest to do something Mel (mommy of Nathan Chad) http://www.angelfire.com/nh/FrogiElla/

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Kathleen- I totally agree.  When my son gets older (he’s just now 7 months) I don’t want to be his best friend.  I want to be his mother. I want to teach him right and wrong. WHat is and is not acceptable.  Yes, I woul dlike it very much for us to get along- but thi sdoes not mean that I give up my job as a parent/teacher to him. Mel (mommy of Nathan Chad) http://www.angelfire.com/nh/FrogiElla/

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My take?  Kids in America are becoming increasingly schizophrenic because of the inconsistent messages with which they’re constantly being bombarded.  On the one hand, parents and some groups (e.g.,  many churches) stress the necessity of *personal* responsibility; on the other, groups such as the federal government emit the message that "they" will take of you and your needs.  Add to the latter a creeping (&, IMO, creepy) attitude, often fostered by our public schools, that "everyone’s feelings are okay, everyone’s views are valid, let’s not critique anyone’s opinion lest we maim his/her self-esteem," and it’s little wonder kids are confused.  Maybe this confusion leads to anger, and maybe some kids try deal with it by acting out.  One thing of which I’m sure:  A person intent on wreaking mayhem will find a way to do so; no laws (e.g., gun control, metal detectors) can or will prevent him/her.  Where there’s a will, there’s a way. JG

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wisdom, writ: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->Littleton is a nice surburb.  Like many others.  Just unfortunate enough to >have those misguided killers on the loose.  Luck of the draw…could have >been anyschool, anytown usa.  *sigh* >>My god another school shooting. What is the world coming to? >I’m angry about this – you know, its not happening in *the World* – it’s >actually happening in the U.S about 99% of the time ( the only exception I >can remember is Dublane, Scotland – and that was done by an Adult, wasn’t >it?) >What I want to know is:  What the hell is going on in the USA that is >causing the  killing of kids by other kids??? >It honestly does NOT happen here in NZ, nor to my knowledge in any other >country in the world. >I’d like to know WHAT you all, as parents, are doing about this – or what >you are MAKING your government do about it  - home schooling is not going to >make the problem go away, and nor is calling a suburb "unfortunate" – WHY >are your (i.e. US) kids killing each other????? >PLEASE don’t dismiss this as anti-American or take it personally – its just >that I’m so very upset that in the last couple of years these ‘massacres’ >are happening there regularly – I just want to know WHY. >Anyone have any insight on this? >Margherita >BTW I think "Parenting Solutions" is an appropriate forum to talk about >this.

I think it’s a combination of issues. First, there is the ease with which *anyone* can get their hands on guns. A good friend of mine committed suicide five years ago with a shotgun he purchased at Wal-Mart. See, there’s no waiting period to buy a shotgun. Second, there is, in *my* opinion, a pervasive belief that parents should be their childrens’ best friends, that parents should not exert authority over children, that punishment is a bad thing. It’s *my* belief that parents *cannot* be their childrens’ best friends and maintain the authority that they *must* have to do their jobs properly. That’s not to say that parents can’t communicate with their children, but ultimately, the parent *must* be the boss. It *is* our responsibility to teach our children right from wrong. Going to extremes to allow our children to express each and every feeling any way they want is just asking for trouble. It’s just my opinion, and I know that I’ll get slammed for it, but I’m entitled to it. Kathleen    "If sense were common, more people would have it." — Me ICQ# – 33613577 **Spam Trap** Accentuate the Positive to send e-mail.

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Cally,   I recently posted on another NG about the declining morals in our society and I was pretty much poo-pooed.  I was told that society was just fine and that i shouldn’t worry about it.  Our society is not just fine if something like this is happening.  We need to realize the trouble that we are really in and do something about it.  Get back to fidelity in marriages, and teaching our children right from wrong.  Teach them that guns and killing are not the answer.  Teach them the old fashoined values that our parents were raised on. I don’t remember this kind of thing happening in the 50’s.  Yes technology is wonderful and lifestyles may be better now but why abandon the "old fashioned values"  now?  Why is it that having values should be called old fashioned? Get yourselves and your childern back to church, no matter what your religion is.  Live by Gods rules and take the commandments seriously, they were not meant as suggestions.   We are all in deep trouble whether we want to admit it or not.  We all need to take a serious look at our lives and want to change the way we are living. If we wait for the next person to do it it will never happen.  A society’s value system is based on what the people view as allowable behaviors.  Stop looking the other way and not wanting to get involved.  Doing nothing and allowing this to go on is enabling this type of behavior.  We need to stand up and say enough is enough.  How many more children have to die before we get it?     We are all responsible for this tragedy by letting our lifestyles get to the point that they are.  When Jerry Springer is the #1 rated daytime show, something is wrong.  I for one have had it.  Have you?  What will it take before we all say enough is enough? > My god another school shooting. What is the world coming to? > Can you imagine sending your child to school and never seeing them > again? (not that any of the victims have died yet) One girl was shot 9 > times in the chest!! How am I supposed to explain to my child that she > is safe at school when she might not be? > So many questions , so few answers > Cally

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When I tuned into the news this morning and saw this, I cried and prayed for those babies in the school and for their parents.  It really was too close for comfort knowing my own teens could have been the unlucky ones. Littleton is a nice surburb.  Like many others.  Just unfortunate enough to have those misguided killers on the loose.  Luck of the draw…could have been anyschool, anytown usa.  *sigh* Debbie C Mom to a herd – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >My god another school shooting. What is the world coming to? >Can you imagine sending your child to school and never seeing them >again? (not that any of the victims have died yet) One girl was shot 9 >times in the chest!! How am I supposed to explain to my child that she >is safe at school when she might not be? >So many questions , so few answers >Cally

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> I just heard this on the radio over here and had the same thoughts. It makes > you want to keep your kids with you all the time doesn’t it? I’ve also > realised what a small world we really live in when we can communicate like > this. > Beverley (Wales UK)

 But keeping your kids with you all the time doesn’t keep disaster away. What about the bomb that exploded in a south London market recently.

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I agree with you but at least you would know that you did what you could if your kids are with you when something happens. If they are in the care of someone else I would wonder if they had taken every possible precaution . Beverley

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>Littleton is a nice surburb.  Like many others.  Just unfortunate enough to >have those misguided killers on the loose.  Luck of the draw…could have >been anyschool, anytown usa.  *sigh* >My god another school shooting. What is the world coming to?

I’m angry about this – you know, its not happening in *the World* – it’s actually happening in the U.S about 99% of the time ( the only exception I can remember is Dublane, Scotland – and that was done by an Adult, wasn’t it?) What I want to know is:  What the hell is going on in the USA that is causing the  killing of kids by other kids??? It honestly does NOT happen here in NZ, nor to my knowledge in any other country in the world. I’d like to know WHAT you all, as parents, are doing about this – or what you are MAKING your government do about it  - home schooling is not going to make the problem go away, and nor is calling a suburb "unfortunate" – WHY are your (i.e. US) kids killing each other????? PLEASE don’t dismiss this as anti-American or take it personally – its just that I’m so very upset that in the last couple of years these ‘massacres’ are happening there regularly – I just want to know WHY. Anyone have any insight on this? Margherita BTW I think "Parenting Solutions" is an appropriate forum to talk about this.

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wisdom, writ: >I heard this morning that they can’t get any of the kids bodies out >because there are bombs in the school. A bomb went off last night at >11pm in the car that one of the killers drove to school yesterday. >Can you imagine being a parent of one of the kids in the school and not >know if your child is really dead or not? Can you imagine sending your >child to school and never see them again? I am so upset that I could be >sick. >Why aren’t there metal detectors in EVERY school? They have them in the >city schools. >Why is there so much hatred?

I don’t think a metal detector would make much of a difference. If these kids were that determined, they would have simply shot the security guards manning the metal detector. The *only* way to prevent this is to find a way to keep children from getting their hands on guns, period. Kathleen    "If sense were common, more people would have it." — Me ICQ# – 33613577 **Spam Trap** Accentuate the Positive to send e-mail.

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I heard this morning that they can’t get any of the kids bodies out because there are bombs in the school. A bomb went off last night at 11pm in the car that one of the killers drove to school yesterday. Can you imagine being a parent of one of the kids in the school and not know if your child is really dead or not? Can you imagine sending your child to school and never see them again? I am so upset that I could be sick. Why aren’t there metal detectors in EVERY school? They have them in the city schools. Why is there so much hatred?

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My god another school shooting. What is the world coming to? Can you imagine sending your child to school and never seeing them again? (not that any of the victims have died yet) One girl was shot 9 times in the chest!! How am I supposed to explain to my child that she is safe at school when she might not be? So many questions , so few answers Cally

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I just heard this on the radio over here and had the same thoughts. It makes you want to keep your kids with you all the time doesn’t it? I’ve also realised what a small world we really live in when we can communicate like this. Beverley (Wales UK)

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I know how you feel.  It makes me sick too.  We live just outside Louisville, KY.  And when the shooting happened last year at Heath High School, it was on the Louisville news non-stop.  I tried to keep it turned off as much as possible.  It was also in the newspaper from Louisville. Which my first grader reads in class every day.  She was very, very upset about the whole thing.  She asked me if it could happen at her school; what could be done to keep her safe; and lots of other very upsetting questions. The bad part is I didn’t really have any answers for her.  I told her that I didn’t think it would happen here.  But that there was something really wrong with that boy’s brain and there probably wasn’t a real reason why he did what he did.  I just wish they wouldn’t show it on the news non-stop like they do.  That is all they show when something like this happens.  It makes me sick to my stomach to see it at all, but then to have my daughter see/read it too!  I just don’t understand why more isn’t done to stop this from happening!  I am in agreement with whoever else asked why aren’t there more searches and metal detectors.  I don’t really care if my child has to walk through a metal detector or have her locker searched.  If it is going to keep her alive, that is all that matters to me. Everyone just say a prayer or think good thoughts for those poor families. Sharon – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >My god another school shooting. What is the world coming to? >Can you imagine sending your child to school and never seeing them >again? (not that any of the victims have died yet) One girl was shot 9 >times in the chest!! How am I supposed to explain to my child that she >is safe at school when she might not be? >So many questions , so few answers >Cally

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If your kids are like mine, they can consume about a half can of pop each but they never want the same flavor.   I bought some pop can lid deals at The Container Store that really work.  They are made of vinyl and they snap onto an opened can with some effort.  Once on they keep the fizz in for days.  They also keep bees out if you flip them over. They are tooled to fit the newer reduced diameter can lids and the larger style lids still found on some juice brands.  They don’t work on Budweiser but they fit some beer cans.   This is important to me because I think cans are the most ecological package for pop; all the aluminum is re-usable for another can.  This is NOT true for plastic soda bottles, which contain a certain percent virgin plastic.   – Ron Low Levity is the dearth of gravity.  Brevity is the height of clarity.   non-commercial e-mail always welcome Allow 2 days for replies

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I think those lids are pretty cool, too.  Pop cans are great and there are alot of charities etc. that want them.  Also, our Children’s Hospital dialysis unit collects the little pull tabs so we break them off and save them as well.  You just have to be a little careful as the garbage disposal doesn’t digest them real good. (my father dropped about 10 of them down it and then turned it on?!) Carol  …..whose Dad ain’t getting any younger. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > If your kids are like mine, they can consume about a half can of pop each but > they never want the same flavor. > I bought some pop can lid deals at The Container Store that really work.  They > are made of vinyl and they snap onto an opened can with some effort.  Once on > they keep the fizz in for days.  They also keep bees out if you flip them over. > They are tooled to fit the newer reduced diameter can lids and the larger style > lids still found on some juice brands.  They don’t work on Budweiser but they > fit some beer cans. > This is important to me because I think cans are the most ecological package > for pop; all the aluminum is re-usable for another can.  This is NOT true for > plastic soda bottles, which contain a certain percent virgin plastic. > – Ron Low > Levity is the dearth of gravity.  Brevity is the height of clarity. > non-commercial e-mail always welcome > Allow 2 days for replies

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I’m 43 and my daughter is 3.  In high school we used to giggle when our around, eh?  If I’m an "old fart" then my folks are really getting to be "older farts".  My dad is 9 years older than my mom and there is really a difference at this point.  I love them dearly and am very close to them – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > with… > <snip> > (my father dropped about 10 of them down it and then turned it on?!) > Carol  …..whose Dad ain’t getting any younger. > LOL. Parenting solutions frequently involve parents of parents.  My dad > cut my then 5 yo son’s finger nails one day, all the way to the quick. > Yikes!  My son is ten now and we get a good laugh about it when I remind > him his nails need trimming, e.g. "You need to get grandad to trim your > nails, they’re getting a little long" :)

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I am just looking for meals that dont take a long time to prepare(30 mins) but are still nutrional.  I dont get home until after 6pm and need to get the cooking done fast so I can get my children baths and get them in bed.  (My husband works nights so he isnt home to help).  Any suggestions.

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Just recently I found the Green Giant Create-A-Meal packages in the frozen food section.  I LOVE them! If you also purchase the pre-cooked chicken strips by Tyson (also new), all you have to do is thaw the chicken in the microwave a few minutes, toss them in a pan/wok and add the GG bag of veggies and flavoring. Cook about 10 minutes.   Throw together some rice or noodles and it makes a good meal for us. Good luck! Deana. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > I am just looking for meals that dont take a long time to prepare(30 > mins) but are still nutrional.  I dont get home until after 6pm and need > to get the cooking done fast so I can get my children baths and get them > in bed.  (My husband works nights so he isnt home to help).  Any > suggestions.

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How old is your child? Mine daughter is 22 months.  She loves pasta so I can make any kind of pasta plus whatever veggie she is eating that weak. Lorne D. Gilsig

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> I am just looking for meals that dont take a long time to > prepare(30 > mins) but are still nutrional.  I dont get home until after > 6pm and need > to get the cooking done fast so I can get my children baths > and get them > in bed.  (My husband works nights so he isnt home to help). > Any > suggestions.

   My favourite fast meals are made of fresh fish.  I drop by a store with a broad variety of fish on the way home, and I almost always end up with some filet of fish.  It is cooked/fried in less than 10 minutes, and boneless filet makes it easy to eat for my little girl.  I have two favourite recepies:  Put the fish in a frying pan, preferably teflon, and fry it slightly. Pour on some "fish and white wine-fond" (from a bottle I bought, Knorr I think) and some spoons of double sour cream.  Let it simmer under cover while you slice some vegetables thin. Carrots, squash and leak are our standard mix.  If you slice the carrots thin, they will be done in 10 minutes too.  Serve with rice or boiled potatoes.  (Small potatoes boil in 15 minutes!) The other one is based on fish soup, any pre-fabric will do. Make the soup, but reduce a little on the water.  Put in pieces of fish filet, vegetables cut in small pieces and at the ende a couple of spoons with sour cream (if you’re not avoiding calories).  This makes a delishious fish pot, and serves well with rice or potatoes.  I do the same with chicken soup, put in some chicken filet and vegetables.  Filet is a bit more expensive, but is so easy and quick to work with, and when you put it in a pot it serves more persons than if you serve it naturelle.  If it still is runny, thicken with some maizena flour. best wishes, Gunda

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>Or you can’t afford your current lifestyle if you stay home.

And you know my current lifestyle to be???  I would be more than happy if you could tell me how to put food on the table, make a car payment, make a house payment, pay for all of my daughter’s doctor visits and mine, gas for the car, etc. etc. and stay home.  If I could stay home I would.  I would love to be with my daughter every day all day.  But I find at this point I would much rather be able to feed and clothe her and have a roof over her head instead of staying home and living on welfare. >Well of course, that’s what really matters, isn’t it?  As long as the >working moms are happy!  Ever ask the kids what *they* want?  Perhaps >you are a bit narrow-minded in thinking that what *you* want is all >that counts.

For your information, I would be much happier if I could stay at home.  And, for your information we tried that route last summer.  And after three short months of attempting to be a stay at home Mom, we were in major debt.  I do what I feel is best for my daughter.  I don’t think declaring bankruptcy and losing our car, our house, etc. is what is best for my daughter.

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>> I dont get home until after 6pm and need >to get the cooking done fast so I can get my children baths and get them >in bed.   >This must be that "quality time" that working parents believe is a >suitable alternative to the "quantity" of time that we at-home parents >spend with our kids. >Jana (who sacrificed her career instead of her children)

I thought the purpose of this newsgroup was to support and encourage each other in this job called parenting.  Let’s not judge others who make different choices than we do.  We can’t know their particular circumstances. –Ivy

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->> I dont get home until after 6pm and need >>to get the cooking done fast so I can get my children baths and get them >>in bed.   >This must be that "quality time" that working parents believe is a >suitable alternative to the "quantity" of time that we at-home parents >spend with our kids. >Jana (who sacrificed her career instead of her children) >I thought the purpose of this newsgroup was to support and encourage each >other >in this job called parenting.  Let’s not judge others who make different >choices than we do.  We can’t know their particular circumstances. >–Ivy

Cheers, Ivy! I look to this newsgroup for support and suggestions in raising my kids, and most of the time I get great advice. It helps to get others opinions and know you’re circumstances are not that different from others. Let’s not bash each other because of a difference of opinion. BTW, I’ve been both a SAH and a WOH mom. Now I work parttime from the home so I have the best of both worlds.  Having been on both sides of the fence at some point I can tell you that my kids feel loved and cared for by me no matter WHAT job I had and WHERE.   I always made my kids feel loved and special when I worked outside of the home – Jana, who are you to make these judgements?

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Jana, THANK YOU! Jennifer (who also sacrificed my career instead of my kids)

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Jana, Jennifer, Do either of you have any quick recipes to share? Thanks, Angie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >Jana, THANK YOU! >Jennifer (who also sacrificed my career instead of my kids)

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My husband and I didn’t "decide" to have a child.  I was that lucky 1% that got pregnant while being on the pill (Desogen, to be exact) exactly one year after we got married.  Our plan was to wait until I could stay home, but unfortunately that did not happen.  Which is my point.  Sometimes things happen that are beyond your control, and you can’t have the luxury of staying home with your child.  You do the best you can.  That is all you can do.  I’m glad you are able to "think" all of your stuff through before you make any decisions.  We attempt to do the same, but stuff happens. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >Did you think any of this through BEFORE you decided to have a child? >Jana

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Jana, This initial post was about getting recipes for easy and quick meals.  You turn around and attack someone’s choice to be a working mom.  This group is called parenting solutions.  Maybe you ought to go elsewhere. Maddy – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > X-No-Archive: Yes >And you know my current lifestyle to be???  I would be more than happy if >you could tell me how to put food on the table, make a car payment, make a >house payment, pay for all of my daughter’s doctor visits and mine, gas for >the car, etc. etc. and stay home.  If I could stay home I would.  I would >love to be with my daughter every day all day.  But I find at this point I >would much rather be able to feed and clothe her and have a roof over her >head instead of staying home and living on welfare. > Did you think any of this through BEFORE you decided to have a child? > Jana

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>X-No-Archive: Yes >Did you think any of this through BEFORE you decided to have a child? >Jana

Oh right Jana – now only rich people should have babies? Get real. Anna

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> Jana, > This initial post was about getting recipes for easy and quick meals. > You turn > around and attack someone’s choice to be a working mom.  This group is > called > parenting solutions.  Maybe you ought to go elsewhere. > Maddy

Is choosing to stay home and raise your children on a full time basis not a parenting solution? Does discussion of this option not belong on a group called parenting solutions, especially when parents ask for ways to solve the problem of too much to do and too little time? If not, can you explain why not? marcie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> X-No-Archive: Yes > >And you know my current lifestyle to be???  I would be more than > happy if > >you could tell me how to put food on the table, make a car payment, > make a > >house payment, pay for all of my daughter’s doctor visits and mine, > gas for > >the car, etc. etc. and stay home.  If I could stay home I would.  I > would > >love to be with my daughter every day all day.  But I find at this > point I > >would much rather be able to feed and clothe her and have a roof > over her > >head instead of staying home and living on welfare. > Did you think any of this through BEFORE you decided to have a > child? > Jana

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It wasn’t a solution to the particular question asked.  Someone wanted easy to make meals, not a lecture on working outside the home.  Besides which, this SAH v. WOH has been hashed and rehashed and then, hashed and rehashed over and over and over again.  It’s so old that it’s not proposing any solutions to anyone.  It’s just an opportunity for some to judge others choices and claim that they are wrong. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Jana, > This initial post was about getting recipes for easy and quick meals. > You turn > around and attack someone’s choice to be a working mom.  This group is > called > parenting solutions.  Maybe you ought to go elsewhere. > Maddy > Is choosing to stay home and raise your children on a full time basis > not a parenting solution? Does discussion of this option not belong on a > group called parenting solutions, especially when parents ask for ways > to solve the problem of too much to do and too little time? If not, can > you explain why not? > marcie > > X-No-Archive: Yes > > >And you know my current lifestyle to be???  I would be more than > happy if > > >you could tell me how to put food on the table, make a car payment, > make a > > >house payment, pay for all of my daughter’s doctor visits and mine, > gas for > > >the car, etc. etc. and stay home.  If I could stay home I would.  I > would > > >love to be with my daughter every day all day.  But I find at this > point I > > >would much rather be able to feed and clothe her and have a roof > over her > > >head instead of staying home and living on welfare. > > Did you think any of this through BEFORE you decided to have a > child? > > Jana

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> It wasn’t a solution to the particular question asked.  Someone wanted > easy > to make meals, not a lecture on working outside the home. > Besides which, > this SAH v. WOH has been hashed and rehashed and then, hashed and > rehashed > over and over and over again.

Given that this is a parenting group, I would expect this issue to be hashed and rehashed over and over again. I assume that there are other subjects which also tend to recur many times. Toilet training for example, or breast feeding, or various other issues which new parents face and come here to discuss. Why is the stay at home vs working debate shut off when these others are not? Surely all points of view on all topics about children and child-rearing should be welcome on a parenting newsgroup. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->  It’s so old that it’s not proposing any > solutions to anyone.  It’s just an opportunity for some to judge > others > choices and claim that they are wrong. > > Jana, > > This initial post was about getting recipes for easy and quick > meals. > > You turn > > around and attack someone’s choice to be a working mom.  This > group is > > called > > parenting solutions.  Maybe you ought to go elsewhere. > > Maddy > Is choosing to stay home and raise your children on a full time > basis > not a parenting solution? Does discussion of this option not belong > on a > group called parenting solutions, especially when parents ask for > ways > to solve the problem of too much to do and too little time? If not, > can > you explain why not? > marcie > > > X-No-Archive: Yes > > > >And you know my current lifestyle to be???  I would be more > than > > happy if > > > >you could tell me how to put food on the table, make a car > payment, > > make a > > > >house payment, pay for all of my daughter’s doctor visits and > mine, > > gas for > > > >the car, etc. etc. and stay home.  If I could stay home I > would.  I > > would > > > >love to be with my daughter every day all day.  But I find at > this > > point I > > > >would much rather be able to feed and clothe her and have a > roof > > over her > > > >head instead of staying home and living on welfare. > > > Did you think any of this through BEFORE you decided to have a > > child? > > > Jana

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>It wasn’t a solution to the particular question asked.  Someone wanted easy >to make meals, not a lecture on working outside the home.

Whenever someone complains that they don’t like a particular thread, they are told to just skip over it.  That’s fine and I agree with that.  However, it would be nice to label the thread what it is so one would know what to skip over.  This is Quick Meal Recipes not a SAHWOH thread.   Linda C.

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A friend of ours spends a few hours at one time each week preparing meals ahead of time (casseroles and/or chopping things ahead of time) so that it can be thrown together quickly when needed.   – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I am just looking for meals that dont take a long time to prepare(30 > mins) but are still nutrional.  I dont get home until after 6pm and need > to get the cooking done fast so I can get my children baths and get them > in bed.  (My husband works nights so he isnt home to help).  Any > suggestions.

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>I am just looking for meals that dont take a long time to prepare(30 >mins) but are still nutrional.  I dont get home until after 6pm and need >to get the cooking done fast so I can get my children baths and get them >in bed.  (My husband works nights so he isnt home to help).  Any >suggestions.

Pasta with sauteed vegetables (sliced courgettes, leeks, onion) & tomato sauce (tinned tomatoes chopped into the pan + generous tsp of tomato paste) topped with grated cheese. Throw in a can of of chick peas or other beans to make it substantial. Use fresh chopped or dried herbs to season. Cheese sauce almost as quick, use with quickly boiled or microwaved broccoli Cheese and potato pie: Layer of sauteed leeks topped with mashed & creamed boiled potatoes mixed with grated cheese. Flash under the grill. Serve with salad or tinned baked beans. Keep a selection of pies & quiches in the freezer, either homemade at the weekends or shopbought. Defrost during the day, 30 mins in the oven at dinnertime & while it’s heating through, boil some potatoes & green veg. Ditto bread rolls and homemade burgers, with salad. If you can afford it, buy an electric slow cooker. It’s a bit of a fag preparing the food the night before or in the mornings (I never have the time) but you can make soups and stews and leave them cooking all day, ready to eat as soon as you come in. I cook all of these except the burgers most weeks. I get in at 6pm and aim to be eating by 6.30. If Jess is eating well, we still have time for 20 minutes play before bedtime. Pat.    

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 My husband also works nights, so, like you, I look for ways to speed up the evening routine.  A quick  meal my kids like is macaroni and cheese, which I serve with carrot sticks, cherry tomatoes, apple slices, or whatever fruit or veggie we have on hand.  My kids prefer raw salad veggies to cooked ones, which saves me time and washing an extra pot!  Another quickie is chicken breasts, which bake in the oven (at 400 degrees) in about 10 minutes (a bit longer if you haven’t defrosted them first), and French bread which takes only about 8 minutes.  We buy the baby carrots in bags, so I don’t even have to do the scraping and slicing.  I haven’t tried them, but you can also get frozen chicken nuggets which I believe cook up very quickly.   – Do your kids like soups?  And peanutbutter sandwiches are always available.  Scrambled eggs!  Corned beef hash from the can, fried up in a few minutes!  With the cut-up veggies or fruits, just about anything you could make for a quick lunch, or even breakfast, does just as well for supper.  I have even served Cheerios.     As for the baths, most of the time that isn’t necessary every day. Unless my kids have been out rolling in the dirt or have gotten sweaty in the summertime, I bathe them only about twice a week, which does nicely. We use the flushable wipes at toilet time with our 5-yr-old. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I am just looking for meals that dont take a long time to prepare(30 > mins) but are still nutrional.  I dont get home until after 6pm and need > to get the cooking done fast so I can get my children baths and get them > in bed.  (My husband works nights so he isnt home to help).  Any > suggestions.

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Pasta is a quick, filling base for all kinds of things. To save every minute, get angel hair or the fresh stuff in the refrigerated section; it cooks in three or four minutes once the water’s boiling. Toss your pasta with: those (relatively) cheap little shrimp, sauteed with onion and garlic, fresh tomato, cilantro or what have you. Cut-up boneless chicken (some supermarkets sell it already cut up for stir-fry, but you can save a little cutting your own) seasoned as you prefer. We’ve recently been using some of those Asian rice pastas; some of those need only be soaked in hot water for a few minutes. Again, shrimp or chicken can be sauteed and mixed with it. We also like Asian noodles and peanut sauce, with or without chicken.  I’ll send you a recipe for the sauce if you’re interested — you make it with peanut butter and coconut milk; you can whip it together while the water’s boiling. When I’m REALLY in a hurry, there’s good old marinara sauce from a jar. You can get some tasty pre-cooked turkey meatballs in the freezer section of our store; microwave ‘em and add ‘em to the sauce. Or for a gourmet touch: add a can of clams!

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Well Jana aren’t you special. Carefull you dont fall off that high horse of yours. And how great you are in a financial situation to make such a sacrifice. Are you the Pres or Vp of Narrow Minded Thinkers? MJ – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> X-No-Archive: Yes > I dont get home until after 6pm and need >to get the cooking done fast so I can get my children baths and get them >in bed.   > This must be that "quality time" that working parents believe is a > suitable alternative to the "quantity" of time that we at-home parents > spend with our kids. > Jana (who sacrificed her career instead of her children)

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It is narrow-minded because some of us just can not afford to stay home. Why should we have to sacrifice just because we will not be able to stay home with them?  The working mom’s want kids too you know. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >X-No-Archive: Yes >If taking responsibility for raising my children instead of hiring >someone else to do it for me makes me special, then I guess I am >special.  Why is it "narrow minded" to believe that if you choose to >have children you should also raise them? >Jana

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I think your narrow mindedness stems from the fact that you believe only non-working moms "raise" their children.  I work and am still "raising" my child. Maddy – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > X-No-Archive: Yes > If taking responsibility for raising my children instead of hiring > someone else to do it for me makes me special, then I guess I am > special.  Why is it "narrow minded" to believe that if you choose to > have children you should also raise them? > Jana >Well Jana aren’t you special. Carefull you dont fall off that high horse of >yours. And how great you are in a financial situation to make such a >sacrifice. Are you the Pres or Vp of Narrow Minded Thinkers? >MJ >> X-No-Archive: Yes >> > I dont get home until after 6pm and need >> >to get the cooking done fast so I can get my children baths and get them >> >in bed. >> This must be that "quality time" that working parents believe is a >> suitable alternative to the "quantity" of time that we at-home parents >> spend with our kids. >> Jana (who sacrificed her career instead of her children)

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I can’t believe that a thread about Quick Meal Recipes has turned into a SOHWOH war.  Man, are there posters just sitting around reading through every post with the hopes of being able to slam the poster because heshe works or heshe doesn’t work??   I went into this thread today wondering if there were any true "Quick and Easy" meal recipes to try.  Guess I’m out of luck today. Linda C.

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>You could try one of the cooking newsgroups. >Jana

My sister belonged to a cooking newsgroup.  I might try that.  I never did before because I’m a klutz in the kitchen and I always figured that people who subscribed to a cooking newsgroup were pretty preficient in cooking – what would be easy for them would not be so easy for me.  But there might be some healthy, quick and easy recipes that even I could manage.   Thanks for the idea.  Too bad this thread, though, had to take a nasty turn. Oh well… Linda C.

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