Pure Parents

Question:

> It sounds to me like she needs more supervision. > Maybe more planned activities? > I hate the idea of the youngest one getting beat up on- are they left > alone together often? > I sympathize- my oldest is a handful and is also always wanting to get > into things in the kitchen. Letting her do crafts and help me cook > seems to help some.

LOL!  The last time I had her doing crafts (and I really thought that this was funny at the time) she tried to use the glue to glue herself to the floor…  One of these days the kids are going to figure out how to glue themselves together.  I  just hope that they don’t use SuperGlue! > As much as you need your sleep- it seems dangerous for them to be awake > and alone in the mornings. Can you get some help in the house? > Have a relative to come and stay for a while- or pay a college student > to help you out?

I wish.  We moved a year ago and we have no family here.  When we moved I also lost our teenage helper.  Find someone to help with the kids…The irony of this is we can’t even find anyone to watch the kids when I go into labor and the baby is due any day now.  Looks like my husband is going to have to drop me off at the hospital and come home with the kids…  Like I told someone that emailed me, there are no teenagers in our neighborhoond. Everyone is either retired or has elm age kids or younger. > Is she in preschool or kindergarden?

Homeschooling. > Maybe that would channel her energy better. > There is a book- "parenting the strong willed child"

Have it. I also have a psychological resentment problem with this book (at least I admit it).  I would really like to tell the person who originally recomended it to me to shove…never mind.  Right after our second child was born I went through a bout of what I was told was PPD.  I think that there might have been more to it than that just because of the situation surrounding the depression.  Anyway, the psych. that I went to tried to tell my husband and myself that our oldest child (who was 16 mo. at the time) was an ADD child, was the root of all the problems in our house, all the problems in our marriage (this woman imagined problems that my husband and I have never had…in fact, there has never been anything more than really minor things that cause tiffs around here – and when you sit back and look at them, they are really stupid things and not worth getting worked up over anyway), the cause of my depression since I couldn’t handle her and all this other crap.  She told me I "needed" this book in order to raise our oldest child.  How in the hell can anyone say that a 16 mo. old has ADD to begin with?  The child is 6 now and shows no signs of anything except maybe being arguementive and opinonated.  Then again, what 6 year old isn’t?  I would be more worried if she were complacent. > by Rex Forehand and Nicholas Long.  It has helped me some with my 4y.o. > You can get it on Amazon.com > Good luck.  I think parenting is the hardest job in the world!

I seen a cross-stitch kit that I wanted to get that was a picture of a bear family and the little bears were doing all kids of irratating kid things. It said on there "Parenting….it’s not just a job, it’s an adventure".  No kidding.  I am just thankful that I only have one child like this. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> J > Before you buy.

Response:

We have a friend that has triplets (they are 16 or 17 now).  I will have to ask about this. It is cute. Georga – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > A triplet mom friend of mine has a wooden plaque of a hen in her kitchen. > On it, it says: > RAISING KIDS IS LIKE BEING SLOWLY PECKED TO DEATH BY A CHICKEN. > Hope that raises a small smile. > Hang in there — my guess is *you* are exhausted and once the baby is born > things will (very slowly) improve. > Hugs. > –Janet > Elliot, Hanna, Connor  (10/21/96) > I seen a cross-stitch kit that I wanted to get that was a picture of a > bear > family and the little bears were doing all kids of irratating kid things. > It said on there "Parenting….it’s not just a job, it’s an adventure". > No > kidding.  I am just thankful that I only have one child like this. > > J > > Before you buy.

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LOL! Yea, I know.  I am convinced on given days that my children walk that fine line between genius and insane :0). At least we now have the mess confinded to one area of the house istead of the entire place!  Much safer for everyone involved. The thing that I am having a problem with at the moment (this is todays crisis) is that one of the older children (Still can’t find out which of the two did this, everyone is blaming everyone else) through a milk crate (that is used for Waffle Block storage) at the four year old and hit her in the face.  She has 4 bruises and one cut on her from it.  She looks like she is the victim of abuse.  It is crap like this that bothers me more than the mess in the room.  The mess in the bedroom only bothers me in the fact that only one child cleans up when everyone is involved in making it (fairness thing with me on that one). Georga – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> However, I just > can’t seem to get them to clean up their room now… > Georga > Georga, you’ve been in this ng for long enough to know > that not cleaning up their room is the a.p.s. standard > for being gifted! > — >